It does help talking to someone who understands. I have a sister and do not tell her everything that goes on. She will hate my daughter. I do not want that. I agree that when you say little, it helps. When she is not civil or rude, I too try not to take her calls or texts. When she curses at me, I tell her that I will not respond to anyone who speaks with disrespect. What you say is true for me too but sad... I don't have the relationship I want with her but I too try to keep it quiet. That is the most heartbreaking of all, that I don't have a relationship with my daughter and that she has no compassion or respect for me or for what I may feel or go through. To me this is the most heartbreaking of all. I do hope you will stay in touch. Having someone who really understands helps.

I read what you have written and think that you are living my life. I love my daughter and have also done everything for her. She is disrespectful, mean, and hateful. I have given her slack as she lost her brother, and only sibling 3 years ago, he was my son. Her father who was a loser died 18 months before that. I know that I am letting her take advantage of me. It is like being 13 years old and wanting people to like or love me so much that I am willing to totally degrade myself. I have been pulling away, setting limits, and cutting the financial chains. Perhaps someday we can have a true relationship. If this relationship was with anyone else, all of us would have cut this off a long time ago.

Renee, that was heartfelt and well written, but you deserve your own thread, so that people can hear your story from the
Beginning of it. I doubt too that the other women from 1 or 2 years ago are still connected to this thread.