Ask Me Help Desk

Ask Me Help Desk (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forum.php)
-   Parenting (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forumdisplay.php?f=248)
-   -   Is it OK for my boyfriend to sleep in the same bed with his 15 yr old ex step daughte (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/showthread.php?t=488417)

  • Jul 17, 2010, 05:26 PM
    Kitkat22

    If he continues to sleep with her you might need to talk with her and let her know if it doesn't stop you will tell her mother and her real father! I would be livivd!

    Even though she is old enough to know better, I blame the step father for being so open to it.
    You need to think twice about what you're getting into.
  • Jul 17, 2010, 05:32 PM
    martinizing2

    I would tell her real father if possible.
    If I found out a stepfather was sleeping with my daughter he would contract lead poisoning . 240 grains moving at 1800 fps. There is no cure.
  • Jul 17, 2010, 05:39 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by martinizing2 View Post
    I would tell her real father if possible.
    If I found out a stepfather was sleeping with my daughter he would contract lead poisoning . 240 grains moving at 1800 fps. There is no cure.

    Whoa! LOL... Yes:eek:
  • Jul 17, 2010, 05:43 PM
    J_9

    There is another thread on here about this, and it was found that the father and daughter WERE sleeping together. I just can't find that thread.
  • Jul 17, 2010, 05:45 PM
    cdad
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by martinizing2 View Post
    I would tell her real father if possible.
    If I found out a stepfather was sleeping with my daughter he would contract lead poisoning . 240 grains moving at 1800 fps. There is no cure.

    Not to hyjack this thread but there is a gun thread should you ever want to discuss self defense ammo.

    Shameless plug:

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...ad-481412.html
  • Jul 17, 2010, 05:50 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    Not to hyjack this thread but there is a gun thread should you ever want to discuss self defense ammo.

    Shameless plug:

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...ad-481412.html




    Hey... I'll buy that. LOL really I am LOL:D
  • Jul 17, 2010, 07:36 PM
    martinizing2

    I love shameless plugs... or most anything shameless.
    I'll check it out.
  • Jul 17, 2010, 08:59 PM
    Jake2008
    I think the biggest clue here, is that this 15 year old ex step-daughter, is not his biological child.

    He keeps her to himself, and you are not allowed to be around when she's there.

    And you need to ask if this is wrong?

    Get on the phone immediately, and call this child's mother, and tell her that her ex husband is sleeping with HER daughter, and you are not even allowed around when she is there.

    My guess is that this arrangement is sexual, whether it is consentual does not matter; she is an underage female, of no relation to him.

    Please, please please do the right thing here and report this to the CPS if you are in the US or the CAS if you are in Canada. Allow them to investigate this by talking to the 15 year old, and the unrelated adult, AND the child's mother.

    If there is anything to this, and I'd bet my left foot there is, then the mother will at least have some clout when it comes to allowing this 'visitation' to continue.

    You need to do the right thing.

    Then, as far as you are concerned, and your son, I think that part is obvious. Too many red flags to ignore the obvious here.

    I would get the hell out.
  • Jul 17, 2010, 09:05 PM
    Kitkat22

    I think he's a sleazy slimeball. You need to report him. Today if possible. He is probably the reason his first wife left him.

    You can have him checked out. But before you do get this situation with the stepdaughter
    Under control and then leave him.

    He's a perv.
  • Jul 24, 2010, 06:57 AM
    ScottGem

    I'm with Jake here. This is not a man you want a relationship with, even if he gets her a bed of her own.

    This should be reported to Children's services IMMEDIATELY. While not incest since she's not his biological child, it smacks of pedophilia.

    And the fact that a 15 yr old is sexually active is another issue.
  • Jul 24, 2010, 07:32 AM
    jmjoseph

    You are not allowed to stay the night when she is in town because his sexual appetite is being fed.

    She gets defensive because you are her competition.

    It's not about the bed. There can be ten other beds in that house, and she wouldn't use them because HE isn't in them.

    This is not only unnatural, it's illegal, immoral, and sickening.

    She is sexually active, and he is her special "teacher".

    You are jealous of a child in your lover's bed. Not HIS child, but one to whom he has taken advantage of.

    Yes, he needs to be arrested. He needs to be some inmates' partner.

    It sounds like MOST of us here agree with this being wrong. I wonder why that is?

    Because most "normal" people cringe at the thought of what's happening in that house, to make you uninvited on those weekends.

    I agree with contacting her biological father. I hope he owns a gun shop.

    Sorry, but wrong is wrong. Especially when children are involved.

    Get out while you can.
  • Jul 24, 2010, 08:09 AM
    JudyKayTee

    Does anyone remember - what was his name? Lived in California, kept posting about sexual relationships with children, was arrested, Police seized his computer, his postings on AMHD were discovered. He's still in jail (last I heard).

    He quoted the Bible, too.

    Whether sexual contact with children is desirable, legal or anything in between is a matter for a discussion thread, not this board.

    I would suggest this thread either be moved OR closed - it's all been said at least once.

  • All times are GMT -7. The time now is 06:10 PM.