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  • Apr 30, 2009, 07:44 PM
    Fuzzball_Kara

    You're missing out on so much! Education is golden if you want to get that job you want. I don't think any person on this earth can stress how important getting your education is... It is REALLY REALLY important. Too important to mess up so early!
  • Apr 30, 2009, 07:44 PM
    nikosmom
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by MRSMiLLS View Post
    FiNiSHiNG SCHOOL iS N0THiNG i HAVE HElP...[THAT'S WHAT FAM[iLY] iS F0R...SUPP0RTiNG ME &ND THE CHiLD iS WHAT MY J0B iS F0R &ND FAM[iLY]...NiK0S M0M..THANKS F0R THE ADViCE...i UNDERSTAND...

    I'm glad you're listening...

    We're speaking from experience... Even when you have a great pool of resources (supportive family, money saved, committed partnership)... it's still a very rough road.

    Children are a drain. They are loving, little bundles of joy also. But they take everything you have. And you have to give it- willingly.

    Even in a 2 parent household, where both parents are well-educated and have good-paying jobs- it's still very difficult. So enjoy being young and save the grown-up worries until... well until you're a grown-up. It will come soon enough.
  • Apr 30, 2009, 07:45 PM
    MRSMiLLS
    I understand but that d0nt mean just cause y0u have a g00d j0b &nd all that y0u c0uld take care 0f a child i kn0w a 15 year 0ld her &nd her baby are d0ing g00d... age d0esnt determin h0w g00d 0r a pearnt y0u are... l00kin at the age is what i think m0st 0f y0u are d0ing if i was a 22yr 0ld i think i w0uld get different answers &nd y0u never kn0w a 22 year 0ld c0uld be living the life 0f a 16 yr 0ld what y0u all think meaning they c0uld n0t be able t0 supp0t the child i kn0e that there are al0t 0f expences im n0t l00kin f0r s0m0ne t0 resue me but every0ne needs help at a certain p0int... s0 that's n0t the case yes his family like's me al0t acually &nd i d0 believe that i cn be a great m0ther
  • Apr 30, 2009, 07:46 PM
    Sam_Felgen

    Wanting a child so early is really stupid.

    My mum said the same when she was 16 but she didn't do it. She didn't even marry the guy she wanted to have the child with. She had me when she was 31 and she was glad that she waited. She realized if she had a child that young she wouldn't be able to finish school or go out with friends and have a good time for like the first 5 years because she'd have to take care of me. She also wasn't that well off with money. As it has been explained babies cost heaps, probably more then you know.
  • Apr 30, 2009, 07:46 PM
    danielnoahsmommy

    I guess you have your mind made up so why write here... unless you are doubting yourself?
  • Apr 30, 2009, 07:50 PM
    MRSMiLLS
    mum45 &nd nik0sm0m i thank you... the rest are just yelling it &nd having attitude that's why im really n0t paying them any attenti0n &nd bl0win what they saying 0ff thank's you t00... i kn0w it's n0t up t0 every0ne else t0 supp0rt me &nd my child &nd it's n0t like im saying that that's g0in t0 be always cause it's n0t... &nd this is just h0w i type.. im n0t yelling!!
  • Apr 30, 2009, 07:51 PM
    nikosmom

    This is not just about your age... but yes it does factor into it. At 16 you are limited in what you can do for your child. You can only work certain type jobs due to limited education. Also with age comes maturity.

    Yes, we've come across some immature 22 year olds and the advice stands. A baby is not just "something to do because you like kids". But it is very unlikely that you and this young man will be together until you're old and gray. If I'm wrong, then there'd be no harm in waiting a few years.
  • Apr 30, 2009, 07:52 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Well you should have paid attention to my nice warning about your typing,

    This post closed for failure to obey site rules.

    Fr Chuck moderator

    If you want to ask another question do so without all caps.

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