I've suggested a cleaner for when I leave and my mom said she doesn't need one... I just don't understand why she's happy with such a selfish oaf...

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Originally Posted by TwinkletOes26

ive suggested a cleaner for when i leave and my mom said she doesnt need one...i just dont understand why shes happy with such a selfish oaf...

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It's not your place to understand. It's your place to show mature restraint and only give advice to mom and stepdad when it's asked for. Their relationship dynamic and division of labor (even if mom is doing 100%) is only your business when they invite you to comment.

If you really MUST continue to voice your dissatisfaction over things that aren't your business, make sure you are safely situated somewhere you can live. If you keep this up mom may get a backbone and stick up for herself... and not by punishing stepdad, by punishing YOU. It's a very real possibility.

It's not your place to understand. It's your place to show mature restraint and only give advice to mom and stepdad when it's asked for. Their relationship dynamic and division of labor (even if mom is doing 100%) is only your business when they invite you to comment.

She does invite me to comment when she comes to me w/her problems with him... and its also my place to not want my poor sick mother who now has a hurt knee to have to over exhert herself because her oaf of a husband won't help. Im sorry but when it comes to my mama I will comment if I feel she's being mistreated.

I think this topic has gone for long enough and should be stopped. Twinklet has already enough advice from people coming at the last minute, and NOT READING ALL THE POSTS THAT HAVE GONE BEFORE.

Sorry, twinklet, but as an ultra member I really have to try and put a stop to the advice at this point, otherwise, you will be reading it like for the next year ! I stand by my moniker, "when life hands you scaps, make a quilt'. Think about that one. I had too, many times. PM if you have too, love.

Tickle
The proper way to close a thread, would be to stop posting, and let it die. If you notice most are never closed for a while, and open to comment and or opinion. That's the purpose of an open forum, and especially this one. Others who come behind you later, can also benefit from the comments, and opinions as well. If the OP has had enough advice, then so be it, but its customary to leave them open. If others make mistakes, and don't read the whole post, tell them so they may learn, but to say close it, because you as an ultra member deem it so, may be your opinion, but not your authority. There are other ways to defend the OP besides assuming authority you don't have. Sorry I was assuming that's what you were doing.

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tickle agrees: thanks, point taken,

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I appreciate your open mindness. thanks.

It can be very annoying the way people do things, like not rinsing dishes or picking up after themselves, but it is true that if you aren't paying rent that you might as well just deal with it. It is OK to vent and it is even nice sometimes when you are at your wits end. Just wait till you have little kids around who can't pick up after themselves at all.