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  • Dec 31, 2005, 06:45 PM
    nwsflash
    It seems to have something to do with the thing that appears at the top of each posting! Where you can leave feed back on peoples comments on the post that you have left.

    Im still new ere hope that has helped you a little.
  • Dec 31, 2005, 06:50 PM
    manutd4eva
    Yea cheers but I haven't had any bad ratings is it because my little status thing has changed?

    Happy new yr 2 every 1
  • Dec 31, 2005, 06:54 PM
    nwsflash
    It could be too do with that I'm not 100%! I know that someone ere will be able to offer a direct ans.

    Happy New Year Too All
    May 2006 See Every One Reach There Dreams
  • Jan 11, 2006, 07:18 AM
    augustknight
    The way I brought my kids was firstly to make the distinction between porn and human sexuality. Naked people pre se is not porn, the sex act is. We didn't comment or squirm when the occasional nudity would come up in a movie. We did not hide our bodies coming out of the shower, nor did we parade around, as you would in a locker room. No comments, no explanation. My mother was so repressive that if a bra commercial came on the TV she would change the channel. I don't feel that had any negative affect on me either, I felt it was her problem.
    The problem with children viewing the sex act is that because of their limited experience it may well appear that what is happening is an act of aggression. A man is pinning down a woman, she is making distressing noises, they are in a violent tussel. That's what they see, not an intimate act between lovers. They are simply not ready to wholly understand what is happening. We don't teach algebra before we set the foundation with a solid mathmatics course. Things should come in progression so children and young adults can use the information they have to climb to the next tier on the ladder. Porn is like trigonometry to a first grader. They will not understand it, they will get frustrated and some may even act out.
    All things in their time. Porn is far more than simply sex. When a person is emotionally capable of making the distinction between fantasy and reality than they are ready to begin to understand that porn is an entertainment venue and not a 'how-to' course.
  • Jan 18, 2006, 05:55 PM
    spyyder
    hmmm
    Ok I didn't make this post.. just a joke by friends... sorry.

    LOl.. my rep has become so low = red. Oh well.
  • Jan 19, 2006, 10:48 AM
    manutd4eva
    At the age of 7??
  • Jan 19, 2006, 11:00 AM
    NeedKarma
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by spyyder
    Ok all my life i have been a very 'natural' person.. so i was thinking of introducing sex to my child (assuming that i have one) in a natural way.

    I think i will bring my child to my partner and i. I will then have sex with my partner in front of my child (id say... at the age of 7 or so). Then i will show how natural the whole process is. Obviously I wont let the child anywhere near us, but just in a close enough distance to see what magic we are doing.

    Whats your view on this??? I know it may sound sick.. but think of it in a friendly, natural and loving way.

    i think this is what all parents should do.

    I'm going to go with the "it sounds sick" option.
  • Jan 19, 2006, 12:17 PM
    nwsflash
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by spyyder
    I think i will bring my child to my partner and i. I will then have sex with my partner in front of my child (id say... at the age of 7 or so). Then i will show how natural the whole process is. Obviously I wont let the child anywhere near us, but just in a close enough distance to see what magic we are doing.

    This is totally wrong and I'm very pleased you say you do not have kids, because if you start doing things like that in front of them, your *** and your girlfriend *** will hit the jail before you could blink.

    What you are talking about is called:mad: CHILD ABUSE !!!! simple as that.
  • Jan 19, 2006, 12:43 PM
    RickJ
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by spyyder
    I will then have sex with my partner in front of my child (id say... at the age of 7 or so).

    Personally, I think a very bad idea.

    Plus, I cannot say for sure, but I am 99% sure that this would be viewed as illegal in most states.

    Anyone know for sure?
  • Jan 19, 2006, 12:51 PM
    orange
    Yes I would assume it would be illegal, something along the lines of "exposing yourself to a minor" or "contributing to the deliquency of a minor" or something like that. And besides, it's sick and disgusting. :mad:
  • Jan 19, 2006, 01:47 PM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by spyyder
    Ok all my life i have been a very 'natural' person.. so i was thinking of introducing sex to my child (assuming that i have one) in a natural way.

    I think i will bring my child to my partner and i. I will then have sex with my partner in front of my child (id say... at the age of 7 or so). Then i will show how natural the whole process is. Obviously I wont let the child anywhere near us, but just in a close enough distance to see what magic we are doing.

    Whats your view on this??? I know it may sound sick.. but think of it in a friendly, natural and loving way.

    i think this is what all parents should do.

    I'd wait. The best thing to do is never lie to your kids, or force them to listen to you if they are not interested in a subject yet. Once their little minds are ready to formulate a question and express it, then it's time to tell them (or show them), but until then, you'd be giving them too much to work with in their little brains and they might take it wrong. I always waited until my child asked, then was ready for a truthful answer, because truth is the only thing that will give you respect later on - as once caught in a lie - they will never forget for the rest of their lives and then not trust those who they should trust and go to first - their parents.

    Good Luck.



    http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_33_7.gifAnimals and kids have a lot in common, they observe their surroundings.
  • Jan 19, 2006, 03:07 PM
    nwsflash
    Against The Law
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by rickj
    Personally, I think a very bad idea.

    Plus, I cannot say for sure, but I am 99% sure that this would be viewed as illegal in most states.

    Anyone know for sure?

    I think that this would be treated as illegal across the world, as you would be doing a sex act in front of minors, which in plain terms is "CHILD ABUSE" even if as was stated the kids would form no part of the act, law enforcement would have too act to remove the children for there own safety.

    In the world today kids seem not to stay innocent long as they seem to grow before there years, so we should up hold to keep them aware of the world and dangers but at least let them keep there innocents, and having sex in front of them, I'm sorry that is just very wrong.
  • Jan 20, 2006, 06:31 AM
    nymphetamine
    Yes it is illegal. Dss would take the child in a heart beat if they found out someone did that. That's very tramatizing for the child to see something like that also. They will learn about that on their own when they get older. They don't need to see their parents do it to understand it.
  • Jan 20, 2006, 06:53 AM
    mommaveloso
    I am just worried that you might have kids, and you might really do this.. don't you realize that kids minds are like sponges.. and what you teach them and show them stays with them for life... and these kids {assuming you have any} would have to go through therapy after that ordeal.. do you really want to do that to your kids.. are you really that insane to abuse your children like that? Because that is what it is.. abuse...
    Not to mention the poor woman you will drag into this.. what mother would allow this to happen? {assuming you find a woman that would let you do this to her child} she too will be in therapy! You are going to make some doctor real rich!
  • Jan 20, 2006, 01:08 PM
    Chery
    I agree with you and Crankiebabie
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mommaveloso
    i am just worried that you might have kids, and you might really do this.. dont you realize that kids minds are like sponges.. and what you teach them and show them stays with them for life... and these kids {assuming you have any} would have to go through therapy after that ordeal.. do you really want to do that to your kids.. are you really that insane to abuse your children like that? because that is what it is.. abuse...
    not to mention the poor woman you will drag into this.. what mother would allow this to happen? {assuming you find a woman that would let you do this to her child} she too will be in therapy! you are gonna make some doctor real rich!

    It's best to wait until the child shows curiosity in a subject and then bring it up in an educational and caring way. That's what parents are for. They should provide proper guidance for their children as best as possible before they get the wrong information out in the streets. You can tell by reading several posts on 'motherhood' and 'relationships' that the young folks today don't trust their parents to ask the questions they should at home. Try to convince your child that you love him/her enough to broach any subject without blowing up, and gain their trust. At least that way you will have a certain amount of control over their future safety. Some things will always remain personal - remember your past and just try to prevent them from making the mistakes (if any) that you made, by thinking ahead and getting educated on the issues of this decade as much as possible.

    By the way, this thread started with the subject of 'child porn' and somehow got off the subject a little - now it's into the education part - which should be handled by responsible adults in order to prevent those future perverts from exploiting our kids.

    http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_9_16.gifA parent's job is to nurture, love and protect as best as we can. Good luck to all - it's the hardest job in the world, but worth it.
  • Jan 20, 2006, 01:40 PM
    manutd4eva
    I agree with these answers - let them learn themselves as they get older that's abuse what u said
  • Jan 22, 2006, 10:42 AM
    orange
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by spyyder
    Ok i didn't make this post.. just a joke by friends... sorry.

    LOl.. my rep has become so low = red. Oh well.

    Well I hope you told your friends that that's a pretty sick joke! People on this board really care about children! I'd be really angry with them if I were you... AND I'd change my password and not let anyone else know it. You're the only one who should be posting with your username. Otherwise it's like posing as someone else.

    Anyway I'm glad it wasn't you who posted that.
  • Mar 4, 2006, 09:54 AM
    why_me
    I don't think a child should be introduced to anything pertaining to porn. I believe in my heart it will severely misguide them and they will not grow up the proper respect towards the subject. Ex... a young boy introduced to it early on may grow up to assume all women are loose and willing to submit to any and all sexual advances.. that more than one partner is okay... and most of all... does porn promote safe sex? Not to my knowledge you don't see people in porns wearing condoms do you? Wrong messege to kids.
  • Mar 5, 2006, 09:54 AM
    fredg
    Hi,
    This question is 5 months old!

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