That's right, as you can only control yourself, and what you do. The rest you have to cope with, the best way you can. Same rules apply to us all.

Simple really. And very logical.

Does coping involve toleration or acceptance? For example, if you disagree with a partner. Toleration simply seems unhealthy.

Tolerance is simply the understanding and acceptance of them being who they are and over which you have no control.

Its okay to be different, we all are in one way or another. Even with your partner, what's wrong if they see, and do things differently? That's their right, and choice. Deal with it, or you don't. You have to draw your own lines of good orderly direction, and no, you don't have to accept what you don't want to.

I have to tell you though that great relationship require great tolerance, because it's the tribulations and hard times that bring you closer, or split you apart. It often comes down with how well, or how willing you are to cope with the bad parts of your partner.

If you think you and another will agree on everything all the time, boy are you in for the shock of your life. It just doesn't work that way. Heck, for that matter none of us is perfect, but some of us are compatible.

Wonderfully said Tal. You are the bomb!

Thank You Alty, :)

Yeah, I can't expect others to be ideal. However, like you said, there are lines of good orderly direction. I think that I should wait awhile before looking again because it seems most at my age are still lost and experimenting. Thanks again! :)

I won't continue the counter arguments that seem to be going on here,it doesn't seem to be getting through, however I will say that each individual was born of free will to do as they wish in their life,to choose what they wish to continue to do or not as the case maybe.What a wonderful world we live in just to be given the choice.I personally think everyone should experience everything they can in this life... we are not in rehearsals,we only get one chance,so go for it I say.

People drink and hang out with friends in college because it's fun. They want to be around other people and have a good time. It's partly the ritual of men and women meeting, making friends. We aren't all loners.

Not everyone who drinks gets drunk, etc. Some people are excessive or immature, so they do things to extreme. But don't assume that because someone lets loose on the weekend, they aren't just as impactful in school and future ambitions as you are.

I knew a lot of people in college, myself included, who busted our backs in our classes all week, and even on weekends until quite late, then when we'd studied all we could stand, would get together and hit the bars to socialize and have a few beers. WE all did extremely well in school and our futures, and we also had full social lives.