I am in an abusive marriage with a Christian... I plan to leave and divorce soon... will I be doomed for a divorce?
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I am in an abusive marriage with a Christian... I plan to leave and divorce soon... will I be doomed for a divorce?
God would not want you to stay in a marriage where a man abuses you. In my opinion God is a loving and forgiving God who wants nothing but happiness for his followers.
I am almost positive that abuse is one of the very few acceptions to getting a divorce. So no, you're not going to be doomed. God wouldn't want you suffering:)
god is all forgiving, it is not a sin to leave abuse.
In fact your church may even be able to help you get out of this abusive situation. I know my church often did help financially as well as emotionally.
No you will not be doomed to hell for leaving a destructive, possibly deadly relationship. Your husband, I must say is NOT a Christian if he does these things to you and HE may be doomed to hell.
But not you dear.
Good lord... if your marriage is abusive, you need to get OUT of it.
Any god that would doom you to hell for getting yourself away from something evil is a horrible god not worthy of following, wouldn't you think?
No *good* god would condemn you for leaving an abusive marriage
Thank you all- I've stayed for 3 1/2 years because of distorted religious views and opinions and brainwashing from my husband. Was just interested in what others believed.
Hun, this man is NOT a Christian if he lays one hand on you and don't you believe a word he says.
He can abuse you mentally as well as physically. One can be as bad as the other. Never let ayone use the bible to make you put up with abuse. Please leave and start a new peaceful life. Good luck
Someone may call me sexist for this comment but in my opinion woman is more important then man for various reasons and my other advisor's are right you will not be damed to hell for saving yourself from an god would probable smile on you for proving that woman are not just mans tool
Well since there is no such thing as hell that should not one of your worries. Take care of yourself and shrug off all the religion crap.
Sweety, I wasn't replying to you, I was replying to the OP.
My apologies, but I still think the way you said that was pretty rude...
Just because you may divorce this man does not place you in Hell. Abuse is not allowed in the law and if your husband would read the New Testament, the Apostle Paul tells the man that he should love his wife as Christ loved the Church. Christ loved His Church so much that He died so that his Church would have the promise fulfilled of eternal life with Him. If you had a husband who treated you like that, you would not be abused. Read Ephesians, chapter 5.
When your husband is mistreating you, abusing you, he is violatingthe very laws of Christ he says he upholds. You do not have to be bound to him, he would be called an unbeliever. Please talk to your pastor about this. He may recommend counseling, which is what an attorney may even say needs to be done (depedning on your state laws). While you make an appointment to see your pastor, also make one with an attorney. If for no other reason, than to find out your rights and what you have to do.
You WILL NOT be doomed. Trust me. I have been down that road and struggled with those same questions, coming from a very fundamentalist church. There is life after a divorce and one much better too. The very best to you.
Only if you don't learn from your experience.
Kimberly... an ABUSIVE man is no Christian.
I believe the Bible says that ABUSE is one thing that CAN be cause FOR divorce... it also says some other jibberish after that too... but I personally have a hard time believing it inerrantly, but that's just ME! :)
Decide what your own heart and mind tells you from the readings/teachings of the Bible... not just those interpretations of a Sunday stranger.
REJOICE! No hell for you! Lol! ;)
You won't go to hell for divorce, even if it is a sin, which it probably isn't.
God forgives all sins, so there you go :) isn't god good :)
Wow- I've never even met any of you and I feel loved.. lol. Thak you all for your support!! God Bless Each and Everyone!
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Originally Posted by Kimberly66
Absolutely not. From my Jewish perspective, Moses gave permission for divorce based on abuse and no modern rabbi in his right mind would push to make a abusive relationship continue. IMO it's sounds like the man you married would like to use his extreme religious view as a psychological ploy in keeping you. If I'm wrong and this happens to be your own thinking concerning sticking out an abusive marriage, than get past it. If you have children think of them. I spent years making deliveries to centers for battered women and cringed every time I had to make those stops. Women with black eyes, busted noses, that were scarred emotionally, children frightened... it was not a pretty sight. Respect yourself because G-d wants you to be respected. You have a whole life ahead of you.
Bobby :)
Kimberly66:
If you believe in and love God, he will never leave you nor forsake you[deut 31:6].
Pray for your husband.
Grace and Peace
Kimberly, It is OK for you to pray for your husband if you want to. But it is also OK for you to leave him. My great aunt prayed for her drunken, abusive husband for 50 years and she died praying for him. Good Luck, you deserve peace in your life.
inthebox that was a very nice answer :) an encouraging word cheers a person up
I'd like to point out the assumption that everyone is making here... What makes your relationship abusive? Are you beating him? Is he beating on you? Are you emotionally draining to him? I think these questions should have been answered before one can assume who is to blame.
In regards to your original question... Yeah, you are probably going to go to hell, but not for divorce. I'm sure you have done other things, depending on your religion. In reality, look at all the people who believe they are going to heaven... Do you really want to spend an eternity with all of them? I mean, I know I wouldn't want to be neighbors in heaven with Jesus...
Could you imagine how his perfectly groomed lawn would look sitting next to my front yard full of concrete and hot rods? Not to mention, I like to stay up late and make a lot of noise. I'm betting our lord and savior is a morning person. So again, do you really want to spend an eternity with all of those people? I think we all know the answer to that.
Universal Truth I think you miss the concept of what heaven is like :)
Well I hope he's definitely wrong on the lord and savior being a morning person... because I sooooo am not!! Lmao! :D
He is wrong about the Saviour being a morning person, in heaven everyone will be in their theophany body
When you go to heaven, you leave your faults and failings behind, so the people would be perfect neighbours.Quote:
Originally Posted by Universal Truth
I don't believe in a hell. Why would God send anyone to an eternal hell for something we did within the frame of time, which is only temporary ?
God does not send anyone to hell.
We all go to hell by default.
God has just provided a way to go someplace better, to escape the fate we actually deserve.
NO! You won't go to hell for divorcing an abusive man. In the Bible, when Jesus said "Any one who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery" he was referring to the old testament canon law of Moses. The original law stated that anyone could divorce anyone for any reason. Jesus was saying that marriage is sacred and not to be taken lightly. If this man is abusing you he is not honoring his wedding vows to love, honor, and cherish. God is a god of love and forgiveness. You are doing nothing wrong by leaving this man. The Bible says that your body is God's temple and is sacred. By abusing your body, this man is violating both God's law and mans. Please get help. Go to the police or a women's shelter. My friend was killed by her abusive husband after 3 horrible years of bruises and broken bones. Don't let that happen to you! Please leave this man. God would want you to stay alive and happy. Don't let the devil make you feel guilty about leaving this guy. Please get help, honey. God Bless You and Good Luck!Quote:
Originally Posted by Kimberly66
Love in Christ,
Nikki
Anyway, you are never doomed, there's always forgiveness within your grasp. Always.
Get out of this relationship while you can and don't take anything. Run! Before he killls you.
Hopefully she left and preparing to celebrate her first year of being free.
The Bible says for wives to submit to their husbands and husbands submit to God AND your wife HE broke that link on both ends!
God see's everything and will know you had no choice
Blessings
No you would not go to Hell as your husband is abusive. However the Bible does state that as long as your husband is alive, you shall not marry again. Only if he Dies you are free to marry. As if you get married again it would be considered Adultry on your part and on his if he is aware of it. So just remain single, just to be on the safe side, as I would not want to be put into the fires of hell, which it seems in this society most people are headed for anyway.
Seems like the best part of humanity will be there than... IF there was a hell, of course...Quote:
Originally Posted by In Sorrow
:D
Well Technically Speaking the Holy Bible is supposed to be the Inspiried word of God, so if God talks about Hell I would believe it, Because God would not give us any wrong information in his Holy Bible, anything in the Bible, I would take it as Gospel. Coming from the Catholic Background that I was brought up in, and my father being a very Strict Prostant and was an advocat of the Holy Bible he preached it to me since I was a child.Quote:
Originally Posted by Credendovidis
And those teachings stood with me, he was from the Methodist Church. But since my mother was a Roman Catholic, I was Bapisted in the Catholic religion.
Yes. But no proof for the existence of that "God" entity exists.Quote:
Originally Posted by In Sorrow
"God" is entirely based on belief and on nothing else.
Note that "God" did not write the Bible. Good-willing human beings wrote the Bible!
That is why I stated :
IF there was a hell, of course...
And why I now add to that : IF there is a "God", of course...
:rolleyes:
Wow, that was a very sweet comment. I'm so glad you are feeling better and that you can be more empowered. The first thing that came to my mind when I read your original post was... Hell No!;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Kimberly66
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