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Sharing information on line

I've always been pretty careful about my identity but I got hooked on Facebook, posted photos, information, thought I had limited my circle to friends.

I guess a stranger slipped into the mix - yesterday I got a most upsetting message from someone on Facebook, upsetting to the point where I have cancelled my membership. It appears that that person used some sort of recognition software and bounced off this site.

Everyone has to decide what to do but I am simply reminding people to be careful - and there are some disturbed people out there.

My, that is scary! I'm sorry that happened to you :(

We take a risk whenever we put anything online. I'm always very careful on this site and on any of the websites that I run as well as advertising that I do.

I do get the most personal on this website, but that's all. Even then, I'm very careful.

People need to remember that what you put online is a matter of choice. For me, I prefer not to splash all about my life all over the place. Some things are only for family and close, personal friends.

I'm sorry that happened to you, JudyKayTee! That's one of the reasons that I never choose to be a part of the social networking sites.

Everyday though, I do get probably a couple hundred of junk emails. They usually are automatically put into my quarantine folder. Part of the reason that I get them, is because I've chosen to put my email address out "there" for advertising my businesses.

Yes, people really do need to be careful with what they put on the Internet!

Thanks!

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Originally Posted by Clough

We take a risk whenever we put anything online. I'm always very careful on this site and on any of the websites that I run as well as advertising that I do.

I do get the most personal on this website, but that's all. Even then, I'm very careful.

People need to remember that what you put online is a matter of choice. For me, I prefer not to splash all about my life all over the place. Some things are only for family and close, personal friends.

I'm sorry that happened to you, JudyKayTee! That's one of the reasons that I never choose to be a part of the social networking sites.

Everyday though, I do get probably a couple hundred of junk emails. They usually are automatically put into my quarantine folder. Part of the reason that I get them, is because I've chosen to put my email address out "there" for advertising my businesses.

Yes, people really do need to be careful with what they put on the Internet!

Thanks!

Sorry JudyKayTee.. My children want me to get on FaceBook but I said no... I was debating and now I have a good reson not to. Thank You for sharing that. I'm sorry , hope the person who did that gets a virus on their computer! :eek:

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Originally Posted by Clough

For me, I prefer not to splash all about my life all over the place.

Well jus' saying, you've routinely posted links that should where you live, your full name and phone number.

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Originally Posted by NeedKarma

Well jus' saying, you've routinely posted links that should where you live, your full name and phone number.

How can they do that?

I'm sorry Judy. I've been a member of FB since it's inception and never had a problem. Guess I better go back and check my privacy settings.

My problem was some sort of photo recognization/comparison software AND I posted too much info AND I allowed someone to become my friend when I didn't recognize the name. All stupid and careless, all my fault.

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Originally Posted by Clough
For me, I prefer not to splash all about my life all over the place.

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Originally Posted by NeedKarma

Well jus' saying, you've routinely posted links that showed where you live, your full name and phone number.

Yes, that's necessary to successfully advertise and get business. I try to be as credible as possible. There is nothing in my ads that is details about my personal life, outside of the business that I try to get and my life as a professional musician.

My address is listed in my ads only when someone might need to bring me a piece of furniture to repair and/or refinish and when someone might want to take private music lessons.

For me, the advertising is all about getting business. The Internet is where I get most of my business.

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Originally Posted by Clough

Yes, that's necessary to successfully advertise and get business. I try to be as credible as possible. There is nothing in my ads that is details about my personal life, outside of the business that I try to get and my life as a professional musician.

My address is listed in my ads only when someone might need to bring me a piece of furniture to repair and/or refinish and when someone might want to take private music lessons.

For me, the advertising is all about getting business. The Internet is where I get most of my business.

Isn't there professional computer people who can find out who did this?

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Originally Posted by Clough
Yes, that's necessary to successfully advertise and get business. I try to be as credible as possible. There is nothing in my ads that is details about my personal life, outside of the business that I try to get and my life as a professional musician.

My address is listed in my ads only when someone might need to bring me a piece of furniture to repair and/or refinish and when someone might want to take private music lessons.

For me, the advertising is all about getting business. The Internet is where I get most of my business.

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Isn't there professional computer people who can find out who did this?

Are you referring to JudyKayTee's dilemma or what I wrote, Kitkat22?

Thanks!

Oh wow Judy that's horrible! :(

Another one of those "it will never happen to me" things that actually happened :(

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Originally Posted by Clough

Are you referring to JudyKayTee's dilemma or what I wrote, Kitkat22?

Thanks!

I was wondering about computer experts. There are experts who could find out who did this to JudyKay! It makes me wonder about putting anything on my computer. I'm not on Facebook and have no desire to be. I think she's a class act and a very nice person. I detest people who like to cause other people pain!

The facial recognition software angle sounds odd to me, yes the software exists but I'm not sure how it can be used in this case. Adding internet-only friends is probably the biggest security risk matched by someone doing some research, setting up a fake account as one of your real life friends ("it's Bob from high school!") and getting you to friend them.

I only friend real life people and have my security settings looked after. Haven't had an issue.

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Originally Posted by NeedKarma

The facial recognition software angle sounds odd to me, yes the software exists but I'm not sure how it can be used in this case. Adding internet-only friends is probably the biggest security risk matched by someone doing some research, setting up a fake account as one of your real life friends ("it's Bob from high school!") and getting you to friend them.

I only friend real life people and have my security settings looked after. Haven't had an issue.

Needskarma.. Could someone use that to get into my info I have on my laptop even though I'm not on Facebook,Twitter or anything like that ?

The facial recognition software? No. If you aren't on social media sites posting a good amount of photos and filling out your profile filled with personal info then you are at a low risk. The biggest danger is social engineering. Though I do 80% of my work online my social activities are mainly all real life based. Facebook is only for keeping in touch with family, close real life friends and selected co-workers. Yes I have ignores a few friend requests. I don't Twitter at all, people can get my status updates via FB and I can control over who sees that.

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Originally Posted by NeedKarma

The facial recognition software? No. If you aren't on social media sites posting a good amount of photos and filling out your profile filled with personal info then you are at a low risk. The biggest danger is social engineering. Though I do 80% of my work online my social activities are mainly all real life based. Facebook is only for keeping in touch with family, close real life friends and selected co-workers. yes I ahve ignores a few friend requests. I don't Twitter at all, people can get my status updates via FB and I can control over who sees that.

Thanks.NeedKarma.. appreciated !:)

One of the photos on my Facebook page is the same photo on AMHD (although I have removed both) and that seemed to be the connection. How does recognition software work?

And, yes, I did allow someone to become my "friend" when I had no idea who that person was.

Ah I see. If that person wasn't friended by you all they should see is that thumbnail, your networks and your friends listing... unless you opened up the privacy settings to allow all to view all.

You aren't the first nor will you be the last to be social networked. A good habit would be this: when you get a friend request immediately go to their FB profile. Likely you can only see what I mentioned above. If they have absolutely no other friends and no friends in common then beware!

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

One of the photos on my Facebook page is the same photo on AMHD (although I have removed both) and that seemed to be the connection. How does recognition software work?

And, yes, I did allow someone to become my "friend" when I had no idea who that person was.

I don't think it's recognition/data mining software, it's probably as simple as the person searched Facebook for a lawyer named Judy (I assume that's your name) living in New York who's pics match the ones on AMHD.

The rule of thumb is, if you don't know the person don't friend them. My local police department made a phony account and tried to friend all of the kids they wanted to keep tabs on. We caught on quickly when we saw a pattern in the sample of people they were requesting. I'm a small town boy.

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Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

I don't think it's recognition/data mining software, it's probably as simple as the person searched Facebook for a lawyer named Judy (I assume that's your name) living in New York who's pics match the ones on AMHD.

The rule of thumb is, if you don't know the person don't friend them. My local police department made a phony account and tried to friend all of the kids they wanted to keep tabs on. We caught on quickly when we saw a pattern in the sample of people they were requesting. I'm a small town boy.

Oh my gosh! I know I was stupid. Wow.

Nice to know the Police are more Facebook literate than I am! :D

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Originally Posted by NeedKarma

Ah I see. If that person wasn't friended by you all they should see is that thumbnail, your networks and your friends listing...unless you opened up the privacy settings to allow all to view all.

You aren't the first nor will you be the last to be social networked. A good habit would be this: when you get a friend request immediately go to their FB profile. Likely you can only see what I mentioned above. If they have absolutely no other friends and no friends in common then beware!

Can't give you a thumbs up - so here's a pretend thumbs up. Thank you for the info. I didn't understand how any of this worked.

Kind of you to take the time. I owe you.

Could this be the same person who stole your identity while you were on your honeymoon?

Well, you hit that on the head. Yes, I found out who it is/was. I'm sick to my stomach and, yes, it's the same person... and someone I know.

I am rocked to my socks.

Enough said but I have been betrayed (and feel violated) and, no, not by my husband.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Well, you hit that on the head. Yes, I found out who it is/was. I'm sick to my stomach and, yes, it's the same person ... and someone I know.

I am rocked to my socks.

Enough said but I have been betrayed (and feel violated) and, no, not by my husband.

I hope the person can be arrested for cyber stalking and that FaceBook is cooperating to the fullest. I hate seeing crap happen to good people.
If there is anything I can do let me know.

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I hope the person can be arrested for cyber stalking and that FaceBook is cooperating to the fullest. I hate seeing crap happen to good people.
If there is anything I can do let me know.

Thanks - a cyberhug would help. I'm just shattered.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Thanks - a cyberhug would help. I'm just shattered.

{HUGS} As you know there are idiots everywhere. But you don't need that kind of junk in your life. Nobody does. Again if there is any help or research I can do just keep me posted.

Forgot to post this :)

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Thanks - a cyberhug would help. I'm just shattered.

I can't do much, but I can give hugs:

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Cyber hugs to you Judy. I'm sorry this had to happen to you.

Some people really have nothing better to do than put others down :(

I believe in Karma, they will get theirs.