I had a great experience today, thought I'd share with you all. The ex and I work in the same building. This morning, I was wearing a new suit, new shirt, new tie and looking pretty good if I may say so. I walked by a group of woman, about 8 to 10 this morning when they all started hooting and hollaring, basically saying how good I looked. I jokingly said, "One at a time, girls form a single file line" My ex, in this group of women, stood there watching this kind of turned away and then another girl said, "Wow, your all ready to take me out!" The ex immediately shot back, "Did you get a new suit?" I then said, "You have not been given permission to speak to me, your at the back of line." That got a huge laugh... at her expense, and I went inside, happy as could be.

Then as she left tonight she made it a point to come by and tell me how good I looked today. I asked her, "That's a compliment. I didn't think you were capable of giving one." She just said, "Yeah." I then interupted, "......aaaaaand I still don't." I then proceeded to laugh at her, as she walked away, not sure what to say or think. That felt good.

Guys stay positive, the days get better and the good times come back. You have to turn every negative into a positive, when your feeling down turn those thoughts around to your adavantage. This is your time to reclaim yourself, cherish it, relish it, and use it. Your worst time can be your best time if you allow it and make it happen. Break ups make you feeling like you've lost in the short term, but they can be you biggest gain in the long term.

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Originally Posted by ib1512491136

Jiltedgirl. Im down too at the moment!

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:confused:... Eh? I'm a bit confused. Did I say I was down recently? I looked through a few pages back and I don't think I said anything... Heh. But hey, as long as I helped. Lol ;)

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Originally Posted by ib1512491136

Just returned home to see my ex has taken my picture down from her facebook. It had me holding a bottle of jack danials with her comment "my two favourite men".

I just keep thinking NC is the best way and shell miss me! Its been a day now and ive got through it! i didnt text back to her!

NC will make them poo themselves! I hope.

Try and read my post

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Eeek. I remember doing that. In fact, I took down all the pictures of an ex and me together on Facebook. In retrospect, that action was really dramatic and mean to him, but hey... do what you got to do, right? I now sort of regret it because I looked really good in those pictures... hahaha. Damn it!

Ib1512, CONGRATS on taking a step onto the NC road. I just hope you're not holding onto any false hope of her coming back to you. Don't let that be concern. NC is about moving on for your own good, not to get back together with someone. Move forward.

Keep trucking,
J

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Originally Posted by plonak

While tricking yourself helps for a little bit it is really a temporary fix.. and i don't suggest you do it all the time..

You have to mentally digest that you're not still not over your ex yet or you will never truly get over her, you'll just be lying to yourself constantly, and then one day without notice, you see something that reminds you of her and you'll break down and it will be a doozy..

Suggest that you let the thoughts in once in a while, tell yourself that's it's ok to be hurting, think about them a little... and then go and do something that distracts your mind.

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I am aware of the hurt and I know it's OK. There are certainly memories that still bring a bit of hurt, and I think my new-found happiness is largely due to my realization that we are better off As friends. Our separation was the result of circumstances- not necessarily lost feelings. We barely had time to see each other and it was hurting both of us so although I wasn't expecting it, it was better for both of us and I realize that now. We can still be friends and talk and I'm really glad because she is such an amazing person who I don't want to just kick out of my life. We had a good relationship and I'm glad we did but I think we'll be better off as friends- because we both realize that, we can be friends which is somethinga lot of ex's can't say. I know it wouldn't have worked out in the long run because she's going away to college at UC Santa Cruz (that's the circumstance mentioned above) and I'm becoming a senior in high school here in Sac. Long distance relationships rarely work and it was inevitable so why not make the best of it?

*sigh* I feel soooooooo..... alone~

I craved for my ex today D;

*sigh*

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Originally Posted by ib1512491136

Jiltedgirl. Im down too at the moment! Just returned home to see my ex has taken my picture down from her facebook. It had me holding a bottle of jack danials with her comment "my two favourite men".

I just keep thinking NC is the best way and shell miss me! Its been a day now and ive got through it! i didnt text back to her!

NC will make them poo themselves! I hope.

Try and read my post

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Ib,

Your starting to worry me a little bit. The true purpose of NC isn't to try and make your ex feel bad, or get them to come back. The point in NC is to heal, grow and become a happy person alone before you are happy with anyone else. It is a method to be used to get over someone, not get someone back. There is a very good sticky on this forum that I think you should read (and everyone else for that matter... )

Here is the link:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ed-123862.html

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Originally Posted by hjpan

*sigh* I feel soooooooo..... alone~

I craved for my ex today D;

*sigh*

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Right after the breakup I thought that way. It will get better. Go out and find some things to do and live it up for a bit. Then you can settle down and find a new partner when you're ready. What you need is something to take you mind off her! Sitting on your computer reading through theseforums won't help you there! Chances are all this talk of relationships is just remiding you of her! Get out and have some fun! Forget about relationships and live it up for a bit! Focus on YOU, not her. That's all

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Right after the breakup I thought that way. It will get better. Go out and find some things to do and live it up for a bit. then you can settle down and find a new partner when you're ready. What you need is something to take you mind off her! Sitting on your computer reading through theseforums won't help you there! Chances are all this talk of relationships is just remiding you of her! Get out and have some fun! Forget about relationships and live it up for a bit! Focus on YOU, not her. That's all

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Thank you =]

I'm actually on just to post how I feel and respond to certain topics.
Anyway, I've been working out, studying/paying attention in summer class, planning my future etc.

*sigh* there are A LOT of cute girls in community college, but I don't feel like going after any. Maybe because the course is 6 weeks & it's ending in 2 weeks... maybe because I still feel unsure... or some reason

Well I'm still in high school and the pool of attractive girls here is very small. I wish I was in college. Hang in there! You'll get through it and find a nice cute girl in the end!

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well I'm still in high school and the pool of attractive girls here is very small. I wish I was in college. Hang in there! You'll get through it and find a nice cute girl in the end!

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Hahaha~ I wish I'd find a nice, cute girl whose clean xD

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Hahaha~ I wish I'd find a nice, cute girl whose clean xD

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Ha ha ha, true that

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Ha ha ha, true that

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To me... I'd rather date girls who are virgins or only had sex with one person... =/

hjpan: if that's the kind of girls you prefer, then that's all you. But I wouldn't just toss girls because they've been with 3 - 4 guys... they're nice girls too.

There are some girls who are virgins that actually end up being worse.

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hjpan: if that's the kind of girls you prefer, then that's all you. but I wouldn't just toss girls because they've been with 3 - 4 guys...they're nice girls too.

there are some girls who are virgins that actually end up being worse.

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I wouldn't care if virgins suck in bed...

No, not in bed. I meant in life. I've dated virgins and I've dated girls who have been with 3 - 4 guys... it's not what defines their character and how they screw you over in the end.

I've dated virgins who have cheated on me, and I've dated girls who are experienced and we broke up very amicably, and vice versa.

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no, not in bed. I meant in life. I've dated virgins and I've dated girls who have been with 3 - 4 guys...it's not what defines their character and how they screw you over in the end.

I've dated virgins who have cheated on me, and I've dated girls who are experienced and we broke up very amicably, and vice versa.

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Eh... who knows how my future girlfriends will be? Lol

What I think sneeze is talking about doesn't mean in bed. My last girlfriend had 6 boyfriends before me but out of all my girlfriends- she was by far the best- and I don't mean in bed. Sometimes experienced partners are the simply because they've gone through more and can apply lessons learned in past relationships to yours- making it better.

Well my ex drunk texted me tonight that she misses me... F&*$. I didn't want to hear that. She's been on my mind all week, good and bad. Now this happens. Another speed bump in the road to recovery.

I'm not really sure how the number of partners at all relates to how the person is as a significant other, unless its an extreme case...

Rocker: Hang in there, just let it roll of your back like it didn't happen. If she had something to tell you, she could have done it in a more mature manner. Until that happens, I would forget about it (at least try)

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I wouldn't care if virgins suck in bed...

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In fact I'd be all for it.

If you cannot look beyond a persons past that's not their problem, its yours. We all GROW through life, to be who we are, and that's a process. If you can't deal with it, then so be it, move on. But never pass judgment. Being a virgin says nothing about compatibility, or how you relate to each other, and nowadays it doesn't mean inexperienced.