Hey,
I didn't say that to kill the thread...
Come on guys.
I'm now on day 9 and feeling pretty good about it. It is amazing how you go through so many different emotions not only during a week, but during a day.
Anyone else??
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Hey,
I didn't say that to kill the thread...
Come on guys.
I'm now on day 9 and feeling pretty good about it. It is amazing how you go through so many different emotions not only during a week, but during a day.
Anyone else??
I had a weird dream last night.. I was really really wasted cause I'm almost finished with my exams and went out to celebrate. (Yeah I know you're supposed to celebrate at the very end.. but anyway). And I just fell asleep and I was on this bus (in my dream) with all the girls that I've been meeting since I was single.. It was quite strange, my ex wasn't there but I would think about her in my dream.. It was quite odd. I don't exactly remember what happened next but even so. I was thinking yesterday, when I was at my unis main campus how many girls are out there that could make me happy. And that I could easily fall in love for a fraction of them.. there are just so many possibilities out there for us.
I don't believe in one person in the whole world that is made for you.. I think there are lots.
Nichsheshe - I'm right there with you!
I stopped counting the NC days, because frankly, its now just a way of normal life not a goal. Ex is slowly working out of my system! Granted, I had a dream last night, and who popped up in it? My ex's mom of all people. That was weird. But as far as I'm concerned, there is no reason to EVER to talk to my ex again. I know some people can stay friends with their ex (and I know that's what my ex really wants) but honestly, its not something I feel like I'd ever be able or want do with him. There's no point. So, suck it up, to a life lesson learned!
Anyhow, had an awesome weekend! Actually met 2 guys who kind of gave me those butterfly feelings again. And both keep calling me to hang out again! Wow, its nice to feel desired again. I still got it!
Lots more than you think!Quote:
I don't believe in one person in the whole world that is made for you.. I think there are lots.
You never lost it, you were distracted.Quote:
Wow, its nice to feel desired again. I still got it!
I got a coupla tickets here..?Quote:
Not really considering that I am in the law enforcement community...
Very funny Tal.
Maybe you shouldn't be exposing yourself in public that much then...
DAY 73 NC, for some reason last couple of days been thinking of my ex, think its because its pretty much exactly 6 months since she broke up with me. Can get through days fine now, but the thoughts are still there. Not cripling thoughts that they once were thank god, just a pang when you stop and think for a bit, then I slap myself and get back on with living my life and being me.
Keep going all, it's a tough ride, not easy, but it'll be worth it in the end,
Keep posting
JPM
It is so weird, now it feels now like I miss my ex so much but then in a way I think I am also afraid of letting go, it is like I don't want him to let go of me and I know I should let go of him but I don't want to cause then I will lose that part of my life, it scares me that he is drifting away... shouldn't I be happy that I am starting to slowly forget about him?
Len,
Your thinking like it hasn't happened. The relationship has ended and at this point what he is doing, how he is feeling, and if he is drifting away or not doesn't matter. You don't have to be afraid of "letting him go" because he is going, whether you let him or not. What matters is you getting to be healthy and happy by yourself.
I don't want this to be harsh because I know how tough it is to move on and try to stop thinking about the ex. The best medicine is to keep busy and keep moving forward. You have made so much progress... keep moving forward.
Day 2.Dont ask.
Picked myself up quicker this time.
My ex said I couldn't last a week without calling her again. I guess that motivated me even more as it's now almost a week and a half.
Also her best friend called me yesterday to check up on me, too bad I was at a party and I told her I couldn't talk.
To make things even better, my ex tried calling me this morning and I ignored her call. It gets easier and easier each day. I think the 3 week barrier is key if you want to completely move on with your ex.
I don't know how long its been since I've talked to me ex. I'm not going to count either.
I have been feeling pretty good lately. Keeping myself busy and going out almost every night. Trying to hang out with different people constantly so that I can expand my network of friends and hopefully meet even more people. The group of friends I hang out with more than anyone else (in the past anyway) are all in relationships and don't get out much thus I can't meet many new people with them. I'm getting a little more in sync with my single friends.
For anyone struggling in the first few days/weeks -- trust me, it does get better. I know its hard to hear and you think I'm lying to you, but I'm not.
Good luck to all!
Well I'm starting over again myself but this was pretty awesome. This morning, I was walking into our building and she was sitting there and she just gave this half wave looked down and said "hello," you could tell she was just looking sad. I was having a great day and I said, "Hey how are you doing?" very enthusiastic. She said, "okay" but looked away again so I for once being fully aware of what I was doing and not acting on emotions stopped and said, "Is everything okay?" She just did this pathetic nod. I was then said, "GREAT!" and kept on walking.
Then later at lunch a friend of hers calls me over to the table where she is with a couple other people and we start talking about something, I don't even remember what to be honest. Then I basically start mocking her with some inside jokes that nobody else would have got and make fun of her while pretending to talk about something completely different. Trust me, it worked better then I can explain it, and she was laughing. Then at one point her friend, said, "To stick up for you, I......." I interrupted, "What to you mean to stick up for me, what do you need to stick up for me for?" Of course he says, "She (pointing to her) says bad things about you all the time" I just looked at her and then him and I said laughing, "yeah consider the source." He then said, while she was in a horrible mood until you showed up, now she's having a good time." I then said, again, " I then said, again, " But then I just kept on going doing my funny man routine that so many of you enjoy here on this site. I'm not really paying attention to her at all but she's laughing the whole way through. At the end when they got up to leave they all walked ahead and she just kind of stayed behind and watched me as I was cracking jokes at another woman at the table. I didn't even catch this at first I just happen to look over and see her standing there smiling and kind of laughing. She then walked off.
Sounds like fun Chuff...
Just make sure you don't feel too good and have her coming back around... or at least be able to deal with it the right way :)
That's the way to go chuff!! Keep up the good work. Being confident is the best way to go. When you realize that you're in control of your life/emotions, then you have nothing to be afraid of. I always tell myself to keep my chin up because this is only an obstacle that I need to overcome and so far it's been better than expected.
I've kept in touch with different friends from college, high school and others from work. It helps so much knowing that there are people who get your mind off her and make your life enjoyable.
Day Whatever of NC! I don't count. Ok, actually, I do know. I haven't spoken to him for a week but we haven't actually seen each other in over a month and it'll be 2 months since we broke up on the 23rd. Ok, maybe if I have to I can count : )
Anyhow, I can't believe how great I've been feeling. After a while, the good days really do start to outweight the bad days. Its great. And yeah, NC was broken (by him mind you) a week ago and it was rough for a day or two but I've bounced back quite nicely.
Its amazing to finally realize that yes, life does go on. Time really does start to heal everything if you just let it.. and let it go... let go of everything you thought you're life was going to be and instead look forward to all the possibilities life has in store for you.
Honestly, this break up may have been the best thing to happen in my life. I only wish I had been the one to initiate it. But I can honestly say right now, it feels like it was the right move. I wasn't happy in the relationship. I was just used to having him there and being with him, but I sure as heck wasn't getting out of the relationship what I wanted and it was a constant struggle on my part to keep it above water. I deserve so much better than that! Yay to new beginnings!
Keep up the NC all!
Chuff - I had to spread the rep, but you may be the coolest guy ever!
Just post your picture losingit77 and chuff will be onto you like a flash... LMAO:pQuote:
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Well I don't know about that, I'm much to modest to accept such an honor. Also check out my new signature.
That is only if she has any good arm pit photos.Quote:
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