Bigbird that sounds like progress to me mate. Good for you. I agree that keeping busy and spending time with people is important.

Same here BB213

I'm actually focusing myself on English at community college...
Yes, there are SEVERAL SMOKING girls but I kept my mind off of girls...

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It would be very easy for me to ask people about her and find things out - and I just hope that by telling them I don't want to know, or choosing not to ask, doesn't make me seem weak.

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You don't come across weak at all. Everyone has gone through a breakup at one time or another. People understand. :cool:

I am doing better. I never really responded to the ex's Facebook message, in which he wrote that he was confused. Instead, I sent him a dead face. I didn't feel much like responding with words anymore. Words are so overrated anyway.:rolleyes:

I hope everyone else is doing all right?

I am nearing a week of NC. Right now its so bad, that only going back and talking again (regardless of negative or positive outcome) is going to help. Other than that I'm pretty much done, dettached, disinterested in him. Really, I don't care, it doesn't matter, doesn't concern me. Still, NC hurts bad but its just a feeling,that will go away eventually. Sigh, its messing up my study routine.

Hi Everyone,

I hope you are all doing well today. Tomorrow, I am flying to GA to see my ex. Oh boy, I hope it goes well.

Well I was doing good 3 days in a row.. lol it was birthday as well so he (he dumped me) made the last text of saying happy birthday... I texted yesterday & we spoke... I want to make it to a week of NC.. its hard because I want to be his friend because he is going through a bad time... he is aborderline alcoholic which is why the relationship was falling apart...

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well i was doing good 3 days in a row..lol it was bday as well so he (he dumped me) made the last text of saying happy bday.... i texted yesterday & we spoke... i want to make it to a week of NC..its hard b/c i want to be his friend b/c he is going thru a bad time...he is aborderline alcoholic which is y the relationship was falling apart....

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Birthdays are a little bit tough...

I didn't send my ex anything on her birthday, almost a month ago now, and her sister knew that I didn't send her anything on her birthday. That made me wonder for a little while about if I upset her by doing that, or if she was expecting it or not. I still wonder from time to time, but we need to realize that it isn't our responsibility whether we are upsetting them.

I still care about upsetting her for some weird reason, I guess its just the nice guy syndrome??

I understand what you mean because my ex wrote me a text saying how come I did not wish him a happy 4th but in my head I am like "i am trying to get over u" buddy... I was going out w/my friends & having a good time. Though he broke up w/me I am happy he did because I was not strong enough to break it off which is why I feel at peace however the feeling of familiarity of hearing from him or getting nice texts from him is what I miss

But NC is very hard to do plus I am very emotional & I went through the bag stage last week we said mean things to each other because I was very mad@him because we broke up because he told me because of all the fights I made he was not in love w/me no more... which hurt a lot but trying to move passed it

Going on 13 months since I last was with anyone. My ex has moved on to bigger and better things, and I seem to be in limbo. She's on TV. I'm on the couch, how metaphorically tragic can you get? It wears me down. But I keep going. Having no one to turn to or to talk to, I keep going everyday.

I haven't broken down yet. Which is a big, big step forward. If I don't go down today I know it will be easier tomorrow.

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I havent broken down yet. Which is a big, big step forward. If i dont go down today i know it will be easier tomorrow.

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Bravo for that view point. One day at a time bud.

Starlite I wish you all the best with your meeting with the ex. After a month of games I think I am finally starting to move on from my ex.

A friend of mine says it takes half the length of time of the relationship until we can move on after a breakup. I am starting to think that maybe correct. Thank God I was not with my ex any longer than a few months!

Jilted good to hear you are doing better.

Enigmatic sounds like you are in pain friend. I feel for you and that must be hard having to see your ex on the telly.

I think that time is the only real healer and if one is unable to go directly to NC then that is at least a worthy goal. I would also recommend being careful of the advice of friends.

One of the excuses I used to break NC was due to the words of my friends and family members. Still friends are only trying to help and generally speaking they are vital to getting through a breakup.

For me some days are better than others. I doubt if I would even respond to an e-mail, text or phone message. I am beginning to realize the only I can move on is to let go. Do not get me wrong my ex is an amazing woman and she always will be, but for to think I can do no better or that there are no other women out there as wonderful as her is arrogant and most likely untrue.

Thanks to all of you for being here. I am sure over time we will slowly drift away from this site as finally meet that person who will love us just as much as we love them. Take care I am off to get a tat!

I went 6 days with no contact and broke down yesterday and called her. Wasn't too bad but things are still awkward between me and her, so my next goal is going to be 21 days!

My NC is 2 weeks now... still see-sawing..

I think I'm past the one-week-NC-milestone! Sounds kind of pathetic, but I'm still happy I made it.

Hey a week of NC is an accomplishment I had to start all over again because we had contact on Monday so hoping to get through this week w/NC...

Today IS easier. Really, I feel great. No missing him, no crying. I still keep mentaly talking to him though and that's going to stop real soon. Looks like I'm going to enter week 2 of NC. Horay!

Today IS easier! I'm entering week 2 of NC! Hooray!

Today was day 9 NC. She had texted me a few days ago- "Some days are harder than others", which made me think she misses me and threw me for a loop. I ended up emailing her today. Stupid, but I was going crazy.

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Today was day 9 NC. She had texted me a few days ago- "Some days are harder than others", which made me think she misses me and threw me for a loop. I ended up emailing her today. Stupid, but I was going crazy.

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Life is all about making mistakes and learning from them. The best lessons we learn are often the most painful mistakes to make. It will be tough in the beginning, but it will get easier. It is obviously tough for her, and I'm sure she misses you, but that doesn't mean that it is the wrong thing to do.

When is the right thing to do ever the easiest??