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  • Sep 15, 2008, 09:34 PM
    hjpan
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dare81
    still can't get over it 9 years.thats one third of my whole life

    Look at my sister... she dated a guy for over 2 years and she found out that he was married and has a kid now.

    She's 27.
  • Sep 15, 2008, 09:37 PM
    Dare81
    Wow. That's messed up.How is she holding up?
  • Sep 15, 2008, 09:39 PM
    NorthernNiceGuy
    But you got time on your side... it will help you heal and eventually she will have been a small part of your life...
  • Sep 15, 2008, 09:41 PM
    bigbird213
    Don't be so hard on yourself, its only been three days. For some of us, it was weeks or months before you notice any appreciable difference. It will happen, just take each day as it comes. Like you said, Day 3 of NC is almost over... Now shoot for 4 :)

    Hang in there, when you need a boost, come on here and vent.. It helps
  • Sep 15, 2008, 09:44 PM
    joderik
    Pathetic... I started the NC this morning.. and I already broke it!! Can't delete his number.. I have it memorized... *uGh* I hate that I have the urge to call him... and I'm the only that let go!
  • Sep 15, 2008, 09:45 PM
    Dare81
    Thanks.Time to go to bed for me.Hopefully tomorrow is better
  • Sep 15, 2008, 11:31 PM
    hjpan
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dare81
    wow. thats messed up.How is she holding up?

    She's been single for a long time~
    In fact, she doesn't care about it... but she teaches me a lot of lessons on relationships
  • Sep 16, 2008, 07:14 AM
    Dare81
    DAY 4 NC=Felt pretty ty in the morning when I woke up. Felling better now, hopefully I won't be thinking about her today.I wonder why is it that when I wake up I always start thinking about her.
  • Sep 16, 2008, 07:16 AM
    bigbird213
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dare81
    DAY 4 NC=Felt pretty ty in the morning when i woke up. Felling better now, hopefully i wont be thinking about her today.I wonder why is it that when i wake up i always start thinking about her.

    Happens to everyone, it fades with time, but for the longest time mornings were the toughest for me. You were probably used to talking first thing in the morning.. maybe a good morning phone call or something like that? Try to have something planned for first thing in the morning... If you run, or work out, do that first thing in the morning... If you change your morning routine, it can help...
  • Sep 16, 2008, 09:52 AM
    Dare81
    I have got to work on my masters thesis, this whole mess is so distracting, can't concentrate
    I don't miss her or have the urge to call her, so why the hell am I so sad then?
  • Sep 16, 2008, 12:17 PM
    bigbird213
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dare81
    i have gotta work on my masters thesis, this whole mess is so distracting, can't concentrate
    I dont miss her or have the urge to call her, so why the hell am i so sad then??

    Change isn't easy on a lot of people. The emotions your going to feel in the coming days and weeks are tough to describe and they will change like the winds. Everyone who has gone through it can attest to the fact that it truly is a rollercoaster. If you can ride out the lows, you will be fine.
  • Sep 16, 2008, 05:38 PM
    Dare81
    DAY 4 NC=Could have been worse, but it was probably the worst day after day 1 of NC.But I keep this going. Lord have mercy have on me.Thanks for all your help guyz.
  • Sep 16, 2008, 10:33 PM
    Dare81
    End of day 4 of NC=Feel like , I miss her I guess.
  • Sep 16, 2008, 10:50 PM
    NorthernNiceGuy
    Of course you miss her... if you didn't you would be kidding yourself... think of how long she was part of your life, whether you do want to get back with her, the affect of this loss is going to make you sad regardless... It's human.
  • Sep 16, 2008, 11:17 PM
    hjpan
    I'm going to be home alone for a weekend... 100% sure I'm not geetting laid =/

    I'll probably order some shrooms and chew on that.. *sigh*

    Relationships make me sick now D:
  • Sep 17, 2008, 07:12 AM
    Dare81
    Day5 NC= I feel like , how long is it going to take me to get over her, I can't handle this anymore
  • Sep 17, 2008, 08:29 AM
    hjpan
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Dare81
    Day5 NC= I feel like , how long is it going to take me to get over her, i can't handle this anymore


    Keep yourself busy and put away everything that reminds you of her.
  • Sep 17, 2008, 12:40 PM
    talaniman
    GET BUSY with rebuilding!
  • Sep 17, 2008, 12:44 PM
    Dare81
    Feeling a lot better now, mornings are always the worst.Thanks a lot guyz, this forum keeps me going.
  • Sep 17, 2008, 06:22 PM
    Dare81
    So how long does it take to get over a 9 year relationship?? Its going to take for ever, isn't it.:{

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