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Originally Posted by log

the ex always thinks about you and they really do miss you remember they dumped us and thats why they have the guilt concious in contacting us ....theyre the one who chose the easy way out..

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I would disagree with this 100% Some people do not care, bottom line. They are happy you are gone and that's just it. Even if you did nothing wrong, they find an excuse to be happy that you are out or their lives and for good.

It's 8:56 a.m.. I got up about an hour ago after a night of getting drunk.. and I woke up with this really paranoid feeling.. I wanted to login to my ex's Facebook account though I don't know her password or anything.. I feel really odd today :/
Im at about a month of NC... it sucks that I still miss her sometimes.. the way she broke up with me was disgraceful.

Just looked it up.. 29 days of NC..

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Originally Posted by nickshehe

It's 8:56 a.m..I got up about an hour ago after a night of getting drunk..and I woke up with this really paranoid feeling..I wanted to login to my ex's facebook account though I dont know her password or anything..I feel really odd today :/
Im at about a month of NC....it sucks that I still miss her sometimes..the way she broke up with me was disgraceful.

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I would say if it's at all possible to stop the drinking do so, I feel booze has a depressive effect sometimes especially the morning after, I know it definatley does with me. It's nice to have a beer or whatever sometimes but I think it plays havoc with the emotions especially if you are in a delicate state emotionally after your break-up

Keep the NC up my friend, you will have days where it's worse, things will get better!!

Until now total NC - he's holding back on me,trying to get some revenge for yerterday and ususaly I gave it,well not this time brother

I think I am over the 60 day mark, but felt the need to give an update..

So lately my ex has been talking to my parents more and more, which I'm okay with because my mom and her were extremely close. Well I walked into my job coming back from break on Saturday and my ex was talking to my parents and my mom said something to me about our new night manager's hair cut and I said "he looks like a walking p*nis" and my ex starts cracking up and says "wow I have really missed your sense of humor" So I played it off and didn't respond. So I get home and my mom comes in and says "I know you don't want to know what me and Brianna talk about but I thought you would want to know this, she said that you have been looking really good lately" I just said "ok thanks" And then yesterday, out of no where, she unblocks me from AIM(which I thought I deleted all her screen names off my list) and I was just baffled by it, but no where near close to breaking NC

Congrats rome. Just to boost your morale this morning, there's a good chance that it can only get worse from here. It's OK. We'll be here.

My ex has stopped calling me!! It was an interesting 2 weeks. Yikes. Her last contact with me was when she emailed me to let me know that she still has some of my things (keyboard, laptop mouse, ethernet cord, mini-fridge, etc.) and she wants to know when we can meet up so she can give it back to me.

... didn't respond. Figured she'd get the message. I've already cut my losses.

I kind of know it might have a negative effect on me.. but when I'm out and I'm drinking I rarely think about her until I go home. Yesterday I was having the time of my life up until I went to go to bed :(

Rome, It's good that you've got the inner strength to resist her.. many of us would have probably been sucked in to a possible trap after a compliment or an attempt on her half to reach us..
Though I get spoken too on msn every few days, she doesn't really say anything substantial to me so its easy to shrug it off..

Yea, as far as I'm concerned every time she tries one of these things I just remind myself she has a boyfriend and it's not worth me stressing over.

I mean part of me wanted to IM her and just say some smarta*s remark about the unblocking but the more mature part said let sleeping dogs lie. So we shall see what's next because as Sneezy pointed out, it's only the beginning

Keep going as you have been guys, Rome,Nick,Sneeze

All doing great guns.

One day those exe's of ours will realise what great guys they let go, but that's there loss all round.

I'm doing much better, still think of her, but def not as much. Went on a date last week, was OK, but nothing will come of it as both not really interested in each other, but it's a step in the right direction.

Keep posting

Nada :)

He broke NC on sat, only because my jacket was still in his car. We met Sunday morning so I could pick it up. I tried to act normal, but I'm sure he sensed I was nervous. I left, like I normally did when we were friends. He sent me a text later, saying that he knows he has to give me an explanation but he's really confused from his side and mine, and he doesn't want to rush things. He said I'm very special and hopes I'm OK. I replied saying I know him very well, and he does owe me an explanation but I know he doesn't have one so there's no point in asking for it. As far as friendship, we were that first and will always be.. so if he ever needed to talk or smile, then I was just a text, call, or email away. He said he was bz and would text me later. Nothing since then. Now its getting harder because I'm left completely confused about everything. When he left me he said he didn't see us together and that he was trying to hard to fall in love. Now he says he's confused. I don't know what to believe, but I know I've lost my best friend. And after seeing him, I'm sure he feels the same way. But I've decided to maintain NC and its killing me, because I still need closure and don't know how to get it.

I think closure is all in our head... I felt I needed closure like nothing else, just an explanation,something.. all I got was that she just doesn't want to be with me anymore.. which means it was on her mind longer than I thought or imagined...
I know that some couples break up on good terms.. but I find it better to be angry at her.
No-shes not a witch for breaking up with me.. or getting bored of the relationship and wanting to move on..
But if she loved me like she claimed then we wouldve talked about this and we wouldve tried to sort this out.. So I don't excuse her and I am angry at her.
So,confusionmax, you should ask yourself what the conditions of your break up are.. and if you honestly want to be a text , call , or email away...
Because I honestly don't want to bump into my ex or hear from her ever again.

(Day 29 and I deleted her from Facebook by the way.. Next step?)

[u]HAS ANYONE TRIED TO CONTACT THEIR EX AND IT FLOPPED!??[u]

I think everyone has tried to contact their ex and had it flop... It's usually what makes them stick to NC the next time around

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

I think everyone has tried to contact their ex and had it flop...It's usually what makes them stick to NC the next time around

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Word... every email/text I sent, I immediately regretted it after... its crazy how we try to convince ourselves that any good can come from it. "maybe if im sweet and nice, it'll make her think about how things were..." and anything else you tell yourself... it really is best to just let it go. Doesn't matter what they think or feel.

Here's an update on me... went out with a girl last night... bagged another crazy one... I'm on a roll... where are the decent girls that won't disappoint me and make me think of my ex?

West my man,

Good news to hear you well and truly on the dating circuit. I'm taking my time getting back in there , but will do soon.

They're will be a decent one out there, keep on trucking, you'll find her!

Day 10 of reinstated NC and I felt awesome all day. As I expected, yesterday was an awful sad day and then today I bounced back beautifully!

Still miss him like hell, but nothing I can do about it. Its kind of freeing to think, "well, nothing I can do about what happened so all I can do now is to focus on keepin' movin'". Its nice to have no responsibility in the situation.

Think this is Jiser's quote or something, but "by doing nothing, we can't make anything worse". Ah, serenity now!

At least I know I'm still a hot ticket, cause I have guys left and right asking me out... but I'm waiting at least a month to jump back into dating. Watch out for me come May 30th!

Westy, bagged another crazy one eh?

I'm on the other end... I'm chasing this hot but independent one... seems like she's playing games though. Been on three dates with her so far, I've always called, I've always made plans, etc. so I don't know... if she wants to see me, she can call.

As far as me contacting my ex... I did after 2 weeks of us breaking up. I found out that "new guy" was at her place at 5am... I was studying for finals... I broke. I IMed her only for her to yell at me for prying into her life.. yep. NC from there on out.

Wish I was having a good day am jealous... god I am sooo tempted to contact him today. After spending the afternoon together and then sleeping together again on Sunday (stupid I know) and him saying he wants to see me again this week. It ended with a text from me saying that I would give him a text this week to catch up but managed to hold off till now and really want to not text again because I know it sounds messed up but I am hoping that he is waiting for my text!!