DazT:

Well, you can understand why she'd think you did that... because you slept in her bed. I'm not so sure that I'd sleep in my ex's bed... even if she wasn't there. You could just as easily have said "Nothing. I didn't do anything," instead of the semi-belligerent "I'm over you...quit texting me...etc" however, what's done is done.

I wanted to convince her that it wasn't me that did it though. And hey, I would never do something like that in a normal state of mind, just I was drunk and I regret it.

Hahah that's funny :D
ISneezeFunny is right though..
Still funny :D

Yeah, pretty funny.. in my life, I rarely have a dull moment. No idea why..

But I'm starting to regret going to that houseparty! You learn from your mistakes though.

Okay guys, I'm feeling awful bad about what I text her today.. I don't want to be on bad terms with her.. so do you think I should write her a text message with something like this:

"Im sorry about earlier.. I dont want to be on bad terms with you and if I walked past you in the street Id like to be able to say hello. There isnt no point in being enemies"

What you lot think?

Uhm I feel that way too.. like I loved this girl and we were really good friends for so long but now I'm just not talking to her... but I think my well-being is more important than staying on good terms with her..
Besides, in my case she was a total bi*ch too me when we broke up.. no one has ever been as cruel too me.. so I don't see why I should bother being the nice guy.. I don't know what your case is, but for you to be on this site I'm assuming you're the one that has been dumped.. so I don't see why you should be the nice guy either.

I agree with Nick.

100%

You don't have to be a nice guy, but I'm just saying that I've gone that route of being the @sshole and in the end, it really isn't worth it. It's better for the both of you (you especially) if you brush her off without being the @sshole.

I sent the text message, trying to end things on good terms. She replied that she wanted to be able to say hello to me on the street as well and we ended it like that.

I feel much better now and can start N/C once more.

Just to clarify I didn't mean be an.. I just meant "dont bother".
But whatever if you feel better about sending the text then fair play :)
I just hope you don't see her down the street and won't have to say hello.

Well I went to college today and it was her time to come back after the easter break. At around 11ish she sent me a text saying 'i hear congrats is in order for a lot of things. Are you in?' I didn't reply, I just went off to the library where she only ended up being. So I spoke to her mtes for a bit and her all toggtehr as a group as the whole library congfratulated me on a number of things. Soon as her mates left it was just me and her, I put my headphones in and ignored her and got down to work. I looked up to ask for the date to our librarian who I thought was there, and my ex was quick to answer. I said thanks and put my headphones back in. then she soon left when I started chatting to a girl in my year. And there we have it... the saga starts again... oh joy.

GRRR... she just contacted me again saying 'i know we're doing the whole no contact thing, I'm trying to respect that but I just want to say I'm really pleased for you. Things couldn't be better I bet!'... shes referring to my career success atm. I haven't replied... shud I even bother? I have to see her around college tomorrow.

A plain simple "thanks" won't hurt I guess..
If you see she's making it a habit of trying to contact you then you should cut the string

Yea I was thinking a simple 'thanks' would do... which I think would drive her even more mad
Than nothing haha.

Aghhhh! She just sent another text saying 'no worries, just wished we didn't have to see each other' I know what she means... she means its just hard. But I'm not replying that.

God I make myself mad, I heard something about him and a girl I know and I was apsolutley gutted about the whole thing and I know I did the wrong thing but I txtd him to ask if it was true. He toatlly denied it and got a bit why that I would even think that, I left it at that and said thanks have a good day. Anyway it just makes me mad I am not stronger, I wish I could remember how I was not very happy with him in the first place and how it annoyed me he always wanted to see me and I just wanted my own life... now I don't have that I am sad... I just have to keep on reminding myself that I am young, healthy, have amazing friends and even OK looking... eekk that sounds vain! And one day I will find someone else who loves me but until then I just have to enjoy being on my own... that sounds all so easy in writing if only I could really believe it lol!

Day 2 of reinstated NC (after a 13 day stretch blown). Actually feeling pretty good. Imagining myself over the next couple of months focusing on me and whatever I want to do. Seeing my ex the other day actually made me realize he's not so spectacular! God! He should be chasing me not the other way around.

Just got to remember that life goes on and is going on as I speak and that my life is not over because I lost someone. There will be many more where he came from. If I can feel that love for him than one day I will be able to feel that again if not better for someone who deserves and will return those feelings towards me. One day! Got to remember, this isn't a race... it's a journey.

We're all in this together... most of the time though I feel myself needing/missing company.. and not necessarily hers.. Like when I'm bored and I have nothing to do its when I start thinking about her, and thinking that if someone else was in the picture it wouldn't be so hard...
I'm whoring myself atm keeping my options open. *thumbs up*

Ooook.. so after Day 9 of N/C.

And the whole weird text from him "I'll call soon. I can't now. I'll explain later." And after he knew I was molested, etc.

As I posted before, Saturday he was out with a girl I hate (and I know he doesn't even like) and my brother saw him.

And TONIGHT he texts me and is like "How are you?"

Ugh. I am SO not responding. Him. Blatantly disrespectful jerk.

Well, I'm back. Tal and losingit you were both right. I appreciate you seeing me through with a clear head while I'm blinded. Not only did I never get lunch she hasn't even come to eat outside my office for the last couple of days so I'm back on day 4 of NC and worse yet no free lunch.