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  • Jun 2, 2010, 06:29 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    They look like cabbage patch kid shoes! :eek:

    There's something wrong with the world.




    Yep!
  • Jun 2, 2010, 07:26 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by aimee_tt View Post
    So many parents complain saying they can't controll their kids no matter how hard they try...

    My mum controlled 3 as well as my dad wgo is in a wheel chair and can only do limited things him self.

    A couple of few days ago i saw a boy who looked like he was in kindy telling this other girl the same age that she was sexy and he was doing to do to her what parents did.

    I straight away followed the little girl home and told her parents about it. All her parents said was stay away from him! I would have gone to the school and complained till something was done!

    Whats happening to society!

    You are a lucky girl!
  • Jun 2, 2010, 07:28 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    You are a lucky girl!





    I agree!
  • Jun 2, 2010, 08:21 PM
    Homegirl 50

    This is a different world.
    I'm glad I'm not raising kids now.
  • Jun 2, 2010, 08:24 PM
    hheath541

    I'm glad I don't plan on having any. I'll stick to raising cats, thankyouverymuch.
  • Jun 2, 2010, 08:29 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by hheath541 View Post
    I'm glad i don't plan on having any. i'll stick to raising cats, thankyouverymuch.

    Well, you're at the potty-training stage now. Soon you'll be managing the dating stage. Then there'll be the adoption stage.
  • Jun 2, 2010, 08:32 PM
    Kitkat22

    A whole new generation of kids. Parents need to set boundaries and be consistent. Mine were and we were with our own.
  • Jun 3, 2010, 03:33 AM
    QLP
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    This is a different world.
    I'm glad I'm not raising kids now.

    I knew there had to be some benefits to me being so old. :p
  • Jun 3, 2010, 04:12 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    It's the movies and TV and the music industry.

    Bingo! They see this highly romanticized version of love and relationships and they want in.

    In my opinion one on one dating should not start until 14. Between 12 and 13 I can see group dating where they hang out in groups. Before that no boy-girl relationships.

    But I have to agree that girls are developing earlier. And this is contributing to the problem.
  • Jun 3, 2010, 07:57 AM
    classyT

    Alty,

    I agree with you. I didn't have trouble with my 17 year old.. he still thought girls had cooties when he was 12. ( I keep telling him they STILL do... but the hormone thing has kicked in and taken over.. ha ha)

    BUT... my 12 year old is another ballgame. He doesn't go out on dates and in fact never gets to see his" girlfriend" except in the halls at school. BUT the kids his age are out of control. They thow the words "i love you" around like it has no meaning. He is only 12 and I have caught him telling two girls now he LOVES them.

    I think Facebook and texting has a lot to do with it too. It is so easy to say ANYTHING through texting. They can ask girls out, say things they'd never have the guts to do otherwise. He recently asked me how his dad asked me out if there was no texting when we were dating!?

    I think more parents should take an interest in what their kids are doing and saying to the opposite sex. He is no different than the rest of the kids his age BUT.. I have to get involved and redirect him from time to time. It is not a good thing.
  • Jun 3, 2010, 08:02 AM
    Homegirl 50

    I agree classyT, the times are different and the kids are doing more but as parents we have to step up our game. We need to be more involved, redirect them from time to time.
    I'm a firm believer in staying in your kid's business.
  • Jun 3, 2010, 08:07 AM
    classyT

    Homegirl,

    I agree! :)
  • Jun 3, 2010, 08:29 AM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by classyT View Post
    Homegirl,

    I agree! :)



    I also agree..
  • Jun 3, 2010, 09:50 AM
    hheath541
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Well, you're at the potty-training stage now. Soon you'll be managing the dating stage. Then there'll be the adoption stage.

    my furbabies aren't allowed to date. The last time edith dated, she got knocked-up. No more dating for her.

    edit:
    just to clarify, I'm talking about my kitties ^_^
  • Jun 3, 2010, 09:52 AM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by hheath541 View Post
    my furbabies aren't allowed to date. The last time edith dated, she got knocked-up. No more dating for her.










    :eek:
  • Jun 3, 2010, 11:21 AM
    classyT

    I started thinking... when I was 12 I liked boys went to boy/ girl parties and played spin the bottle.. ( yes, I am OLD). I still think they are too young to be "going out" or dating. Certainly they are too young to tell someone they are "in love" with them. So I totally get the concern and rightly so. But I will share something with you that my youngest said last night that helped me out and put things into perspective for me.

    He told me he couldn't wait until sixth grade was over when I questioned why, he said, "because sixth grade drama is the worst because it is the first year you really have drama". Then after he heard me talking about some problems with my sister, then he said " i was wrong, OLD people drama is the worst".
  • Jun 3, 2010, 11:27 AM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by classyT View Post
    I started thinking....when i was 12 I liked boys went to boy/ girl parties and played spin the bottle..( yes, I am OLD). I still think they are too young to be "going out" or dating. Certainly they are too young to tell someone they are "in love" with them. So I totally get the concern and rightly so. But I will share something with you that my youngest said last night that helped me out and put things into perspective for me.

    He told me he couldn't wait until sixth grade was over when I questioned why, he said, "because sixth grade drama is the worst because it is the first year you really have drama". Then after he heard me talking about some problems with my sister, then he said " i was wrong, OLD people drama is the worst".

    Smart Kid:)
  • Jun 3, 2010, 11:33 AM
    hheath541
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by classyT View Post
    I started thinking....when i was 12 I liked boys went to boy/ girl parties and played spin the bottle..( yes, I am OLD). I still think they are too young to be "going out" or dating. Certainly they are too young to tell someone they are "in love" with them. So I totally get the concern and rightly so. But I will share something with you that my youngest said last night that helped me out and put things into perspective for me.

    He told me he couldn't wait until sixth grade was over when I questioned why, he said, "because sixth grade drama is the worst because it is the first year you really have drama". Then after he heard me talking about some problems with my sister, then he said " i was wrong, OLD people drama is the worst".

    I agree with him, on both counts ^_^
  • Jun 3, 2010, 11:47 AM
    Kitkat22

    Classy T... remember. "and a little child shall lead them"
  • Jun 3, 2010, 11:58 AM
    classyT

    Kit,

    LOL... I know it.

    Hheath,

    You just think" OLD people drama" is the worst because you are closer to my sons age than MINE! :D UGH.. I feel really old now.

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