Ask Me Help Desk - The NC Calendar III

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

still can't get over it 9 years.thats one third of my whole life

Look at my sister... she dated a guy for over 2 years and she found out that he was married and has a kid now.

She's 27.

Wow. That's messed up.How is she holding up?

But you got time on your side... it will help you heal and eventually she will have been a small part of your life...

Don't be so hard on yourself, its only been three days. For some of us, it was weeks or months before you notice any appreciable difference. It will happen, just take each day as it comes. Like you said, Day 3 of NC is almost over... Now shoot for 4 :)

Hang in there, when you need a boost, come on here and vent.. It helps

Pathetic... I started the NC this morning.. and I already broke it!! Can't delete his number.. I have it memorized... *uGh* I hate that I have the urge to call him... and I'm the only that let go!

Thanks.Time to go to bed for me.Hopefully tomorrow is better

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

wow. thats messed up.How is she holding up?

She's been single for a long time~
In fact, she doesn't care about it... but she teaches me a lot of lessons on relationships

DAY 4 NC=Felt pretty ty in the morning when I woke up. Felling better now, hopefully I won't be thinking about her today.I wonder why is it that when I wake up I always start thinking about her.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

DAY 4 NC=Felt pretty ty in the morning when i woke up. Felling better now, hopefully i wont be thinking about her today.I wonder why is it that when i wake up i always start thinking about her.

Happens to everyone, it fades with time, but for the longest time mornings were the toughest for me. You were probably used to talking first thing in the morning.. maybe a good morning phone call or something like that? Try to have something planned for first thing in the morning... If you run, or work out, do that first thing in the morning... If you change your morning routine, it can help...

I have got to work on my masters thesis, this whole mess is so distracting, can't concentrate
I don't miss her or have the urge to call her, so why the hell am I so sad then?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

i have gotta work on my masters thesis, this whole mess is so distracting, can't concentrate
I dont miss her or have the urge to call her, so why the hell am i so sad then??

Change isn't easy on a lot of people. The emotions your going to feel in the coming days and weeks are tough to describe and they will change like the winds. Everyone who has gone through it can attest to the fact that it truly is a rollercoaster. If you can ride out the lows, you will be fine.

DAY 4 NC=Could have been worse, but it was probably the worst day after day 1 of NC.But I keep this going. Lord have mercy have on me.Thanks for all your help guyz.

End of day 4 of NC=Feel like , I miss her I guess.

Of course you miss her... if you didn't you would be kidding yourself... think of how long she was part of your life, whether you do want to get back with her, the affect of this loss is going to make you sad regardless... It's human.

I'm going to be home alone for a weekend... 100% sure I'm not geetting laid =/

I'll probably order some shrooms and chew on that.. *sigh*

Relationships make me sick now D:

Day5 NC= I feel like , how long is it going to take me to get over her, I can't handle this anymore

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

Day5 NC= I feel like , how long is it going to take me to get over her, i can't handle this anymore

Keep yourself busy and put away everything that reminds you of her.

GET BUSY with rebuilding!

Feeling a lot better now, mornings are always the worst.Thanks a lot guyz, this forum keeps me going.

So how long does it take to get over a 9 year relationship?? Its going to take for ever, isn't it.:{

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

So how long does it take to get over a 9 year relationship???Its going to take for ever, isnt it.:{

Depends on the person.

Some heal quick, most heal slow.

Over all, it takes time.

Patience my friend, it all takes time, just don't get frustrated and give up on yourself...

We've been there and know how you feel, so trust me when I say you will feel better, but you need to hang in there... it isn't a quick process...

I can tell you that the more time you spend worrying about how long it will take, the longer it will seem to take. Try not to think about getting better... try not thinking :p

I was just about to call her, had to talk myself out of it.I really don't have anything to say to her, even if I call what the hell am I going to talk about.

Hey guys, I haven't been on here in a veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy long time.
I'd just like to say that I've been enjoying these past few months actually being single and all.
I've met a few girls but it hasn't been anything serious. I still miss my ex and I still do love her but I isn't letting it hold me back. You only have one life to live and you might as well live it.
For those of you struggling, check out my thread if you can to see how far I've come.
I've been NC for over 5 months and it can be quite tough... there are going to be bumpy rides, but always keep your head up.
I'm not going to say that I'm fully healed but I'm going in the right direction.
Would I want to get back with her? No not at the moment, I have way too many things on my plate and I actually think this break up was a sign because I think if I was in a relationship right now, I'd be kind of screwed in terms of work/college.
Everything has a way of working out, even though you may not think it is.

Quote:

Originally Posted by spion_kop

hey guys, i havent been on here in a veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy long time.
I'd just like to say that i've been enjoying these past few months actually being single and all.
I've met a few girls but it hasnt been anything serious. I still miss my ex and I still do love her but I aint letting it hold me back. You only have one life to live and you might as well live it.
For those of you struggling, check out my thread if you can to see how far i've come.
I've been NC for over 5 months and it can be quite tough...there are gonna be bumpy rides, but always keep your head up.
I'm not gonna say that i'm fully healed but I'm going in the right direction.
Would I want to get back with her? No not at the moment, I have way too many things on my plate and i actually think this break up was a sign because I think if i was in a relationship right now, I'd be kind of screwed in terms of work/college.
Everything has a way of working out, even though you may not think it is.

I'm right behind you... 4 months of NC

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

I was just about to call her, had to talk my self out of it.I really dont have anything to say to her, even if i call what the hell am i going to talk about.

Find some hobbies...

For me, I'm into fixing up cars and drifting xD

End of Day 5 of NC=another day tomorrow,days will turn into months and months into years of NC.(Hopefully). Good night people

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

End of Day 5 of NC=another day tomorrow,days will turn into months and months into years of NC.(Hopefully). Good night people

Perfect attitude... you'll eventually stop counting too. Time is all it takes! :)

I'm actually starting to get quite worried...
It's been going on four months since I broke up with my ex and I'm still not feeling AT all better or thinking of him at ALL less
I'm starting to think I won't recover from all this...

Stay with it Boris, and get busy.

Boris keep at it, believe me its hard, but you have to keep living your life. There is no use waiting for her to be part of your life when she doesn't want to.
Good Luck Buddy

Quote:

Originally Posted by Boristheblade

I'm actually starting to get quite worried....
It's been going on four months since I broke up with my ex and I'm still not feeling AT all better or thinking of him at ALL less
I'm starting to think I won't recover from all this...

We're in the same boat!

The only things that I am really mad at myself for is that I tried to convince her to say when she was breaking up with me on the phone. SHould not have done that.Whatever I guess, its too late now

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

The only things that i am really mad at myself for is that i tried to convince her to say when she was breaking up with me on the phone. SHould not have done that.Whatever i guess, its too late now

You can't blame yourself for that now. You loved her and wanted her to stay. She can't blame you for it either, it showed that you cared. Take the lesson you learned and don't forget it.

Asking for your guyz's(ladies) opinion on this. Do you think I can talk my ex into coming back. I could compromise on some of the stuff we had problems with, I already told her this when we were breaking up that I was ready to comprise.Maybe if I tell her again.

(I know its not going to work, but this thought has been going through my head for the last couple of days)

Truth is, you can't convince anyone to do anything they don't want to... Hard to hear, but no, she probably has her mind made up.

You are right. It just hurts, the thing about is that I didn't even see the breakup coming.Even though this is the third time she has broken up with me, you think I would wise up
The funny thing is when she broke up with me she brought up things I thought we had already resolved.
It hard to move on but I am trying.I am just rambling on here trying to get things of my chest.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

You are right. It just hurts, the thing about is that i didnt even see the breakup coming.Even though this is the third time she has broken up with me, you think i would wise up
The funny thing is when she broke up with me she brought up things i thought we had already resolved.
It hard to move on but i am trying.I am just rambling on here trying to get things of my chest.

Dude

Find other girls~

Trust me xD

Right now, I'm talking to a lot of girls... one of them is moving to Oregon and she plans on visiting the South (Southern California) and we've talked about chilling..

DAY 7 OF NC=Had a dream last night she was married to some one else, made me feel sick.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dare81

Boris keep at it, believe me its hard, but you have to keep living your life. There is no use waiting for her to be part of your life when she doesn't want to.
Good Luck Buddy

Thank you
But I'm a girl... and it's a he

I can see how the name "Boris" is confusing though:)