Ask Me Help Desk - Child support and an open debate.

/shrug... the CP spends more afterwards too.

It's more expensive to run two households.

I'm certain the CP didn't spend the WHOLE amounts of rent, food, utilities, clothing, etc, out of their paycheck before the split, either.

So--do you want to split everything the CP has down the middle and that's what the NCP pays? That would be one heck of a lot more than most pay in child support now, frankly.

I know a guy that got saddled with over $7,000 a month for three kids... EACH! No way in hell was they spending that much on the kids every month before the split. Not even on ALL of them combined. For EVERYTHING.

Its more about screwing somebody than it is about the kids.

Now of course there are those that won't contribute anything... then you have states that force you to pay for kids that aren't even yours... not a lot of fairness or even reasonableness involved with that.

Here's an idea:

How about people only have kids with the people they want to stay married to the rest of their lives?

Then they don't have to worry about it.

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Originally Posted by Synnen

Here's an idea:

How about people only have kids with the people they want to stay married to the rest of their lives?

then they don't have to worry about it.

Exactly... or even better... you got kids... you ain't getting divorced until they are legal age... so suck it up and deal with it.

(yeah I know that's oversimplifying it)

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Originally Posted by smoothy

Exactly.........or even better....you got kids....you ain't gettin divorced until they are legal age.....so suck it up and deal with it.

(yeah I know thats oversimplifying it)

It used to be that way. It was divorce by fault. Now in today's times its no-fault divorce. So you don't have to have a reason to get a divorce or destroy lives. You can do it because you "feel" like it.

Yeah... that's the issue.

No one is at "fault"---so no one has to take responsibility.

I know sometimes divorce is for the best--but seriously, I'm so sick of people who think they have the right to be HAPPY. Sorry--you don't have that as a right. Just as a goal to pursue.

That, however, means WORK to be happy, and most idiots aren't willing to do the work.

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Originally Posted by Synnen

Yeah...that's the issue.

No one is at "fault"---so no one has to take responsibility.

I know sometimes divorce is for the best--but seriously, I'm so sick of people who think they have the right to be HAPPY. Sorry--you don't have that as a right. Just as a goal to pursue.

That, however, means WORK to be happy, and most idiots aren't willing to do the work.

Sure they are willing to do the work. But often its through anothers assistance. In the old days we called them cheaters. Too many think that the initial bliss of falling in love lasts forever no matter what. It doesn't. The ebb and flow of life has relationships seeing many tides come and go. In today's times the foundation is forgotten completely.

Sure its nice to think that people will be and stay married the rest of their lives. But reality shows us that many done allow for lifes changes. And translate it into something else. Many that had children after long relationships and then end in divorce thought it would last a lifetime.

How long is long enough - how long is stable enough before having children?