Hey Guys,
How are you all doing?
Hey, is the NC Calender still on the 'Relationships' forum?
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Hey Guys,
How are you all doing?
Hey, is the NC Calender still on the 'Relationships' forum?
The old one is, this is a continuation and it isn't.Quote:
Originally Posted by starlite1
Its here:
Forum Community > Member Discussions > Other Member Discussions > The NC Calendar II
Awww it was great seeing the post grow, oh well
How's everyone today
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Originally Posted by jolienoire
Hwy Jolie
I've been to the jersey shore,it has the most beaautiful beaches therebut I'm a NYC girl so to all the jersey people,hey! You do have nice beaches
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Originally Posted by classicrocker
Hey Classic,
I love that signature,no news is good news, I think I may be the longest on NC,its almost 4 months! Haven't broke it and won't,because no news is good news!
Great, Thanks Guys!Quote:
Originally Posted by bigbird213
How is everyone today?
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Originally Posted by NorthernNiceGuy
Hi NNG,
That was amazing!! Thank you for sharing this with us! I am so glad you had a great time :) Excellent!
Yep, that was great NNG made me smile
Hi JPM,
How are you doing? How was your weekend?
Hey Guys, I really appreciate all the support on the video, really truly feels like I have made some serious friends on here. Great experience, still riding the hight from it.
Although... There has been a problem created from it.
I posted my video on Facebook and tagged the people I went on it with as well. Well my ex has these people on her friend's list as well and could watch it from their profiles (as I refuse to add her as a friend).
She texted me in the morning saying that was so amazing, I never thought you of all people would do something like that. (it was a big plus to me that a while ago I mentioned I wanted to do this and she said I was too chicken to in a mean way) Well I did and had a great time doing it.
Anyway the texts continued during the day, it eventually came out that she isn't happy where she is living right now and really really wants me to come see her. At the end of the night she sent me a few more saying... "I need you to visit me right now :(" "I feel like a part of me is missing... and its you in my life" "Please come I can't stop thinking about you" "I miss absolutely everything about you"
These were pretty heavy texts, and they kind of got to me. I am sort of getting the feeling she hasn't run into a guy that matches up to me down there, and she has seen me do this skydive, knows I've been traveling and have just started a pretty cool job. It is probably bugging her that I am doing and accomplishing a lot of things with out her.
She's basically said everything but I want you back (not going to get back with her), which really makes me think this is just her wanting validation from me that I am still pinning for her. I think if I gave that too her she would stop bugging me... What do you guys think. Also tomorrow is our official 4 year anniversary so that could be another factor.
I will admit, it made me feel a lot better that she said these things to me, and I did feel like blurting out I will come visit you on the weekend and I miss you more and all that stuff... I know better though.
Thanks for listening
Ah cool here is everybody. Been really hard maintaing NC today but I am doing it.
Vivia 4 months of NC is awesome. Good job.
jrsg thanks for squaring me away mate.
NNG,
Stop the contact. You can already see that it has been driving you nuts and is starting to eat at your mind.
Your best bet is to let her be on her own and not give into her wants for validation. She wants to know that your still pining for her (your right) and if you give her that, she won't need you for validation anymore.
And honestly, do you really want to be talking to her just because she hasn't been able to find someone else who matches her desires? That isn't fair to you.
NNG - I agree with bigbird. Its tough but it sounds like she's trying to use you for her own ego boost. She wants to know that she can still have an impact on you emotionally and she's lonely and wants to know that's there at least someone out there that's still pining over her. Don't let her use you. I'm not saying at all that she's a bad person or she even consciously understands what she's doing to you. But you're better off just letting it go and not feeding into her ego. It sucks, I know but you got to look at her motives.
No problem buddy,Quote:
Originally Posted by f104
So you said that maintaining NC is hard for you right now, day 8. Did something happen to bring back memories? Or is it just one of those days?
@ classicrocker: Same =/
@bigbird: Well, she can go to a club when she's 21 & meet guys... it does suck =/
Bigbird and losinit,
You're right, I knew it myself, just needed you guys to confirm it. Its been almost two months and now she is doing this... I did break nc, but not badly, I only responded 3 times, with short answers, two of which were just about how fun skydiving was.
f104, keep your NC going, I have broken it a few times over the last two months and it has been nothing but bad for me. It really takes the wind out of your sails. You guys really impress me, my ex had treated me horribly and I still gave in to talk to her sometimes. I can say that I never contacted her first though, it was always in response to her (still doesn't make it right)
Even though I have broken it my good days are finally now out numbering my bad ones. Its an exciting feeling to know you are going to be OK and heal from this. Can't wait till you guys and gals in the early stages are there, and you will be soon enough! We're all rooting for you!
And I just noticed that I have been kicked out of college cause I could not pass my writing class. Wow... time for summer school or classes at community college..
damn it =/
NNG,
I'm glad to hear it. Sorry that my post sounded a little harsh, I just re-read it. I was writing it quick and didn't want to put it off and forget to respond (I had to leave). I didn't mean that to be offensive towards your ex, as I agree with losingit, sometimes I think the ex's don't even consciously know what they are doing, but they are doing it nonetheless.
Congrats of thinking through it and seeking advice when you needed it.
Hang in there.
NNG - Glad to hear the good days are outnumbering the bad days. That's healing and growth.
I haven't been on here much lately cause I've actually been keeping busy building my new life. Almost 3 months since my breakup and I can honestly say I haven't had a bad day in a long time. Sure, I still think of him everyday but not in a sad way. I look back fondly at some of the memories we had, the lessons we both learned, etc. But in no way do I want him back. Looking back now with a clear head, I can thank him for releasing me from a dead-end and unhappy relationship. I know I would never have had the strength to walk away on my own but he did the deed for me, and I'm honestly pretty thankful he let me go. He was right when he broke up with me and said "losingit, you deserve everything you want in this world..". I do. And now I'm free to go get it.
For those still hurting, one day you'll get there and it won't hurt anymore. It'll happen. I thought it never would but I'm here and am living proof that it does get better... and better... and better..
Oh know worries buddy, wasn't harsh at all, you got the message across loud and clear and that's what I need. Every time she has contacted me that's what she has done... so she's got to know by now!!Quote:
Originally Posted by bigbird213
hmm... I feel tempted to call up my ex =/
Don't you dare call her hj... You are feeling down because of failing and are looking for some comfort, and you are not going to get it. The best revenge is a life well lived, from now on take advantage of being single to do the best job you can possibly do in every aspect of your life. I know from your other posts school is very important to you so get your studies back on track. The worst thing you can do is let other aspects of your life fall apart... it just puts you deeper in a hole and you will one day find yourself really struggling to climb out.
True true...Quote:
Originally Posted by NorthernNiceGuy
I am currently writing down modified silvias (s13s, s14s, s15s) so when I have a silvia, I can modify with different parts. *sigh*... I never knew my life would be this dis-stressful.
What's a silvia?Quote:
Originally Posted by hjpan
Nissan Silvia - Wikipedia, the free encyclopediaQuote:
Originally Posted by bigbird213
Hey... why were we moved?
Not sure, but I lost a load of posts, feel like I lost money in my bank account!
Maybe the credit crunch hit the NC calendar!
As the threads were moved to member discussion, where it should really be, post counts have been automatically recalculated as the MD boards are zero rated.
Sorry for the confusion.
Whoa was last night a tough night for me.
I was just lying in bed and suddenly started crying, think the fact my ex wants another guy really hit me last night.
Zoo,
You're a top man, and even better that you are a U2 fan, I guess? My fave band too.
The fact that you're a top man, and the money, means that your ex just got it wrong. The fact that you're a top man and the money means that someone somewhere is going to be very very lucky to have you.
Don't know what else to say, I'm not that great with the advice, but all I know is that it sucks, but life sometimes doesn't give you exactly what you want.
Cheers man, means a lot
And yep I love u2, my fave band as you can no doubt tell by my name on this lol
Once again thanks for what you said :)
It's a real git, as you know. But we are young and got a lot of living to do. So that's a positive.
Im still in a rux. My ex's birthday is in 3 days and half of my friends said not to text her at all. The other half said that I should, I'm still caught in the middle and it's bugging the crap out of me
Bud listen to me.Quote:
Originally Posted by spion_kop
My ex's birthday was yesterday. We haven't talked in about 2 months. I was considering sending her a card, but I decided not to.
In all honesty, the day went by faster than I had expected. I thought about it a lot in the AM, but that passed pretty quick and I got over it quickly. What I told myself is that she didn't want to be with me, and part of what she was giving up was the kindness that I extended to her (cards, gifts, kind wishes). Don't send a text or a card. You don't owe her anything, and you shouldn't feel bad (like I did) because you aren't sending one. You have no reason to, she told you to get out of her life (though in nicer terms) so that's what you need to do.
Sorry if it sounds harsh, but it really is the right thing to do. I did it and I am just as good as I was the day before. That's better than risking it, no?
Hi Bigbird,Quote:
Originally Posted by bigbird213
That is excellent advice. And good for you!!
Thanks for the advice bigbird.
One of my friends went through the same situation. This is what happened to her but she was the dumper. She didn't wish him all day because she had forgotten and then later on that night she wished him. Half a year later they got back together and he was really pissed off that she didn't call him all day etc etc.
I know that I shouldn't do it because she isn't part of my life anymore and she chose to take me out of hers but I guess I can't be that cruel I think. I know I'm making too much out of nothing but I'm conflicted.
Speaking of which, she sent me a text yesterday night saying "I got my full driver's licence today, not that you care anyways"Obviously I didn't reply to it and it was kind of funny. She still thinks about me a lot and can't handle the fact that I don't give her the attention for which she craves for.
She knows damn well that I care but she just wants a response
Precisely...Quote:
Originally Posted by spion_kop
Don't play the games. And I know its hard not to feel like a bad person for not wishing her a happy birthday, but really - why? You aren't together anymore, and you must accept that if you haven't already. Are you really going to risk how you feel now so that she won't be mad at you in the future should you ever get back together?
-Do you really think there is a chance that would happen in the future?
Even if it did, she has no right to get angry with you for not wishing her a happy birthday... and if she did, it just shows what kind of person she is. It shows that she thinks she can have you hanging on by a thread...
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Originally Posted by zooropa1985
Dude I hear you. It has been a tough couple of days here too. Just when I think I am getting a handle on this I start bawling. It is nuts.
Same except I didn't cry~Quote:
Originally Posted by zooropa1985
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