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  • Aug 26, 2008, 04:54 PM
    Alty
    For our sweet Chery
    For Chery aka Momma C,

    Starbuck8 aka Starby and I have been talking about doing this for a while, so here it goes. Chery, we hope you don't mind.

    As many of you may know, Chery has terminal cancer, and she’s recently taken a turn for the worse.

    Chery has been a member of AMHD for many years; she is a wonderful person, a great listener, and a great problem solver.

    Chery is always there when she’s needed, call on her and she comes running, ready to give a hug, a kind word, whatever is needed. Now she needs us, she needs our support during this difficult trial.

    What can I say about Momma C, there’s so much to say. She is everything rolled in to one, and I, for one, consider myself blessed because she is my friend.

    Tears are running down my cheeks as I’m writing this, I don’t know what to say, how to describe someone who is indescribable?

    I know that all of you want to give her the support that she’s always given to us on AMHD. It’s our turn to give a shoulder, to lend an ear, to be there for our wonderful Momma C.

    Hopefully you are all allot more eloquent than I am. ;)

    Chery, all I can say is this, I love you dear, you have made such a big difference in my life. I’ve never seen you face to face, never held your hand, never gave you a real bear hug, but that doesn’t matter. I see your heart every time you write something on this site. I see your soul when you talk to us. You are an angel on earth, a bona fide angel, and you are loved.
  • Aug 26, 2008, 05:27 PM
    startover22
    Chery, knowing you and your strength, you will be feeling better real soon! I love you
  • Aug 26, 2008, 05:40 PM
    jrebel7
    What a lovely idea from two sweet friends for a special friend, Chery!

    Chery, you have won the heart of so many on this site. You are the persona of love and acceptance. When I was a new kid on the block, you were warm and welcoming, making me feel a part of something so much larger than any of us! I thank you for that.

    Your sense of humor hits me right between the eyes, just when I need a huge laugh! We know bad things happen to good people and if it were within our power to change this situation for you, we would all do it in a moment! We love you! I love you. You have taken me under your wing in PM's as well as posting together on same threads. You have a great way of looking at life and death and have been an inspiration to my heart. The love you have for your family, your little grandson, is so phenomenal and touches all of us. What a great legacy, this love of yours!

    Chery, the fight you have in you, I hope I can one day possess. You inspire me to be stronger in my daily life with the issues I face. You speak with clarity of thought and purpose.

    Thank you Chery for all you are to me and to this site! I love you! Anything I can do, I am here for you, day or night. Sometimes the nights get long. Just let me know and I will be here for you!

    The love you provide Chery, meets more needs than you can even imagine.

    Now Chery, just because we are sharing how much you mean to us, doesn't mean you can stop giving us all this good advice we need!! LOL We are not giving up our hopes and desires for a miracle in your life. Feel better soon and when we get out of line, give us "what for", will you??

    Love you much! Jan (sometimes known as Princess Rebby!) :)

    I sure would love to fly over there to Germany and take you for a ride on my Rebel. What a great time that would be. We will just have to take a "virtual" trip together on the bike, soon!
  • Aug 26, 2008, 05:42 PM
    starbuck8
    You've got all of the prayers and hugs in the world from me my sweets, and I am going shopping on Thursday, and buying myself some green apple candles! :D I'll think of you and know you will feel better soon, every time I light them! Lord knows my house needs a better smell than skunk! ;)

    We started this just so you know how much we care, appreciate, and love you bunches Momma C. Feel better soon, and I'm so glad you had a nice weekend! :)

    We aren't going to let you leave us here my dear! Who will kick butt, and who will give us a wake up call when we need one?! No one but you can do that, and we listen because well frankly... we are scared what will happen if we don't... LOL! ;) ;)

    You can call me anytime day or night also. I'm awake, I'm always awake! LOL!
  • Aug 26, 2008, 05:46 PM
    jrebel7
    Alty and Starby, thank you for providing this wonderful venue for us to express our feelings in one place to our unique and special friend, Chery!

    Love and Hugs!
  • Aug 26, 2008, 06:46 PM
    Alty
    Rebbie, it was our pleasure. We've been wanting to do this for a long time, ad it's about time that we did.

    Chery is such a wonderful person, I have adopted her as my mother, and she took me in with open arms, no hesitation whatsoever.

    Chery dear, there is no one else like you, and I have been so blessed to know you. What would have happened had I not stumbled on to this site. Thank goodness for AMHD, and for my virtual family, my extended family, heck, my family. :)

    Love you all so much.
  • Aug 27, 2008, 12:46 AM
    Allheart
    Alty and Star - What beautiful hearts you both have.

    Chery - We rejoice in knowing you, we rejoice in loving you and we rejoice for being so blessed to have touched our lives.

    I believe with all my heart, there are beautiful angels who do walk this earth, who's calling is to love, heal and give. Chery, our angel on earth, my goodness how you have answered your calling in ways none of us could ever duplicate, but we cherish you, your love, your gifts that you give so freely...

    And mostly, We love you and are right there by your side.

    Thank you Chery for allowing us and sharing your beautiful innerspirit, love and wisdom with all of us.

    Love,
    Allheart
  • Aug 27, 2008, 10:01 AM
    ISneezeFunny
    Momma C:

    I've been on this site for only a few months, but even in that short time, you've shown me what a wonderful person you are. Your caring ways have shown us what one should strive to become.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you, and remember, I'll be sure to have the green apple candle always burning.
  • Aug 27, 2008, 03:39 PM
    Chery
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    My dear sweet friends. I thank you with all my heart for the friendship and love you have shown me in so many ways these past years and months - and this one is so endearing to me and always will be special. Of course you know that I am crying tears of such emotional endearment right now - and no my dear Alty, I'm not mad (how could I be with such a wonderful 'daughter' as you!).

    The care and support I feel coming from you all just overwhelms me so and no matter how I feel, or how much pain I am in, I will certainly not give you or those who need me up. Even though my visits here have been a little sporadic lately, I intend to stay with you until I can no longer type - and you know me, I'm tough, so I will be here for as long as I can.

    I have already talked to my daughter and asked her to inform you when the time comes where I can no longer join you on AMHD and I sincerely hope that this is still far away in the future. I am currently going through a new therapy regimen and hope it will improve my stamina so that I can sit up longer and be more active here - we'll have to wait and see. It's a new non-radioactive infusion therapy and I hope I am in the upper percentage of those it works positive on.

    My grandson has started to look forward to seeing me and the looks and smiles I get from him now - and even a hug now and then, just make me more determined not to give up yet. So, keep them green apple candles lit because they seem to be working.

    I'm attaching two pictures from this past weekend and hope that they bring a smile to your hearts as they certainly did mine.. Got to work on getting the red-eye out of the pictures and am making a DVD with slideshows of 2007 and 2008 so that Alex can watch then on TV later.

    The love and warmth I share with you all is beyond description and I appreciate it ever so much.

    In love, Your Momma C.
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  • Aug 27, 2008, 05:34 PM
    startover22
    Chery, I love the pictures, too sweet for words so I won't even try. Hugs and lot's a love. You are always in my thoughts;)
  • Aug 27, 2008, 06:28 PM
    Alty
    What a cute little blondie, and your grandson is adorable too. ;)

    Great pics Chery, so nice of you to share them with us. :)
  • Aug 27, 2008, 06:54 PM
    starbuck8
    I sure hope that new therapy works well for you. We know you are strong, and you can kick some royal butt against those nasty little scouts! Cheers to you Momma C! :D

    Love and Hugs from the little girl that first asked if you could adopt me, and if I could call you Momma C! You've got sooooo many children now to take care of now! What have you been doing with your nights? ;) LOL!

    I loved seeing your pics when you sent them to me, and I meant to comment on how sweet little baby A is. Those eyes are some real lady killers!
  • Aug 27, 2008, 06:55 PM
    talaniman
    Only a very special person can reach around the world, and touch so many hearts, and minds, I for one thank you, for taking time, and just being so darn special, to so many.
  • Aug 27, 2008, 08:43 PM
    Stringer
    I guess I am not as tough as I thought I was Chery, I am sitting here typing with tears running from my eyes... "Indescribable" does not begin to to speak to how I feel about you my dear. You and I go back over a year and a half, and every time we "spoke" your first concern was about me... me, can you imagine?. Wow (sorry... I had to stop... couldn't see my keyboard)... damn...

    I have posted many times about how much I miss my mother and what a great adviser, friend and consultant she was to me. When she passed, you were one of the first to help... there was so much pain. Your sincere caring and help was so needed, but... you were there, not just once... you were there for me always.

    If anyone would have told me that someone living half way around the world, that I have never seen in person could mean sooo much to me, I would never have believe them, never. But you do Chery, you do.

    All the posts on this thread sum up how I feel about you, you are SPECIAL, very special. If anyone ever came close to being for me what I lost over a year ago, it is you.

    From the bottom of my heart, I thank you. You gave me the strength when I needed it.

    There are so many forms of love Chery, My love for you is admiration, respect, caring.. I feel like you are one of my family.

    Well, I know that mom is looking down on you and smiling... and that you helped her boy when he needed it and nodding her head in agreement...

    Much love to one of the best people I have been blessed to call my friend.

    Stringer
  • Aug 28, 2008, 03:53 AM
    Unknown008
    Oh, Chery, I feel very sad for you... I don't know what to say... I met you so recently and you're perhaps going soon... but this short elapsed time was wonderful with your presence, and that of the others. I was perhaps the first time that I could talk to people so openly. I know that you're a fighter and will always be for me, as you proved on one of the other boards. And you have a wonderful grandson there! Keep strong and don't be too sad. I'll pray for you as I did before and perhaps I'll even try the green apple candles for you. I love you much, you were like a mommy for me. Peace be with you, always.

    Big big hugs,
    Jeremy.
  • Aug 28, 2008, 10:59 PM
    friend4u178
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    WOW
    How did I miss this thread :(

    Chery I can only echo what everyone else has said on here , I have been on this site now for a year and have found so many good people who I have never met and yet I still classify as my friends.

    You are one very special person , one who gives people hope and I can't imagine how many hearts you have helped to heal with all your great and caring advise. I wish you all the best with everything you do :)
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  • Aug 28, 2008, 11:13 PM
    Chery
    Aw, Friend, that's such a cute picture. Thanks ever so much. You too have already been 'adopted' so call me Momma C any time.

    I always wanted a big family and am happy to have this one - better late than never.

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  • Aug 28, 2008, 11:25 PM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Unknown008
    Oh, Chery, i feel very sad for you.... i don't know what to say.... i met you so recently and you're perhaps going soon... but this short elapsed time was wonderful with your presence, and that of the others. i was perhaps the first time that i could talk to people so openly. I know that you're a fighter and will always be for me, as you proved on one of the other boards. And you have a wonderful grandson there! Keep strong and don't be too sad. I'll pray for you as i did before and perhaps i'll even try the green apple candles for you. I love you much, you were like a mommy for me. Peace be with you, always.

    Big big hugs,
    Jeremy.

    Thanks dear, call me Momma C any time - all of you can.
    One favor you can do for me is send me a nice postcard from Mauritius please. My address is: C.M. Inglehart, Am Stuhl 4, 66849 Landstuhl, Germany. I've always wanted to visit there.

    Oh and by the way, any and all postcards are welcome, so all my children - I urge you to send some from where you all live too. P.S. Pass it on.

    When I no longer need them, Alexander will have on heck of a collection - I hope.

    Night,night for now, going to try and sleep for at least an hour.

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    Just thought I'd send a few postcards from one of my favorite places too.
  • Aug 28, 2008, 11:32 PM
    friend4u178
    What a great idea Momma C , you WILL be receiving one from Australia :)
  • Aug 28, 2008, 11:34 PM
    Stringer
    AND one from Chicago, Illinois Chery, maybe several...
  • Aug 29, 2008, 12:35 AM
    starbuck8
    ... and one (or I'm imagining probably at least two) from Alberta, Canada! :) Alex is going to have one heck of a collection I think!
  • Aug 29, 2008, 12:40 AM
    Chery
    Thanks so much, send as many as you want to, I'd love it, and yes, Alex will probably have the biggest collection in the world for a young fella of his age.

    I'm so glad you also liked this idea - so send them from anywhere - the more, the merrier!

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    I'm so excited and can't wait already...
  • Aug 29, 2008, 01:45 AM
    curlybenswife
    Im not going to go soppy or be over the top there's no need you already know your very special.

    There are three words that I will say and I will dwell no longer because you know I would take all the hurt and the pain in a blink.

    We love you xx
  • Aug 29, 2008, 07:50 PM
    J_9
    I have to admit up front and admit that I have not read any of this post other than the first page. And I am so sorry I have missed this thread until now.

    Cher... You have been such a strong and courageous woman for the two years that I have known you. You have perservered an enormous amount of weight on your shoulders, yet you stayed strong and hopeful.

    I remember the day that Alexander (Peanut) was born. You e-mailed me with such pride. I remember when your daughter e-mailed me with the news of your stroke. That was around Thanksgiving, and look how far you have come. You came home when we didn't even know if you would survive.

    You are my angel in spirit, you are my light in the tunnel, you are the definition of strength.

    I stand behind CBW in saying that we love you. No matter what happens, when or where, please know that we love you.

    PS: Please haunt me. :p
  • Aug 29, 2008, 08:48 PM
    starbuck8
    If I may, I would like to borrow from J9's statement. If ever there were a haunting, I would want it to be you Momma C! You would kick the crap out of the rest, and put them in their place! :p

    So that is what you are going to do with those scouts right? Kick some A$$! I know you will! :D
  • Aug 29, 2008, 09:01 PM
    AKaeTrue
    Chery,
    Both pics are beautiful!
    The pic of your grandson touching your face is one of those candid moments that I personally cherish the most.
    I'm so happy you have that moment captured forever along with the many others that you are putting together for your grandson.
    I agree with everyone else who has posted on this thread, you are an amazing, strong woman whose advice and comforting words have helped so many.
    Feel better soon, and if you're really wanting some postcards, then expect one from me too!!
  • Aug 30, 2008, 09:47 PM
    starbuck8
    This song is dedicated to you my sweet Momma C. I'm sure I am speaking on behalf of all of your AMHD children on this one!! Here's to you, and all of the things you have taught us all! :)

    YouTube - You've Got A Friend---carole King,Celine,Gloria,Shania
  • Aug 31, 2008, 03:51 PM
    friend4u178
    LOL... the "Youtube Queen" strikes again :)
  • Aug 31, 2008, 04:04 PM
    starbuck8
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by friend4u178
    LOL.................the "Youtube Queen" strikes again :)

    ... and it's all your fault too! :p
  • Aug 31, 2008, 08:01 PM
    Alty
    Hey guys. I'm glad that everyone's stopping in from time to time just to say hi, or to post a song, share a story. This is what I entended this thread to be. :)

    Hey Momma C, just finished writing you two postcards, now I just have to buy stamps and send. Hopefully you'll get them soon. :)
  • Aug 31, 2008, 08:26 PM
    Stringer
    Yes, Marta and I bought some Chicago Postcards for you today also, and we intend to send a letter with some pictures also with my son and daughter and my 4 grandkids...

    Chery I don't remember if you said that you were ever in Chicago, but these should give you a pretty good idea of where we live... excited that everyone is sending you cards and letters hon.

    Stringer
  • Sep 1, 2008, 09:24 PM
    Chery
    Oh, you wonderful people! This is better than Christmas! - Thank you°I love hearing from you any time and can't wait to receive the first postcard.. will let you know who's came first.

    Since I cannot leave the house without a 'companion' (dumb body restricting me) but my mind is still fully functioning so you know that you all are my life-line and I appreciate each post you share with me. Every time I come to this thread, I don't know what comes next, but it always winds up me clearing my eyes and radiates warmth in my heart. J_9 and CBW - thanks ever so much for visiting as I know you two are busy and you do make me feel as if I am a special friend so far away - you have no idea how much this means to me.

    Stinger, I have never been to the Windy City - but have seen it on TV and cannot wait until I get pictures personalized by you and the family.

    I spent the weekend with Alex and his mom. We did have a few plans, but they got side-tracked by Alex's stomach flu - poor baby - I convinced his mom to let him drink flat coca-cola so at least the eruptions stopped after a while, but he just didn't know which way to sit or lay down.. he just didn't want to move and his fever did spike. We got that down and he slept a lot so he's better now. So, now I am on a 'forced diet' of clear liquids. What a way to loose a few pounds... but that too will pass (ha ha) and there will be better days to look forward to.

    And, I am absolutely serious about the postcards, AK.. the more the merrier.. they will make me feel a lot closer to those of you who encouraged me and lifted me when I was down.

    I have exactly three 'physically close friends' besides my family here.. but I have many more friends in you - so, I'm one lucky woman! Starby and Friend... don't stop the music either. When my eyes dry, I feel so much better and always send you super virtual hugs. As for 'spooking'.. there will be enough of me to go around to give some of that warmth right back at you, when the time comes.

    C.U. later folks, going to watch 'My Family' on BBC and then Eli Stone... That's Entertainment!

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    I'm letting the Smiley do the Jump for Joy for me!
  • Sep 1, 2008, 11:12 PM
    Stringer
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Chery
    Oh, you wonderful people! This is better than Christmas! - Thank you°I love hearing from you any time and can't wait to receive the first postcard.. will let you know who's came first.

    Since I cannot leave the house without a 'companion' (dumb body restricting me) but my mind is still fully functioning so you know that you all are my life-line and I appreciate each post you share with me. Every time I come to this thread, I don't know what comes next, but it always winds up me clearing my eyes and radiates warmth in my heart. J_9 and CBW - thanks ever so much for visiting as I know you two are busy and you do make me feel as if I am a special friend so far away - you have no idea how much this means to me.

    Stinger, I have never been to the Windy City - but have seen it on TV and cannot wait until I get pictures personalized by you and the family.

    I spent the weekend with Alex and his mom. We did have a few plans, but they got side-tracked by Alex's stomach flu - poor baby - I convinced his mom to let him drink flat coca-cola so at least the eruptions stopped after a while, but he just didn't know which way to sit or lay down.. he just didn't want to move and his fever did spike. We got that down and he slept a lot so he's better now. So, now I am on a 'forced diet' of clear liquids. What a way to loose a few pounds... but that too will pass (ha ha) and there will be better days to look forward to.

    And, I am absolutely serious about the postcards, AK.. the more the merrier.. they will make me feel a lot closer to those of you who encouraged me and lifted me when I was down.

    I have exactly three 'physically close friends' besides my family here.. but I have many more friends in you - so, I'm one lucky woman! Starby and Friend... don't stop the music either. When my eyes dry, I feel so much better and always send you super virtual hugs. As for 'spooking'.. there will be enough of me to go around to give some of that warmth right back at you, when the time comes.

    C.U. later folks, going to watch 'My Family' on BBC and then Eli Stone... That's Entertainment!

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    I'm letting the Smiley do the Jump for Joy for me!

    Looking for really good post cards Chery... and we will keep them coming... love you. :)
    Stringer
  • Sep 1, 2008, 11:24 PM
    Wondergirl
    Chery, you were one of the first members I "met" here. Your posts have always delighted me with their charm and grace -- and practical wisdom. I will pray for you to have many good nights' sleeping and lots of energy during the day to keep up with your grandson. And be sure to eat your vegetables!
  • Sep 2, 2008, 12:16 AM
    Alty
    Yes Chery, vegetables, or a V8. ;) Could have had a V8. :)

    I'm going to bed now, just thought I'd say good night MommaC. I love you so much my dear, do you know that? I hope you do. Great, more tears, darnit, I thought I turned that darn tap off. :(

    You are always in my thoughts and in my prayers. Even the kids are talking about you, I hope it's okay, but I told them that they have an adopted Grandma in Germany. They both love that idea, but are now bugging me to take them to Germany for a visit. Me and my big mouth. ;)

    Sleep well MommaC. Oh I bought green apple candles the other day, put them in the bathroom. They remind me of you and they cover the smell when hubby's had beans for supper. ;)

    Love you MommaC, big hug, big wet kiss, and lots of love. :)
  • Sep 2, 2008, 12:29 AM
    ChihuahuaMomma
    Beautiful Chery, thank you for everything. This honestly brought a tear to my eye, then your proceeding posts brought a few more. You've been more than helpful to me, more like the mother that I didn't ever have. We love you.
  • Sep 2, 2008, 12:55 AM
    starbuck8
    Don't forget your fruit too Momma C! Eat some Goji Berries... lots and lots! ;) Or the juice if you can get it there. They have cancer fighting agents, and are super good for your immune system! I drink the juice for my bad hip, and the arthritis I have that comes with it, and I swear by it!

    I wrote you a long email, and right before I was able to hit send, my bleepin computer crashed, and I lost it all. I will write it over again when I get a chance okay!

    The YouTube Queen strikes again, and here is your song for the day from your "flower" girl!

    Here is your daily HUG!! :)

    YouTube - Beautiful In My Eyes (Full Flowers)
  • Sep 2, 2008, 03:35 AM
    Unknown008
    I'm so sorry Momma C, I haven't found the postcard to send to you yet. It's a bit difficult to find one, especially if I don't often go for shopping or to choose one. But I promise that I'll send one. Big big hugs to you!:)
  • Sep 2, 2008, 04:33 AM
    albear
    Dear Chery;
    I know we didn't talk much, but I've read many of your posts and seen the happiness and smiles that you give to people accompanied by great wisedom and advice (aswell as the odd smilie animation lol) and it makes me smile that there are still people out there in the world that are as great and kind as you, and I'm honoured that I've been able to witness what you can do and share the same site as someone as rare as you,
    Thank you and good luck :)

    p.s ill try and send a post card to you from where I am, but I'm not used to sending 'physical mail' like you hip youngsters I'm still stuck in the age of email, so it might get lost :D
  • Sep 2, 2008, 10:22 AM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg
    Yes Chery, vegetables, or a V8. ;) Coulda had a V8. :)

    I'm going to bed now, just thought I'd say good night MommaC. I love you so much my dear, do you know that? I hope you do. Great, more tears, darnit, I thought I turned that darn tap off. :(

    You are always in my thoughts and in my prayers. Even the kids are talking about you, I hope it's okay, but I told them that they have an adopted Grandma in Germany. They both love that idea, but are now bugging me to take them to Germany for a visit. Me and my big mouth. ;)

    Sleep well MommaC. Oh I bought green apple candles the other day, put them in the bathroom. They remind me of you and they cover the smell when hubby's had beans for supper. ;)

    Love you MommaC, big hug, big wet kiss, and lots of love.

    I just love V8! And will ask Jaime to get some for me.

    Don't you just love it when even candles manage to do some multi-tasking?

    I'm not that hungry lately, I want to eat, but when I take a bite that's it, so I'll stick to lots of liquids. Believe it or not I still like the Original Tang.
    Tell the kids hi from the 'nother Grandma'..

    Love you lots too!

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