Daughter in law problems again
As usual I feel totally unloved and a person who only deserves unfriendliness given to her by my son and daughter in law. Its getting worse and worse and just let me tell you why I feel this way. Our son used to call us at least once a week, just to say hello and we did the same. Now that he has been married for a year we rarely hear from him or see him. If we do see him he is always angry, such as when I try to take family photos who no one except family will see... he snatched the camera off me so that I could not take any photos. My husband got the camera back and we took other family photos, our other children really don't mind having their photo taken. The irony of this is that DIL and our son post photos of their holidays on Facebook and that is totally OK. They went on holidays recently with DIL's "gay" friend and another woman for DIL's birthday. They asked if we would take them to the airport, and during the trip they told us "that they are not taking their mobile phones", but that we could pick them up from the airport when they returned. However, on the day of their return we got a call on my mobile phone to say that they are arriving one hour early, so we hurried our trip along as we were away for the weekend so that we could meet them at the airport. We took them out a few weeks ago, and they were late to the restaurant because DIL was "having a bad hair day". Last week was their first wedding anniversary, so we left a card in their letterbox to remember the day. Our son did call when we were out of the house, and our younger son gave us that message "that he called". But I am too scared to call back, as they have an answering machine which says that they cannot take the call "at the moment", it does not matter what time we call, or if they answer they are "always having dinner" or another meal and have to go "very quickly". So, we are slowely losing contact with our elder son, as we can never call, and if we ask to meet him at lunchtime when he is at work, he is either"too busy", or his wife comes (walking from a long way), as well. Of course, we like her to come, but when she does come, we feel that we are under scrutiny, in case we say some kind words to our son. Does anyone else have these kinds of problems, and will they get better, or shall we never see or speak to our son anymore. We do not have this problem with our son in law who is always friendly, and does not worry at all if we call or speak to our daughter. Our youngest son is the same, very friendly, like our elder one used to be, until now. I would like to be friends with my DIL and have tried and tried, even when she told us she changed her mobile telephone number, we asked out of politeness if we could have it, but it has been months now and she has not given it to us, so we do not want to ask anymore. I am tired of the unfriendliness, and feel used as DIL was the one that wanted a house but they could not get a loan, so she asked if we would go as guarantors for their loan, which we did amongst many other things, only to be met with unfriendliness.