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Sad and lonely

Why am I so sad and lonely? I'm a nice guy. People like me. I get along great with others( I'm kind of quiet, though) and I'm an OK student. One of the things that frustrate me is not being able to do projects because I don't have the things that I need. As you can guess, I don't have a lot of friends, too.

Your post is confusing me... What do you mean by you can't do projects because you don't have the things you need? And what does that have to do with not having a lot of friends, or being sad and lonely?

I am kind of confused, too. Upset over the projects or that you have few friends?

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Originally Posted by hamworld05

Why am I so sad and lonely? I'm a nice guy. People like me. I get along great with others( I'm kind of quiet, though) and I'm an ok student. One of the things that frustrate me is not being able to do projects because I don't have the things that I need. As you can guess, I don't have a lot of friends, too.

I would be happy to be you're friend. My name is Kate. If you want to chat message me back...
Im always looking for someone new to talk to
Xx

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Your post is confusing me.... What do you mean by you can't do projects because you don't have the things you need? And what does that have to do with not having alot of friends, or being sad and lonely?

It doesn't, but it often frustrates me.

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Originally Posted by Emland

I am kind of confused, too. Upset over the projects or that you have few friends?

Both.

Well, you have friends here. What kind of projects do you work on?

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Well, you have friends here. What kind of projects do you work on?

Media projects, history projects, I just completed a Science project.

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Originally Posted by Emland

Well, you have friends here. What kind of projects do you work on?

It's not the same... It feels like a fantasy world, where I see names, words and pictures... I can't "feel" the emotions you're feeling.

Sounds like you are still in school. Have you made any efforts to meet and talk to people there?

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Originally Posted by Emland

Sounds like you are still in school. Have you made any efforts to meet and talk to people there?

I have made one effort this year. It ended miserably. Last year, I talked to a lot of people.

Why is this year different than last year?

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Why is this year different than last year?

I don't know. I'm trying to remember. I think I liked the solitude, and I got used to it. I really don't know.

So you are able to talk to other people. Now, just seek out other people that share your interests - join a club, etc. and meet some people.

I am friendly with everyone at work and chat up customers left and right but only have 1 person I really consider a friend, besides my husband. Pick quality over quanity when it comes to picking friends.

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So you are able to talk to other people. Now, just seek out other people that share your interests - join a club, etc., and meet some people.

I am friendly with everyone at work and chat up customers left and right but only have 1 person I really consider a friend, besides my husband. Pick quality over quanity when it comes to picking friends.

I'm already in a club. I plan to go the Ottawa Chess Federation club in the summer.

There you go. Just get out there and meet people.

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There ya go. Just get out there and meet people.

There's one problem with the club I'm in. They're all kids!

OK. Once I join a new club, I'll do that. Now, what about the sad part?

I'm usually a happy guy( despite the loneliness), but once something wrong happens, I get angry and then anger turns into sadness.

Since I don't know how old you are, that is a tough one. If you are an adult, well the "kids" should have parents or other older people you can meet. If you mean they are more immature than you, look a little harder. There are diamonds in the rough in there somewhere and probably too shy to say hello.

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Since I don't know how old you are, that is a tough one. If you are an adult, well the "kids" should have parents or other older people you can meet. If you mean they are more immature than you, look a little harder. There are diamonds in the rough in there somewhere and probably too shy to say hello.

I'm 14. *sigh* Expressions, my worst nightmares. What's " diamonds in the rough"?

Does any activity lift you mood? When I get to feeling blue, sometimes I put on my dance music, strap on my schools and have at it. The physical activity gives me an endorphine boost and I usually feel better for having practiced.

If you sit around contemplating how sad you are all the time, I am going to guess that you are sad a lot.

So, what do you define as kids?

A diamond doesn't look like the shiny perfect stone in the store. A diamond in the rough is a precious gem newly mined that looks like a rock. The analogy is with a little work and dedication you will have something really worth while.

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Does any activity lift you mood? When I get to feeling blue, sometimes I put on my dance music, strap on my schools and have at it. The physical activity gives me an endorphine boost and I usually feel better for having practiced.

If you sit around contemplating how sad you are all the time, I am going to guess that you are sad a lot.

I like to hum. Is that an activity? I also love playing video games.

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So, what do you define as kids?

A bunch of shorter, people who are mostly in the 6th grade. What I mean is, I think most of them are in the 6th grade or lower.

14 years old. Knowing that helps a great deal! You are most likely suffering from the wonderful world of hormonal changes. They can make you sad for no reason! Exercise will really help it a lot - just find something you enjoy, walking, running, biking or like me - dance. I was the wallflower at school at that age. Everyone spoke to me, but no one ever invited me to hang out with them, etc. It is hard to believe now, but it does get better and you will find someone that relates.

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14 years old. Knowing that helps a great deal! You are most likely suffering from the wonderful world of hormonal changes. They can make you sad for no reason! Exercise will really help it a lot - just find something you enjoy, walking, running, biking or like me - dance. I was the wallflower at school at that age. Everyone spoke to me, but no one ever invited me to hang out with them, etc. It is hard to believe now, but it does get better and you will find somone that relates.

That's great to know. Hey, I don't do this as often but I like to walk around my kitchen. Not a lot of walking, right?

Running to the fridge doesn't count!

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Running to the fridge doesn't count!

:D I agree!

Maybe you could use your love for projects to make friends. Try to find people who are into the same things. Then they may share your frustrations.

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Originally Posted by EnglishRose

Maybe you could use your love for projects to make friends. Try to find people who are into the same things. Then they may share your frustrations.

Sorry, I don't remember saying I liked projects. Sorry for giving you the wrong message. I don't really like projects. I just want to finish them and get it over with.