Just sit tight and let them work through this themselves and then they can deal with you. You knew this would be traumatic, so just give them time.
The right thing to do is never the easiest.
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Just sit tight and let them work through this themselves and then they can deal with you. You knew this would be traumatic, so just give them time.
The right thing to do is never the easiest.
Well I wouldn't say never, but the right thing is not always the easiest path. And you HAVE done the right thing here. Please be assured of that.Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
I think you are a very intelligent and brave young lady.Quote:
Originally Posted by Adrian3102
You know how you are blaming yourself? Parents go through blaming themselves and sometimes each other. They go through the thoughts of what they could have done to protect their baby (in their eyes you will always be a baby), why couldn't they see this coming, how they can help and protect you now, whether to confront the man, etc. If they were involved in you beginning this job, then there is another layer blame they will have to work through.
You still haven't said if he used a condom or how long ago this happened. If your clothes haven't been washed, they need to be put in a plastic bag. This is something you can do.
I am becoming concerned about the unanswered questions. Nothing is tingling so far, seems sincere but, again, important questions are not being answered.
I too am wary. Twelve hours' difference in time?Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
I'm just uneasy. I'm not sure this isn't 1 person, 2 names - not sure at all.
It happened on Saturday I only babysit on weekends. He didn't use a condom but he said he pulled out so it was all right. I left the clothes I wore in my clothes basket in my room.I don't know about time difference but right now it's 7:35 in the morning. I just wanted some help that's all I didn't come on here to I don't know I just didn't know what to do. And I'm not one person two names what ever that means. I just wanted someone to talk to
No, that's NOT all right. You can get pregnant that way.Quote:
Originally Posted by Adrian3102
Have you and your parents talked yet?
Adrian, I don't want to alarm you but the 'pull-out' method is a good way to get pregnant. It is most effective between long time partners who know when her ovulation cycle and plan ahead. It is more than just pulling out before ejaculating. Pre-ejaculate can contain sperm.Quote:
Originally Posted by Adrian3102
Put the clothes in a plastic bag.
How are things with your parents at this moment?
My mum spoke to me last night she said they were taking me to the police station in the morning. I'm nervous to go but I'm ready. I didn't know I could get pregnant still can't you take the morning after pill. I know my dad is not happy with me I heard him last night talking about me he called me a slut and that I brought shame to his family then and then I don't even want to say the names he called the other guy. He was very angry
Did he read this thread? Certainly he realizes this was rape.Quote:
Originally Posted by Adrian3102
I don't know if he read it I showed mum. I don't really care anymore I have to go to police station now mum said we leaving in 10 minutes I wish it was just mum coming but dads took time off work. I put the clothes in a bag so thanks for the advise
Be sure to let us know how this goes. We are all here for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Adrian3102
Your dad is angry and acting foolish. You can have him read this. I understand the anger, but he has to understand that you were taken advantage of. You are not a slut, just a foolish immature girl who fell prey to a predator.
Hopefully the people at the police station will explain that to him.
Its too late for the morning after pill so you just have to pray. The chances are small that you are, but it is possible. And yes, please let us know how things go.
Worst day of my life I've never been so embarrassed. I just want this day to be over already.
I'm sorry Honey, but this may be just the beginning. We are here for you. We will do our best to help you through this. Please take comfort that you are stopping a predator from preying on other young girls. Can you tell us what the police said?
Wonder if the father is angry with himself - the child had sex in the child's house, in her bedroom. I don't know where parents/siblings were.
I'm amazed she went to the Police Station and, based on a call by the parents, they didn't send their sexual assault "team" to her house to avoid the embarrassment of the appearance at the Police Station. There's also the physical exam - if we know when this happened.
Judy, may I ask if you read something I haven't? Did I miss something?Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
According to Adrian, the encounter took place in a park not in her bedroom. I also missed where she said that they called the police. It sounds more like they were going to the station without calling.
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Originally Posted by Adrian3102
You're right on the clothes - I read the hamper and didn't recall that the rape happened in the park.
I am still concerned, not by the OP but by the parents, that they didn't call the Police instead of taking her to the Police Station.
That was not a criticism of the OP - that is how sex crimes are handled in my area (and I'm not in Australia, of course). Rape victims, particularly underage, are interviewed in their homes, particularly in a small town.
I spent most of the day at the police station. I had to tell them what happened and then answer their questions while mum sat there. It was horrible. After that they took me to the hospital where a lady doctor examined me and took evidence which I don't understand seeing as it happened a week ago nearly. They came to my house and took the clothes you said to put it the bag. They said that depending on the physical evidence he would be charged with having intercourse with a minor can't remember exactly what they called it was kind of in my own world. They said they were going to nicks house to take him in for questioning. They want me to go and get councilling from SARC but I don't want to I just want this to all go away what mess
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