Originally Posted by
Cisslybee2012
Well sweetheart,
The first thing you must do is concentrate on your children above all things. The worst thing you can do is sign off and put other things in priority over them such as your man or friends, or your embarrassment. Your children has ADD/HD as you stated, and you need to buy or borrow a book on the subject. "The ADD & ADHD Answer Book" by Susan Ashley is a good one to start with. You can get a used copy cheap on Amazon, or for quicker reading, see if you can borrow it from your local library.
The book will teach you everything you need to know about the condition, getting help, the behavior characteristics of children stricken with it, and effective generalized parenting skills. It's vital at this point for your children that you acquire all the knowledge you can regarding this issue.
Now from my own experience with babysitting, I want to share a special disciplinary technique that people don't know about yet and I haven't found written in any books. Even in the book I recommended for your reading, the author states that there's nothing that can be done about children having a temper tantrum and must be allowed to do so, which isn't true.
Nature has an effective disciplinary method for all earthly young without abuse. A technique I discovered by accident. So here goes:
Whenever your child is having a raging fit, or pulling away from you, or doing any other unsuitable thing such as refusing to obey your command to sit down or stop touching an item, etc. Here's what you do:
With one hand, lift the child by the nape of the collar and suspend them high enough where their feet is no longer touching the ground, and maintain that hold of them until they instantly stop whatever they're doing. It's an instant freeze action. Now, while holding the child in that position, walk over to where you want the child to remain quietly and set them down there. And they will remain in that spot quietly until you call them. When I discovered this technique, I was shocked by the results and realized that that is how animals discipline their cubs. They hold them by the back of the neck, and that same rule holds true for human children. And I've been "The Animal Planet" faithfully ever since.
Even in the supermarket when a baby in the stroller picks up goods and when it comes time to checkout and the baby starts raving over the goods being taken from them, this technique will serve perfectly to prevent the fit they will throw. Just lift the child out of the carriage by the nape of the collar and they will drop whatever they're holding without a reaction. Then simply place them back into the carriage.
I wish you the very best of luck with rearing your children. :)
