Ask Me Help Desk - Family hates me.

OK, slow down. Please try to put a period in there once in a while, so that I can take a text breath.

You've been in a mental hospital because you flipped out over someone calling your girlfriend names?. I don't think so. There must have been another reason. No matter what you went in for, you are no longer there, so that's a plus. Apparently you had an issue that you could not handle, we all have our moments. In today's society, nervous breakdowns are more common than you might think, and it's nice to know that help is available and successful.

Your parents did not wind up being what you expected, but it won't do you any good to keep a grudge that long, it will stop you from progressing. What you should do is assess their relationship, accept it, and understand that no matter how dumb people act, there is always a deeper reason. The very same thing is happening to you, you act and others react - they don't like how you act, and you don't like how they react - and this will continue to be a vicious circle if you don't put a stop to it.

The people that annoy you are doing it because they know they can flip you out. Wouldn't it be better if you just stopped playing into their hands? Once you stop being a victim to them, they will have to look for someone else to pursue.

Does your job pay enough so that you can get your own place once your are 18? If it does - why not put up with your mother at her place for a little while and then go live your own life. It's not like you will be there forever.

We all have to do things we don't really like to achieve a better goal. So try and look at all the options and make a plan. A few months will not matter once you have a goal and work toward it in a calm manner. Seriously, what would be worse, your mom's or a foster home? Life is all about changes and believe me, even those changes we are forced into wind up being some of the best changes that ever happened. Sometimes just that little push winds up being the best move one makes.

Your mom thinks you're a good kid, so that's a start. Give her a chance to help you along on your way to adulthood. She might surprise you.

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Originally Posted by Clough

How old are your other siblings?

19 and 11

Do you ever forget to take your medications? Or maybe purposely not take some or any of them? It is important for people who are trying to help you to know this.

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Originally Posted by Chery

OK, slow down. Please try to put a period in there once in a while, so that I can take a text breath.

You've been in a mental hospital because you flipped out over someone calling your girlfriend names?... I don't think so. There must have been another reason. No matter what you went in for, you are no longer there, so that's a plus. Apparently you had an issue that you could not handle, we all have our moments. In today's society, nervous breakdowns are more common than you might think, and it's nice to know that help is available and successful.

Your parents did not wind up being what you expected, but it won't do you any good to keep a grudge that long, it will stop you from progressing. What you should do is assess their relationship, accept it, and understand that no matter how dumb people act, there is always a deeper reason. The very same thing is happening to you, you act and others react - they don't like how you act, and you don't like how they react - and this will continue to be a vicious circle if you don't put a stop to it.

The people that annoy you are doing it because they know they can flip you out. Wouldn't it be better if you just stopped playing into their hands? Once you stop being a victim to them, they will have to look for someone else to pursue.

Does your job pay enough so that you can get your own place once your are 18? If it does - why not put up with your mother at her place for a little while and then go live your own life. It's not like you will be there forever.

We all have to do things we don't really like to achieve a better goal. So try and look at all the options and make a plan. A few months will not matter once you have a goal and work toward it in a calm manner. Seriously, what would be worse, your mom's or a foster home? Life is all about changes and believe me, even those changes we are forced into wind up being some of the best changes that ever happened. Sometimes just that little push winds up being the best move one makes.

Your mom thinks you're a good kid, so that's a start. Give her a chance to help you along on your way to adulthood. She might surprise you.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_22_19.gif Don't let them get the best of you... keep the best for yourself!

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welllllll... I ended up in the hospital because they know if they call my girl friend a name I get pist very fast and they use that to make me pist off. I become very very very very angery and what happened was I took one of my gutiars and smashed it and my father pushed me and I pushed back he punched me and I punched back and it ended up being a phone call to the cops so they put me in cuffs and sent me to the hospital and my job pays pretty good 600 a week and I got enough saved up so when me and my girl friend turn 18... we can move away like my father wants me to so I'm pretty much set I was going to propose to her in a week or so because her birthday is on the 22nd and I'm taking her out to dinner... so yeah pretty much I got to last a year

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Originally Posted by Clough

Do you ever forget to take your medications? Or maybe purposely not take some or any of them? It is important for people who are trying to help you to know this.

Nope never

I really do like the statement by Chery below:

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The people that annoy you are doing it because they know they can flip you out. Wouldn't it be better if you just stopped playing into their hands? Once you stop being a victim to them, they will have to look for someone else to pursue.

What do you think about it?

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I really do like the statement by Chery below:

What do you think about it?

I've tried it don't work at all

How much did you try and how long did you try? It could take awhile before they would get it through their heads that what they do or say is not going to "trip your trigger."

Well for about a month I stopped talking to my sisters and they know how to get me mad really fast so I tried what I could

OK, how about talking to your mom and working out something where you can wait out that year. It's not a lifetime, and will probably do you good to get away from the place that makes you aggressive right now.

How about a course in aggression management? As I said, the other individuals will probably not stop playing with your emotions as far as your girlfriend is concerned. They know that is how to get you flipped. Get out of that house and make plans. Nothing is going to happen over night, except that fact that you might get into another fight, which will not do you any good.

Talk to your girlfriend about your options and see what she thinks. If she loves you, she will support you in what is best.

Write down some scenario of what could happen if you stayed where you are, or if you moved to your mom's. Take a good look at what would calm you and help you plan a better future.

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Thanks for the help you guys ill try it all out and see if it helps thanks again

You are more than welcome for the help! I am glad that you have calmed down some. It was evident from your first posts here that you were really upset at the time you wrote them.

I would really like to talk with you more about your music, what it does for you and others and how it is progressing. But, that can be at a later time. I need to go, now. But, I look forward to discussing things with you in the future!

Please keep us posted as to what is going on with you! Thanks!

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Hey um its normal to feel like your family hates u. Trust me I get the same feeling from my family like seriously 24/7. But if I were u I would try to get away as much as possible. It will cause a lot less drama in your life if u just stay away. Good luck w/ your situation!