Sweetheart, I've been there but for other reasons then hitting. I loved my daddy so much, he was my life. Having the same thoughts as you, I didn't want to lose him or hurt him so I kept quiet. Now I'm 51 years old and the pain is still there. Tell somebody so that both of you can heal. Good Luck angel :)

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Originally Posted by bransby5

Well my dad is a druggie and was an alchoholic all my life. He has stolen have my stuff that is valuable and put in a pawnshop and now that he has put my family so far into dept we cannot afford to get anything out so now i am screwd and he has ruined my life. My birthday is coming up and my parents barely have enough money to get me any thing. Please post reply about segestions that i chould do to help me be happier and not thinking about how my dad has ruined my life. My 14th year of life was ruined by him and i dont want my 15 year to be as worse. Please help me

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This has happed before and worse to a 13 year old young lady, and the only suggestion I can make it to go to a church or shelter and get away from the home as soon as possible. You might still love your parents, but they are too involved in themselves they cannot take care of you the way they should. Sorry your birthday will be 'messed' up, but be glad that nothing worse has happened so far. Once you get your life straightened out with a lot of help from professionals who can work with you, you'll hopefully forget these bad days and have a chance for a better life in the future. Children today have more rights than you think, so see someone now to get the help you need. You can get your material things back later, right now you need peace of mind. Your parents are grown and have to deal with their lives alone, you, however, can and should get as much help as possible - it's not only your right, it's the law.
Good Luck to you dear, and keep us posted.

I agree tell someone you do need to report this and things will get better if your dad goes into rehabillation it would only make thing better so I think you need to report this to someone even someone like your best friends mom if you don't want to go directly to the police

No prob bp me if you need to talk to someone

No matter what problems you (all of you) have, there is someone out there to help you. These people are in schools (nurses, teachers, counselors, etc), and churches, social work clinics, doctors, even the legal assistance offices as well as the police. These would be the best places to go as these people do not take sides and are not judgemental. Besides, your 'friend's Mom' would probably want to help, but if she talks to your parents first, this could cause worse problems and then they would no longer want to help anyone anymore due to the stress involved. Please see professionals who are sworn to secrecy if you choose not to do anything about your problem at present, but just need someone to talk to. This way you can choose when to take action, and I hope you will not take too long to take the action needed to help you get your lives together. Just don't forget that you do have rights and they are there for you to use them. Anything is better than living a miserable life at your young age. I wish you all the best and hope things work out.
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Originally Posted by TygeressDemon

See, my dad is an alcohalic, and when no one is around, he goes berzerk, and hits me. I wanna tell someone, but I love my daddy, and i don't wanna lose him. I lve him, even despite those things. There's only a select few who know about it, and one of them is a teacher that I've known for YEARS, and she's my aunt's best friend, so I kow that she's trust worthry. My best friend also knows, along with her mom. See, I don't know what I can do with out losing him. Can you help me? Tell me what I should do? Please?

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Maybe he really doesn't know what he's doing. Just don't go near him... I'm sure he'll understand that,. :o

Thousandmiles, thanks for your response, but this post is nearly two years old - I doubt the original poster is even on this site anymore.
(haha... I just get tired of getting "update emails" about stuff that's two years old, that's all!. lol)

Hope you understand what I mean... thanks and best wishes on AskMeHelpDesk!