I think people like that, do it because of their own insecurities. They need to bring you down below their level, just in order to feel good about themselves. She is likely the type that doesn't have any real friends, because she feels inadequate.

My sister has a friend just like this, and she is as phony as a $3 bill. Everyone I know has her "number". Both in the litteral and figurative sense. She is a pretty girl, but she becomes really ugly when you get to know her. She struts her 'stuff' around, and likes to critique everyone else in the room, when in reality, she can't keep any friends, and she has never been able to hold on to any man, and she is in her mid 40's.

So, the way I see her, is that she can't stand to see average looking people (or below/above average) having close friends, or seeing them happily married, because she hasn't been able to achieve that because of her holier than thou attitude.

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Originally Posted by starbuck8

I think people like that, do it because of their own insecurities. They need to bring you down below their level, just in order to feel good about themselves. She is likely the type that doesn't have any real friends, because she feels inadequate.

My sister has a friend just like this, and she is as phony as a $3 bill. Everyone I know has her "number". Both in the litteral and figurative sense. She is a pretty girl, but she becomes really ugly when you get to know her. She struts her 'stuff' around, and likes to critique everyone else in the room, when in reality, she can't keep any friends, and she has never been able to hold on to any man, and she is in her mid 40's.

So, the way I see her, is that she can't stand to see average looking people (or below/above average) having close friends, or seeing them happily married, because she hasn't been able to achieve that because of her holier than thou attitude.

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I always think these people are terribly insecure - they seem to have some need to impress themselves because pretty much nobody else is paying any attention.

I hear you guys... but it doesn't erase the fact that I was put in an awkward position and it was no fun for me... I did act overly polite and "sunny"... It would be nice if people just gave everyone an equal opportunity.

How would she have felt if I walked up to her and gave her an up and down look, then started giving her attitude. Every time I tried to contribute to a conversation she'd interrupt me w/ a counter point! Like it was a debate!! For goodness sakes...

I get very tired of trying to be nice to jelouse people. My mother always used to tell me when I was a young girl that when you're beautiful it's very similar to being very unattractive... socially. It's equally hard to find your niche, even if it is for opposite reasons. She said that I have to prove my worth... show people how funny I am, how smart, how loyal, how trustworthy I am... the list goes on. I have found some very good friends in my life... None of them think a lick about "looks"...

Luckily we age as humans. It works for me...

Thing is, as hard as it is for me to believe... I still have to deal w/ this woman in my life and it brings me back to the crappy days where I used to worry about my social standing... (like high school). We're ADULTS now... why do I let myself get drawn in? I'm so stupid sometimes!