Ask Me Help Desk - What makes a person anti social?

What makes a person anti social?

The question about sums it up

No. That's just the tip of the iceberg. Is this person shy? Autistic? Mentally ill? Grew up in a vacuum?

This is a topic that truly can't be answered by your simple question alone. There are many reasons that would take pages to answer, from mental health issues, to bullying, to abuse.

In order to help you, you are going to have to help us by providing more information.

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This is a topic that truly can't be answered by your simple question alone. There are many reasons that would take pages to answer, from mental health issues, to bullying, to abuse.

In order to help you, you are going to have to help us by providing more information.

Just the girls I'm seeing she's anti social and has been talking to a counselor for awhile apperently and that's what she said when I asked ifn there was a reason she's anti social she said yes and told me that but says she doesn't really want to talk about it

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

No. That's just the tip of the iceberg. Is this person shy? autistic? mentally ill? grew up in a vacuum?

Grew up in a vacuum... what?

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Originally Posted by chace_don_C

just the girls im seeing shes anti social and has been talking to a counselor for awhile apperently and thats what she said when i asked ifn there was a reason shes anti social she said yes and told me that but says she doesnt really wanna talk about it

Well if she does not want to talk to you about it, that is her right. How old are you and how long has she been your girl friend. We can't tell you what her problems are.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Well if she does not want to talk to you about it, that is her right. How old are you and how long has she been your girl friend. We can't tell you what her problems are.

I know you can't tell me what her problems are specificly just wanted maybe an idea on why someone would be like this.. you know? And um we aren't dating yet but we do like each other and I'm 18 and she's 17

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Originally Posted by chace_don_C

i know you can't tell me what her problems are specificly just wanted maybe an idea on why someone would be like this..you know? and um we aren't dating yet but we do like each other and im 18 and shes 17

She's probably not anti-social, but more likely a-social, or has social anxiety. Anti-social is a serious diagnosis that would put her in an alternative school. An anti-social person probably wouldn't be interested in dating.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

She's probably not anti-social, but more likely a-social, or has social anxiety. Anti-social is a serious diagnosis that would put her in an alternative school. An anti-social person probably wouldn't be interested in dating.

Hmm well she told me she was anti-social :/

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Originally Posted by chace_don_C

hmm well she told me she was anti-social :/

And she defines that how?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

And she defines that how?

What do you mean?

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Originally Posted by chace_don_C

what do you mean?

*sigh*

How does she explain how she is antisocial?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

*sigh*

How does she explain how she is antisocial?

She just isn't very talkative a lot of the time she isn't a big texter and tends to be very to her self and doesn't like talking about things a lot of the time and she's told me she's had a rough childhood or something like that

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Originally Posted by chace_don_C

she just isnt very talkative alot of the time she isn't a big texter and tends to be very to her self and doesn't like talking about things alot of the time and shes told me shes had a rough childhood or something like that

That's not antisocial.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

That's not antisocial.

Well she said she is not me

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well she said she is not me

Then she has no idea what being antisocial means, which isn't a surprise. That's a very hard diagnosis to make. I doubt very much that a child could make that diagnosis on herself.

She probably means that she's had a hard time in life, and because of that she's not as social as everyone else. That doesn't mean she's been diagnosed as antisocial.

Bottom line, we can't tell you why she is the way she is. She's seeing a counselor, and doesn't want to discuss this with you. So respect her privacy. Just because you want to know why, doesn't mean you have the right to invade her privacy. If she wanted you to know, she'd tell you.

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Then she has no idea what being antisocial means, which isn't a surprise. That's a very hard diagnosis to make. I doubt very much that a child could make that diagnosis on herself.

She probably means that she's had a hard time in life, and because of that she's not as social as everyone else. That doesn't mean she's been diagnosed as antisocial.

Bottom line, we can't tell you why she is the way she is. She's seeing a counselor, and doesn't want to discuss this with you. So respect her privacy. Just because you want to know why, doesn't mean you have the right to invade her privacy. If she wanted you to know, she'd tell you.

I'm not invading her privacy I do respect she doesn't want to tell me that's why I haven't bugged her about it I asked her and she said that and I let it be...

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im not invading her privacy i do respect she doesn't want to tell me that's why i haven't bugged her about it i asked her and she said that and i let it be...

No, she said that and then you went to a public site and asked about her because she wouldn't tell you. That's invading her privacy, in public! So you really don't respect when she tells you it's none of your business. Not at all.

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No, she said that and then you went to a public site and asked about her because she wouldn't tell you. That's invading her privacy, in public! So you really don't respect when she tells you it's none of your business. Not at all.

Omg I wasn't asking about her problems specifically I was asking what makes a person anti social and didn't ask for people to tell me why she specifically is anti-social

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omg i wasn't asking about her problems specifically i was asking what makes a person anti social and didn't ask for people to tell me why she specifically is anti-social

That makes no sense! Read what you just posted. You were asking what makes a person anti social, not why she's anti social. Same thing!

If she doesn't want you to know, leave it alone!

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Originally Posted by Alty

That makes no sense! Read what you just posted. You were asking what makes a person anti social, not why she's anti social. Same thing!

If she doesn't want you to know, leave it alone!

It makes perfect sense.. and yeah I'm asking what makes people in general anti-social I didn't go hey why is SHE anti-social, obviously nobody is going to know her reasoning but her. And its not at all the same thing, totally different

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Originally Posted by chace_don_C

It makes perfect sense..and yeah im asking what makes people in general anti-social i didn't go hey why is SHE anti-social, obviously nobody is gonna know her reasoning but her. and its not at all the same thing, totally different

It has nothing to do with her "reasoning." It has everything to do with her mental and emotional makeup.

There are 10 million reasons people are shy, socially withdrawn, asocial, or antisocial.

I just don't like social situations in real life. I hate figuring out how to act in public, what to say, what is socially acceptable, whether others are talking about me or laughing at me. There is also the fear that I am not welcome there, have I overstayed my welcome. I can not forget the fear of having an anxiety attack or panic attack.
I prefer online communication. I have no idea why I am this way, it is just me. I have learned to accept it and work with it as much as I want to. I am now satisfied for the most part at where I am at with my life.

Go to the library or Online and research anti social behavior or accept the fact that she does not want to talk about her problem to you.