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What should I do if I'm way overweight?

I really need help with question. I need to loss a lot of weight. I am only 16 years and my weight is 88kg and my hight is 1m74cm. It horrible for me to look at myself in the mirror blugg. I don't ah on answer for my question. I tried to be anorexic but the resalts where nothing. I don't know it bulimia I my best way to go?

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You tried anorexia? And now thinking of bulimia? You might as well commit suicide if you try bulimia, and thank god the anexoria didn't work!

You are male or female? Let me know and I will give you some tips, but at l6, your weight will fluctuate for a few more years yet. Healthy eating, combined with daily physical activity always works. What acitivites are you involved in at school? Do you have meals a day without junk food?

[QUOTE=tickle;3441821] I'm female and yes I do have physical activity at school but it just to frustrating being that kid. Everyone is so skinny and I'm just fat. You don't think I've tried eating right? IT DOES NOT WORK!

[QUOTE=CMG 1;3441834]

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Originally Posted by tickle

I'm female and yes I do have physical activity at school but it just to frustrating being that kid. Everyone is so skinny and I'm just fat. You don't think ive tryed eating right? IT DOES NOT WORK!

The best way is to go to your pediatrician and have a physical. Let the doctor rule out any health issues, then give you a healthy eating/exercise plan meant just for you.

I think teach has a good idea, only because of your age. At 16 dieting should not be a benchmark, especially when your body will change physically over the next four years. But yes, physical activity and adjusting your caloric intake really does work, you just have to find the right balance and it doesn't happen instantly.

Walking one mile, 20 minutes a day, would do wonders for you and you would see the difference in a month. The simple plan always works best in my view.

The things you named, just ruins your health,

First you need to find out, if there is some medical issue.

Next your parents will have to get behind you, since it means changing often the food that is being cooked at home.

My parents even tell me that I have to loss weight but they don't even help me with the type of food I eat. They just surve me and that all. I really don't have no one to go to.

Whatever they serve you, reduce your portions; be your own advocate if you want to lose weight, but as I said, your body will be changing so much over the next four years.

Ok I'll do that and then what. Who going to help me after

Hey, CMG 1.

Okay, so you want to lose some weight? You have to work on it yourself! Eat healthy, means no junk food and consuming smaller portions of your plate, exercising is also important. If you do this routinely, than I am sure your family will notice how much you want this and will probably help you; that is how you gain the support you need, you earn it yourself. Show, don't tell, them that you are serious about this.

I know it is hard to go on with this by yourself, so I suggest that you set a schedule, for the days you decide to exercise, set short/long-term goals for how much weight you want to lose, and reward yourself every time you achieve a goal you reach. This will take few months; nothing works like magic, if you want something than you have to work hard for it.

If you can't do this by yourself than ask someone close to you for help, you can still see a doctor and ask him/her for help if this does not work for you.

I have no support from no one my dad is always working and my mom well she always with my sis. I can't do anywhere by myself only school. And I've tried every diet and the results are 0. I have no one to go to.

What path should I go through/to.

I don't know what I should do. What should I do anorexic or bulimic? Ive tried every single diet, but there is no turn out. I need answers not " go to the doctor and get help" I need really suggestions.

You have had answers suggestions, good ones too, in every response to your previous post. And really, please don't start new threads for this, you already have one. >threads merged<

What should you do, you are asking us to suggest two particularly lethal ways of losing weight, anorexic, or bulimia?

You are l6 for heavens sake, you don't need to diet, just watch what you eat and how much you physically participate.

CMG 1, Your diet may not work at first because fat burns less calories than muscles; you can lift weights to gain more muscle, it could be because you are not doing it right, it could be that you are consuming more calories even when you eat a little, it could be something else... for this reason ask your parents to take you to see a doctor.

Edit: How long have you been on a diet? And what kind of exercising do you do?

[QUOTE=Zea;3442028] The only thing I eat is:
Fruit, veggies and water. I what else do I have to do. And I love sports I play sport every day for an 1h20min. My parents are to busy to listen to me. All of my family is also in their own world to know about my. Ive had so many cruches and what do they do laugh at me that all. I have no one else to see.

"cruches" What does this mean?

For how long have you been exercising?

Eating fruits and veggies only is not healthy for anyone.

Okay, no worries, You can talk to your school counselor. Be honest, and tell him/her what bothers you.

[QUOTE=Zea;3442039]"crushes" that meansthe guys are hot I like them the laugh at me every single guy does that.

I exersise every single say for an 1h and 25min. I don't want to take to no school person. I don't want to let no one to find out about my personal live. I'm taking to u cauze I don't know u and u don't know me but for me to take to some one that does know me.

I think that bulimia is the same as using the bathroom except it comes out the other way.

This is bulimia

Bulimia nervosa - MayoClinic.com

You problem isn't your weight - your problem is your open resentment of your family and the way you believe they are treating you.

You are not going to solve a physical issue (weight) until you come to terms with your emotional problem. If you are considering ruining your health by "developing" (or at least practicing) vomiting and starvation as means of weight control you have more problems than we can address here. You are also an insult to everyone who does suffer from bulimia and anorexia - they are diseases, not play toys.

Your attitude, by the way, is confrontational, and unnecessarily so. No one here deserves your attitude. We aren't your problem.

Zea, what does this mean: "CMG 1, Your diet may not work at first because fat burns less calories than muscles ..."

JudyKayTee, I have no attitude
I just have no one to take to I'm already an anorexic (not at a 100% I eat very little like fruit and veggies and well water). I'm not blaming no one for my problems I'm just looking for help but from people I don't know OK. If I made u feel bad then I'm sorry OK I didn't mean to.

So you are not willing to talk with a real-life person about this?

You didn't make me feel bad but re-read what you've posted. You ignore all suggestions and it's frustrating for the people trying to help you.

Anorexics aren't people who only eat fruits and veggies and drink well water. If, in fact, this is all you are doing and you are not losing weight something is very, very wrong - or you aren't telling us the truth. I'm not saying it's healty. I'm just saying you either aren't living on fruits and veggies alone or something else is going on.

[QUOTE=JudyKayTee;3442070]I am being completely honest. I only eat that and not even all day I eat only my breakfast with that and for the rest of the day I play sports and drink water. I don't do anything else. I've tried to throw up right after eating and I can't get anything going back up. Jaja I've even tried standing on head to help it come back but nothen. The first time it did work but now it doesn't. I just need to know if it because of all of my school, parents, work stress that isn't helping me to make my food throw up or is it because I'm not doing it right.

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

is it because im not doing it right.

No, you're not doing it right.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

No, you're not doing it right.

So then what do I do and how do I make it right. How do I make myself throw up every time I put my finger in my throat. And how long does it take until my body gets used to that for the food to come back

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

so then what do i do and how do i make it right. how do i make myself throw up everytime i put my finger in my throat. and how long does it take until my body gets used to that for the food to come back

No, that is not what to do. If you do that, your body will think it is starving and then will not allow you to lose weight.

Tell me more about your family. How old is your sister?

What sports do you play for an hour and twenty minutes each day?

Why do you want o know about my family? Are you OK. I just want to know what is better if I starve then my body will eat my fat then ill become skinny but if I throw up then I know that I eat but nothing will be inside me.

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

why do u want o know about my family? are you ok. i just want to know what is better if i starve then my body will eat my fat then ill become skinny but if i throw up then i know that i eat but nothing will be inside me.

You tell me -- why would I want to know about your family?

No, you won't get skinnier at first, but then you will eventually get sick and die.

Do you have learning problems and are in special ed or are mainstreamed at school?

This is a losing battle for us to explain to you you are on the wrong path; by trying you will make yourself sick, lose school time. But wait, yes I know what you want, you want to draw your moms attention to yourself and away from your sister right. Well it will do that but at the expense of your health.

I am done with giving you my time, CMG.

CMG 1, you do need to talk to someone about this. Maybe, you can talk to your parents about what you have been trying lately. You are seriously trying to hurt yourself. It is frustrating not to have someone you can rely on at all times, maybe you are trying to get someone's attention, in a way that you don't even realize. Trying and being honest with your parents will maybe make them see that you need more attention; communication is important, and that is what must be happening in a family. Don't start arguing just tell them how you feel, there must be a reason to why you want to lose weight so badly, and so impatiently. Losing weight takes time, months of hard work.

Also, you can eat everything you want to, not only vegetables and fruits, it will not make you gain weight as long as you eat in the right portions. You are only 16 you don't need to be doing something so extreme that can harm you, take it easy and give it some time. By the way, all eating disorders are deadly, I am not trying to scare you, but I am telling you were you are heading.

I believe the OP is seeking attention - good, bad, indifferent. The more "we" feed into this the worse it will get.

All the explaining and pleading in the world will make no difference. There are serious issues which I, for one, do not feel qualified to deal with.

Tickle said it best - time to be done with this.

I think it's time to close.

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Originally Posted by tickle

This is a loosing battle for us to explain to you you are on the wrong path; by trying you will make yourself sick, lose school time. But wait, yes i know what you want, you want to draw your moms attention to yourself and away from your sister right. Well it will do that but at the expense of your health.

I am done with giving you my time, CMG.

The truth is that I would like to get some attenstion from my mom but every time I take to her its like I'm talking to a wall. I think a wall understands my more then my mom :( :,(. I do think that anorexic and bulimic people are crazy and stupid but they do give results so if that's what I have to do to be skinny then I will. I don't want you to feel that you are wasting your time with me I just need some one to listen to me and well to comfort me. And I know that you can't huge me right now but it really does help to express the way I feel, my opinions, and my ideas and to get help.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Zea, what does this mean: "CMG 1, Your diet may not work at first because fat burns less calories than muscles ..."

What I mean is that muscle tissue burns more calories than fat tissue does. Sorry, I was unclear.

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i do think that anorexic and bulimic people are crazy and stupid but they do give results so if thats what i have to do to be skinny then i will.

No, they don't get results. They die slow painful deaths.

Do you have learning problems at school?

[QUOTE=Zea;3442132] Im actually crying right now. I wold love to do that and do what every single one of you is telling my but I just... I don't know I can't do anything right. I'm so disgusted with the way I look. I have no guy friends only 3 OK girl friend. Home time is the only time I feel good but while I do my HW because I forget everything. But once I finish I just feel like throwing up is the only way I forgive and forget. I don't know. :,(

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

No, they don't get results. They die slow painful deaths.

Do you have learning problems at school?

Yes everyday since grade 4

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

Yes everyday since grade 4

How old is your sister? Is she smart and in school?

It's okay, accepting and admitting is not wrong.

You are shortening your time on earth... I know that this is not what you want. Talk to your school counselor, say what is on your mind. You are slowly extinguishing yourself, I promise you this is not worth it. There are bad parents, worse than in your case, but thank God yours are not that bad. For this reason you can fix this by trying to talk to your school counselor. You have to open this subject and accept the suggestions you get. I know it is hard, and it is all right to cry. You can fix things, you have to speak with your school counselor.

Edit: Sorry for interrupting, you can speak here too.