Hi,maybe this will give you a bit of help=because like me,you sound like you are just doing too much ,so,take 1 day a week to pamper yourself,read a book, browse stores,eat a ice cream cone,or a nice cup of java,get lost where no one can find you for a day-library,whatever!Until you are your best friend,and can say no without the guilt,things will not change much!You are reading this from a 59 year old who finally has said,it's my time, family is close,but I do have an answering machine,and a do not disturb sign,and I do find that,I can enjoy me,so,hang in there,I am praying for you,it's going to be all right!That friend will come along soon,I am hoping for that for you!

Good Luck Brelee! We are pulling for you!

HI need;)
Cleaning the bathrooms today, might try some good yoga. Already had three cups of coffee and I am on a rolllllll...
How are you?

Sorry Been super busy here. Get bathrooms cleaned? How was the Yoga?. Feeling better?
Hope so! Little blue today but... Rah Rah!! Keeping my chin up!
Have a great day!!

Me too Need. Keep your chin up, I will be rooting for you! WooHoo go Need. :) Stay cool my friend;)

My sign. Other and all 4 kids forgot my b day. This sucks!

That's horrible! Is it your birthday today? Even if it isn't, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

I honestly forgot my mom's birthday one year, I felt horrid about it...

Happy Birthday! I hope you did something special for yourself.

Dear Need a friend,
Take a deep breath and exhale. I'm sorry that life sucks and that you are going through a tough time right now. You will be OK, and you will make it through, but you need to take the correct steps to help yourself. You have too much on your plate to deal with. Can't your significant other help out (or someone else you trust - like a teacher, neighbour, tutor) help your son with his homework?

If you are concerned and scared about your finances, you need to dive in, and face it head on: Go to the Website: "Till Debt Do Us Part" and read the steps. You need to figure out A. How much money you bring in per month. B. How much money you spend per month. C. How much debt you actually owe. Then take steps to make sure that you are NOT spending MORE than you bring home, and come up with a plan to tackle that debt.

It's crappy, and difficult and scary - but I believe YOU CAN DO IT.

Trim off the 'extras' you can't afford. Make sure there is enough money to cover for food and a roof over your head. If you can't afford to cover the costs of the teenagers - then they need to get part-time jobs to contribute. Don't pay for their cell phones, and tatoos, and clothing and trips out. You're not their FRIEND. (it's not a competition to win popularity votes.) You're their MOTHER. All you need to provide is love, communication, healthy food, and a solid roof over their heads.

You can DO it. Enlist the help of your SignOther and tell him/her that you're at the end of your rope. Please. You're drained to the point of exhaustion. You're overwhelmed. Baby steps.

You can DO IT! I believe in you.

Xoxoxoxoxo

Happy Birthday! Your significant Other and children shouldn't have forgotten you. Sigh. That's kind of selfish on their part.

Bonnie46 is right you need more time for yourself and if you feel you need a change go for it I'm with you all the way OK!

I wouldn't want to be sweet 16 or 18 again there were lots of thing I did wrong and if I had the chance again to make them aright I would have made different mistakes.

Thank you all! My youngest called at 10:30 to wish me a happy b day. That was great. The others... well my mother remembered. It just hurt my feelings. I had calls all day from them to complain and ask for things... Anyway, oh well right.
Bonnie46: Have done all you suggested except the website. I have ASKED for help. BUT it has never come. I went to the school to find tutors twice... nothing! I have done the bills up, cut costs, and am ready to cut some more. The medical bills are coming in and I have had to put off the rest of the treatment... for a bit. I have come so far but not even close to far enough. No savings noi retirement, but at least most everythging is getting paid. The sign. Other says what can I do to help... then does nothing but add to the mess. Asks me to do more. My boss is asking that I make calls at night at home and on Sunday. The job I can't lose. I have gone on housework strike... to some degree, and I am doing little things to lighten the load.
The main thing is my attitude. I am tired of feeling aweful, then I feel so selfish because... it could be so much worse. Anywaay, I will check out the website right now!
Thanks again... and will continue to work on my attitude.

What you need is a partner to help you with the house I think...
What do you think?

I think I need a wife... lol

Me too... LMAO

Happy birthday sweet neeed!!

THX!! Better now...

How about now?
I am just now sitting down from a day of cleaning in my jammies, cleaned out the junk drawers, did all the filiing... oh man even helped my oldest get his room in tip top shape. It was a nice day. I needed to get those bathrooms done and the laundry is all caught up. I can't seemed to do it ALL during the week while I work, so I suppose if I want it done right, I can let the kids take on a few "smaller" chores as I can finish upon the weekend.
I am wondering if you are doing well? I really want to start my yoga again... PUSH ME SOMEONE!! Tell me my bub bye arm is coming back or something... LMAO

Hey strt... Get to the YOGA!. You sond better when you are doing it!
I am OK... Lots of ups and downs... butI am here.
I understand about getting caught up. I don't know how old the kids are... but... If you don't TEACH them how to do it right they will never learn and then you will be in my shoes. I have teenagers that don't know how to get dishes clean. I know they can but... I t is much easier to teach them small. Once it is a habit for them... it will be a given and they won't think twoice about doing it and doing it right...
I am so glad you wrote... I hope all is well!
RAH RAH You go Girl Do that YOGA!!

Ups and sowns here too... so yoga is probably part of my answer... (the guilt of not doing it cause I know it makes me better)
My kids are 14, 11, 7, and 5... they all have chores and homework. Thanks for the getting it right part. I know I have made the mistake by not really letting anyone do some things. I want it done right so I kind of feel as if I should just do it myself;) I know I know... gosh.
I hope your downs turn to ups! WE HAVE to DO SOMETHING TO MAKE IT an UP though... so tell me what you are going to do;) Hugs! Go Need Rah Rah Rah... GO NEED

I am doing my best. Self talk and all... Yes I admit I talk to myself... lol!I am just doing what I can when I can to take care of myself, and trying to keep so balance everywhere else!
Glad to hear from you start... missed ya1

I talk to myself tooooooooo:)

Hey Start. Its good to know I am not alone in that. I am having one of those days. Wow it is a real whopper! I can seem to get past it. My whole life I have fought to stay normal or what ever that is and this Thing is raising its aweful head... What is wrong with me? Why can't I get it to stop!
Uhg! Ok got to go and get my stuff together. Work work

I love to sing out loud... and I find myself saying Oh YEAH... or just positive little quirks when I like what just happened...
I don't have a conversation but I do say things out loud sometimes;)
I think everyone's normal is different;) So if we can start to take value in those differences, we will all be better. Hugs... gotta get ready for work too... I am going to be crushed with the political talk today, I just know it!

Did my yoga... Ohhhhh... OOOOOOOOHHHHHHH...
I will be sore tonight;)
Have a great day Need... see you;)

Hope you had a great day... mine was better. Whoo hoo Start do that yoga!!

Need, you doing OK now? Remember, we can't always be perfect, nor can we always have a smile on our face... we are human;) Hugs. Going to do my Yoga, and no matter what falls apart around me, or you... we will come out alive;)

Doing better and still alive.Hugs 2 u2! Thanks start you are a great cheer leader!!

GREAT! I will do my Yoga after cleaning.
I think I need a week to go and clear my mind... then "startover" you know? People keep saying just take a day off... go do something for yourself... I don't want to sound greedy but a whole entire lifestyle change is needed... not a day off. Does that sound mean? A DAY is not going to farkin cut it. LOL I sound harsh, huh? You, I know;)

I DO understand and I hear THAT! I am right there with you.No it doesn't sound mean. You give and give. Takes a lot of rain to fill up a dry lake... It would take a month just to be able to function a half!
I am here though. Not much but you can yell if you want... lol!!
I am at work I get to clean ALL day tomorrow!
Maybe the yoga should come first... if it helps!

Thanks Need. :):):)

I am going to be just fine, just like you are. Make little changes at a time then go for the gusto! Go Need and Start... GOOOOOO!
I could have gone into work, and I almost did, just to get away from here for a bit. That just doesn't sound right so I stayed here. LOL I have help, just... oh its such a long story and I don't even want to start so, we will stay where we are and just know you are not alone. AND neither am I. YOGA YOGA YOGA!

TOGA TOGA... oh YOU said YOGA... lol... Yep I am here. Leaving work for paperwork... Will be on 2mro! GO START!! Whoo whoo!! U can do it!!

Try your best to get out there, never be too busy for anything...

Get in shape, be healthy, be happy... go out to clubs... meet people... it's hard but practice makes perfect. (:

Legs are feeling like spaghetti and I have been doing my yoga... Ohhhh
Ohhhhh
Ohhhhhhhhhh:)
I hope I can get back to where I left off, seriously!
Hope you are great Need;) Keep goin' with yourself stuff, its great!

Hey start. Getting along here. Proud of you and the yoga! Great job. Working out the kinks here... back to the DR. I go... and then some!

Hey your in the same track as mine.I am left alone.I did a lot to my friends but they just left me.I started loving loneliness

Thanks Vev... here if you need to talk
Wish me luck. I am going all out. I have one month to get it together. Ya know, Quit smoking, change my diet, get healthy. So... Here I go!!

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Originally Posted by Need a friend

I am 35 and I just need a friend. I need someone I can talk to about what is going on in my life, ask advice, chat with, and return the favor. I work alot and have No friends. I am lonely and just need some advice on where I could find someone who will chat with me on a serious level.
Any suggestions?

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U can try some social networking sites.even I am alone since child but these sites provde a great relief for my pain

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Thanks Vev ...here if you need to talk
Wish me luck. I am going all out. I have one month to get it together. Ya know, Quit smoking, change my diet, get healthy. So.....Here I go!!!!!

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Ohhhhh good luck!! Need, tell me your plan? I can't imagine doing all that at once...
BUT, if you are willing and that is what you want to do... then GO NEED GO! WOO Hoo!

Vev: I do use networking. It does help THX I am glad you too find help there. Why are you so alone?
Start: OK Are you ready? Well I continue to have cramps and such. My father is in alternative medicine. He has a network of people incl. Med Dr.s. SO... I took a month off work. Tues. I get the no smoking shot... again. Also will go up there for a yeast kill and start back I will be staying with him for a week.He has a massage therapist along withlots of other things that can help. I started therapy yesterday UHG and I went and got the sonogram the medical dr wanted me to get. SO... I may not get it all done. I may not succeed in every area. I don't know... BUT I don't have the extra stress. My boss said. Just go get a historectomy and get it over... WOW that was cold. I wanted to tell him to get castrated and then we would talk, but kept my mouth shut and my job intact.
My sign. Other is being very supportive and told me to do whatever I needed to do. So I am
There is a YMCA where my father lives so I can start an exercise regimine of sorts.
Wish me LUCK... and how's that yoga coming?