Dear Altenweg,
I am new at this site an by chance I read your story. Extremely sorry to read this. But I am not agry with--------
The scary part is that my daughter is 5. I look at her and think, all it takes is one person to destroy that innocence, that pure sweet childhood innocence. How can someone look at a child and even think about taking that innocence away? I couldn't protect myself, how can I protect my children? It kills me inside to think that someone could do the same thing to one of my kids, it keeps me up at night. I know about the monsters that hide in the shadows, they better not try to come here, but how do I keep them away?---------

But think it positively. I have faced many dark shades in my childhoods that scares me. But I am at a height where I can fought for anyone not for my child.

You are a mother and in India we says a mother can do the greatest of this universe for her child is "SafeGuarding". He can die but can not bear to harm anyone her child's.

If any problem please ask me personal I would be there with you not as a friend nor as a stranger but as Yourself.

Thanks

God would lead your way I assures that. This is a command from god's child.

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Originally Posted by starlite1

Honey, I am so sorry. Well as you know, this wasn't okay at all for any of them to do. NO WAY!! Is there a way you can move out of where you are to get away from them? Also, have you even been to counseling?

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No there is no way I can leave I'm not allowed to leave they won't even let me go to collage if its more than an hour away it feels like they always have to be in control of me
I haven't been to counseling either

You need to somehow get out of there. Can you stay at a friends house? You are 17, I'm not certain of the legal age where you don't need parents consent where you live, but in NY it is 17. Also, you need to see a counselor. They can also help in getting you out of there.

I'm afriad its just scary to leave my mom and brothers I don't want to leave I just want them to stop and I just want to forget everythin I don't wannna get anyone hurt or be hurt anymore

They are the ones doing the hurt, not you. You need to really get away from what they are doing to you.

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Originally Posted by missunloved

im afriad its jsut scary to leave my mom and brothers i dont wanna leave i jsut want them to stop and i jsut wanna forget everythin i dont wannna get anyone hurt or be hurt n e more

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Honey, you will get more help with your problem if you start your own thread. More people will see it. Right now this is hijacking Altenwegs thread. If you just go to the top of this page, and click on mental health, it will say "ask a new question." You can explain your exact situation in your question, and you will get more help that way, okay? We want to help the best we can, so if you can do that, it will be best. :)

I don't mind Starby, but you're right, she will get many more responses on her own thread.

Missunloved, what you are going through isn't right, nor is it legal and it must stop.

It took a long time for me to come to terms with what I went through and many days I still think too much about it and let it rule my life. I've come a long way though, but I didn't do it alone.

You really need to talk to a professional, someone who can listen and be there only for you. You'd be amazed how much talking about it, opening up to someone, helps.

We're all here for you, whenever you need us.

I don't mean to disregard what is going on with you missunloved, I just read through this post and have to say something.

Alty,

I am so glad you have found the strength to let the little girl out of the dark. I am so sorry that this happened to you.

I would just like to say, in regards your fears of judgment: I have always enjoyed reading your posts (and believe that you were one of the first people I 'met' on AMHD) I have always found your posts eloquent, uplifting, realistic and heartfelt. You were already pretty high up on my respect-o-meter but knowing your strength, determination and grace under gross pressure has only increased you in my esteem.

I cannot commend you enough for having the ability to be the true phoenix.

You have arisen from the ashes a truly beautiful person, kudos.

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Originally Posted by neverme

I don't mean to disregard what is going on with you missunloved, I just read through this post and have to say something.

Alty,

I am so glad you have found the strength to let the little girl out of the dark. I am so sorry that this happened to you.

I would just like to say, in regards your fears of judgment: I have always enjoyed reading your posts (and believe that you were one of the first people I 'met' on AMHD) I have always found your posts eloquent, uplifting, realistic and heartfelt. You were already pretty high up on my respect-o-meter but knowing your strength, determination and grace under gross pressure has only increased you in my esteem.

I cannot commend you enough for having the ability to be the true phoenix.

You have arisen from the ashes a truly beautiful person, kudos.

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Wow, you just made me cry, thank you so much for those wonderful words. Wow! :)

I can honestly say that I've come a long way since this thread was started, but still, whenever I read it, I feel like that little girl again. I'm a work in progress. ;)

What's truly amazing to me is how many people have gone through something similar, that's a very sobering thought.

This site and the people on it have been a real blessing to me, I don't know what I'd do without all of you.

Big hugs. :)

Oh I knew you wouldn't mind Alty. I just thought it might get more attention if she started another thread. I just wanted for her to get all of the help that she could.

I think this is a horrible situation you are in missunloved. I hate for you to even think that you are so unloved. You don't deserve any of this abuse, and I want you to be able to get out of this bad situation that you are in. We will do all that we can to help, and give you any resources we can.

I sure hope you didn't think that I meant to go away, or that Alty wouldn't want you to voice your feelings here. Just the opposite. I just wanted for you to be able to get more people to support you. We want to help you honey.

I'm sorry if I came across to you the wrong way sweetie. You need to get away from these people who are hurting and abusing you like this.

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Originally Posted by neverme

Alty,
I cannot commend you enough for having the ability to be the true phoenix.

You have arisen from the ashes a truly beautiful person, kudos.

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Had to spread the rep neverme but that was a nice post. She is pretty special isn't she :)

Don't you be getting a big head on us now Alty :cool:

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Originally Posted by friend4u178

Had to spread the rep neverme but that was a nice post. She is pretty special isn't she :)

Don't you be getting a big head on us now Alty :cool:

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::blushing:: gosh, gee, M, you're so sweet. Thanks :o

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

::blushing:: gosh, gee, M, you're so sweet. Thanks :o

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Oh you know we all love you to death! You have a great big heart!


http://www.postsmile.net/img/35/3537.gif

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

::blushing:: gosh, gee, M, you're so sweet. You sure know how to make a girl blush :) Thanks

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It's a special talent Alty ;)

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Originally Posted by friend4u178

Its a special talent Alty ;)

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Well, I love it. :)

Not many men can make me blush dear. ;)

I think you are a very brave and caring woman and I am sorry that you had the past you did.
Thank-you for sharing your life with us,the good and the bad.
You're a beautiful girl and I have this motherly urge to reach out an give you a hug!
God Bless you sweetie... BIG HUGGS
Michele

Wow Alty, I'm just now seeing this thread and find comfort in your strength. We've all been through something but you never know what someone has dealt with until you take a moment to talk with them.

Thanks for your courage and hopefully someone will see this thread and be inspired to blow the whistle on their abuser. If someone is helped from seeing this then your effort was not in vain.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

Thank you for your strength, your courage, your wisdom, and your compassion.

Thank you most of all for sharing it with so many others on this site. We all know that for all of those who ask questions and seek answers, many more are silently reading... hoping and longing to know that they are not alone, and that they too can be strong and wise, couragous and compassionate.

I hope by sharing, you find more healing... :)

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Originally Posted by DoulaLC

Thank you for your strength, your courage, your wisdom, and your compassion.

Thank you most of all for sharing it with so many others on this site. We all know that for all of those who ask questions and seek answers, many more are silently reading.....hoping and longing to know that they are not alone, and that they too can be strong and wise, couragous and compassionate.

I hope by sharing, you find more healing......:)

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artlady agrees: This should be our new sticky to help our precious girls from making bad decisions.I think girls listen more than boys.I hope:)

Boys next.My sons are very respectful to women but some are not .

Let's put together a manual for young men and show them how to have a relationship.

No one gives them much advice that is real. Young men are totally clueless so we tell them the truth. Hay maybe we will end up on OPRAH :rolleyes:

Take your meds and pray

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Wow, you just made me cry, thank you so much for those wonderful words. Wow! :)

I can honestly say that I've come a long way since this thread was started, but still, whenever I read it, I feel like that little girl again. I'm a work in progress. ;)

What's truly amazing to me is how many people have gone through something similar, that's a very sobering thought.

This site and the people on it have been a real blessing to me, I don't know what I'd do without all of you.
Go Take Your Meds!
Drama Queen Get Over It, Expert @ puppies/dogs and now People oh here you go how about praying
Big hugs. :)

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Originally Posted by FENCED

Take your meds and pray

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What? You first! If you have nothing useful to add to a thread then don't!

I just came across this thread today. I'm so sorry you had this burden with you all these years Alty. On the other hand, I'm glad you found the courage to tell your story. I think that is why we are here. To help each other carry our heavy loads. It gives me a sense of peace to know that the big hearted, high quality people that responded to you post are "out there". In this world and in cyber space. It's nice to know there are people out there who "get it".
They get the fact that we are all in this together and we should be able to depend on each other when we are feeling down or burdened by something. Good job friends!

I've only just come across this thread too.
I really don't know what to say.
You are one of the bravest people I know Alty.
You know we all love you here (except for that one jerk) and I'm glad you found your hubby.
Hard life - Happy ending :)

Wow, hon. You are very brave to share this with us. Thank you for trusting us with it. I know how you feel, I was raped when I was 11 and when I became a teen I was very promiscuous as well. I never felt sex, I just said my abcs in my head till it was over *blush* but still I went after it. It led me to the worst types of people. My daughters biological father was very sexually abusive to me and thankfully I didn't marry him and got away from him and met my husband who is so wonderful. We have been married for 3 years and it still amazes me when he says 'its OK if you don't want to make love tonight'

Thank you so much for having the courage to share this with us hon. I hope I can speak for everyone here when I say that I feel so special to be let in that very private part of your life.

*hugs*