Ask Me Help Desk - What should I do if I'm way overweight?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

How old is your sister? Is she smart and in school?

I thought that you where saying if I had problems in school so I said yes since grade 4 but I don't have any learning probles am a 85-100% student.

And yes my sis is in school. And yes she's also smart the same GPA as mine.

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

i thought that you where saying if i had problems in school so i said yes since grade 4 but i dont have any learning probles am a 85-100% student.

and yes my sis is in school. and yes shes also smart the same GPA as mine.

What kind of problems do you face in school?

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Originally Posted by Zea

What kind of problems do you face in school?

Always bullying

"Bullying" Report all Bullies to a teacher, counselor, to anyone.

"Sorry for interrupting, you can speak here, too". Who are you addressing?

Wondergirl who actually has a degree (and more than one) in the counselling field?

I don't think telling a person that her parents could be worse is helpful.

Now, back to the OP - what do you do well? Sports? A hobby? Something else? If you have a learning disabiity is it treated? Who diagnosed you?

I think having 3 good female friends is a pretty good record. Not everyone has a boyfriend. Not everyone wants a boyfriend. Your life should not hinge on that.

" 'Sorry for interrupting, you can speak here, too'. Who are you addressing?" I meant the OP.

You realize OP is in the UK (from what I'm reading) and the rules concerning bullying are very different.

To OP - what forms does the bullying take? Why are you bullied?

I am concerned that this might be conceived to be a blog. I trust WG will jump in here soon. I hesitate to give advice when the OP is greatly troubled because I am not a trained health professional. She is.

I am addressing all of you that are helping me here right know. The sport I play are: soccer, baseball, basketball, badminton, cricket, flag football, snow bowl, bowling. And my hobbies are drawing, acting, singing, playing the guitar, playing the sax.

I also said 3 OK female friends not the best. And I did tell a teacher about the bullying problem but they just continue. And I don't have any learning disability. I thought that she was saying if I had any school problem.

I do try to eat normally but every time I do eat I feel like it poison so I go to the bathroom. The only thing that does come out id a little bit of food not that much though. And I know that B and an A is not the best way to go but... I don't now I just feel like I don't belong like everything in my life is going wrong because of all of my weight.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

You realize OP is in the UK

Not quite.

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I trust WG will jump in here soon. I hesitate to give advice when the OP is greatly troubled because I am not a trained health professional. She is.

I'm here again, was working on my family tree and am trying to root out German ancestors.

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

everything in my life is going wrong because of all of my weight.

Thanks for all the info about sports and stuff.

No, your weight is not why things are going wrong.

Let 's talk about the bullying. Tell me more about what happens.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Thanks for all the info about sports and stuff.

No, your weight is not why things are going wrong.

Then... why is my life going wrong. I try my best at everything but I can't get any weight to go down. The only thing that goes right is all of my sports and hobbies but that's all, weelll, my grades.

I have nothing besides myself and I don't like myself. I feel that if wold disappear (go to some other place) nobody would miss me.

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

I have nothing besides myself and i dont like myself. i feel that if wold disappear (go to some other place) nobody would miss me.

Bingo! You don't like yourself. That's why things don't go right. It has NOTHING to do with your weight.

Tell me about the bullying. What happens? Tell me about one of the times.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Bingo! You don't like yourself. That's why things don't go right. It has NOTHING to do with your weight.

Tell me about the bullying. What happens? Tell me about one of the times.

Well I was going to go to Careers and the seat that I normally sit was taken to I went to go sit somewhere else (I normally see that no one else sits). Put then this girl comes out of no where and tells me" hay i sit there so move" I said to her " no u sit over there(i now where everyone sits because im very detailed) then she said " no I want to sit here today" then i said "OK sit that's fine" but then she turns around and said very loudly" some people shouldn't even be here or just a life" everyone laughed looked at me and well I think you know what happens next.

I started to cry( we had a test that day and I failed it completely) when I got home to finally be home I went to take to my mom and all she said was this big lecture about getting bad marks and not going to UNIVERSITY.

And there's more way more where that came from

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

well i was going to go to Careers and the seat that i normally sit was taken

Okay, thanks. I understand and can imagine that you have endured more episodes like this one. I feel a connection to you. My initials used to be CJG. Are CMG your initials?

Would you be willing to work with me a little bit to improve the situation?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Okay, thanks. I understand and can imagine that you have endured more episodes like this one. I feel a connection to you. My initials used to be CJG. Are CMG your initials?

Would you be willing to work with me a little bit to improve the situation?

Yea CMG are my initials. What do I have to do. But tell me first what I should do with my beginning bulimia stuff? I really need some one to take to.(just know that I'm opening my heart to you(ive never none that before with no one not even my parents) I just hope that your really do help me and not just playing around with me) I've never had some one take to me like that.

PS. I feel very good and happy that someone is really taking to me the way you are. Thanks

But please what do I have to do.

Well CMG, I am not as callous as I sounded earlier, and I can ((((hug)))) you, but not in real time Sorry I upset you.

You are in the UK, yes ? My son, from Germany, just took a trip to Scotland last week with his live in g/f and they had a great time. They said it was just so beautiful to see, with the heather out.

He was bullied in school too, but overcame it by fighting back, easier for a guy to do I know, but he had good friends too. He was really great in school, yes, much older now of course and moved from Canada to Germany to work.

Good things can come from winning the game of being bullyed, so keep on coming back and talking to us please.

Any problems you have, talk them out here and we will help the best we can.

Tick

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

but please what do i have to do.

First, I have to tell you I am a real-life counselor and have worked with kids to help them with school problems. I can't really counsel you here because it's not in real life (I wish we lived closer to each other!), but maybe I can get things started for you to improve your life. Okay? Are you still with me?

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Originally Posted by tickle

Well CMG, I am not as callous as I sounded earlier, and I can ((((hug)))) you,

Thanks. No I'm in Canada. Well I think that you said about just committing seaside isn't the best way to go(you said that in the 1 message) but I'm beginning to feel a need to throw up everything I eat. (bulimia symptoms) I think that I should go see a doctor but I have no DL, I will not go on a Trying to conceive (public transportation) and my parents well... wouldn't care. So I don't know what I should do. Besides talking here and letting my feeling lose and open my heart but I also need someone that could really be here with me. NOBODY FROM SCHOOL NO NO AND NO!!

I already have them laughing at me for the way I look, I don't need people to start laughing at me because I have a problem.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

First, I have to tell you I am a real-life counselor and have worked with kids to help them with school problems. I can't really counsel you here because it's not in real life (I wish we lived closer to each other!), but maybe I can get things started for you to improve your life. Okay? Are you still with me?

What do you mean that you can't COUNSEL my? Just one question where do you live?

What do I have to do to "Improve my life" my live can't get better nomatter what I do

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

what do you mean that you can't COUNSEL my? Just one question where do you live?

I mean I can't sit down with you in real life and chat and figure out stuff and how to improve things for you. I live near Chicago.

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what do I have to do to "Improve my life" my live can't get better nomatter what I do

Yes, it can. I know things that work.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I mean I can't sit down with you in real life and chat and figure out stuff and how to improve things for you. I live near Chicago.

Yes, it can. I know things that work.

Oh yea that's to bad we can't live closer. What do I have to do?

Here are some suggestions:

How do you deal with eating problems? Don't fight it by trying to make yourself through up, you can eat anything you want just stop before you are full. Doing this will not make you gain weight.

How can you lose weight? Don't stop exercising, and give it more time before you can see any difference. You mentioned in one of your previous comments that you might have bulimia, it might be nothing but I think that you should see a doctor just in case.

How do you deal with bullies? Stay out of their way, don't challenge them, don't show them that their words hurt you or they will know that it works on you, next time report this to a counselor not a teacher. I don't think that all teachers know how to deal with this.

How do you improve you life? Continue studying to do better in school, tighten your friendship bond with your three friends or make newer friends.

Do you have any questions, or need help with something else? Just ask if you do.

WG, will probably give you a better advice when she comes back.

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Originally Posted by Zea

Here are some suggestions:

How do you deal with eating problems? Don't fight it by trying to make yourself through up, you can eat anything you want just stop before you are full. Doing this will not make you gain weight.

How can you lose weight? Don't stop exercising, and give it more time before you can see any difference. You mentioned in one of your previous comments that you might have bulimia, it might be nothing but I think that you should see a doctor just in case.

How do you deal with bullies? Stay out of their way, don't challenge them, don't show them that their words hurt you or they will know that it works on you, next time report this to a counselor not a teacher. I don't think that all teachers know how to deal with this.

How do you improve you life? Continue studying to do better in school, tighten your friendship bond with your three friends or make newer friends.

Do you have any questions, or need help with something else? Just ask if you do.

WG, will probably give you a better advice, when she comes back.

I do stay out of the bullies ways they just come to me and bother me. Do u might now how much $ it is to see a psychologist or a doc. I don't know what to do I was talking to WG but I wish she was here so I could take to her in person.

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I don't know how much it can cost to see a psychologist or a doctor. I don't live in Canada. I think that, WG, will be back and she will probably tell you what are some of your choices.

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Originally Posted by Zea

I don't know how much it can cost to see a psychologist or a doctor, I don't live in Canada. I think that, WG, will be back and she will probably tell you what are some of your choices.

Ok thanks but what do u think I might have? Every time I eat but when I'm all alone I feel the need to throw up. I don't know but ever time I'm with people and like school I don't feel like eating so I don't know what I have to do.

Well, it is important to tell you that I am not a doctor. Giving a diagnosis online is dangerous you are going to have to see a doctor, and for that to happen you must talk to your parents. Don't guess their reactions you must tell them about this.

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

Ok thanks but what do u think I might have? Everytime I eat but when I'm all alone I feel the need to throw up. I don't know but ever time I'm with people and like school I don't feel like eating so I dont know what I have to do.

I'm back. I had gotten some important phone calls and had to talk for a while.

Is there anything you will eat and enjoy?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I'm back. I had gotten some important phone calls and had to talk for a while.

Is there anything you will eat and enjoy?

I didn't say that the food come back up. I just said that I feel the need to trow up. I try to see if I feel better but nothing comes out. And I don't know what to do.

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

I didnt say that the food come back up. I just said that I feel the need to trow up. I try to see if I feel better but nothing comes out. And I don't know what to do.

What do you like to eat and will do so with no problem?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

What do you like to eat and will do so with no problem?

Idk like water, and very little amount of food like grilled fish

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

Idk like water, and very little amount of food like grilled fish

Is there a fruit you like?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Is there a fruit you like?

I like watermelon, cantaloupe

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

I like watermelon, cantaloupe

Yummy! Now, how about vegetables?

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

I like watermelon, cantaloupe

sorry I also like peaches, pairs.
And all veggies except Tomatoes,onions, brussel sprout, and celery

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

sorry I also like peaches, pairs.
And all veggies except Tomatos,onions, brussel sprout, and celery

Broccoli and cauliflower? I had asparagus for lunch yesterday.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Broccoli and cauliflower? I had asparagus for lunch yesterday.

Yea I like broccoli and cauliflower. Cooked on steam. Ive never tried asparagus.

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

Yea I like broccoli and cauliflower. Cooked on steam. Ive never tryed asparagus.

So if you and I got together and fixed our own supper, we could make grilled fish, a nice fruit salad, steamed broccoli (with cheese sauce or butter on it?), and what for dessert?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

So if you and I got together and fixed our own supper, we could make grilled fish, a nice fruit salad, steamed broccoli (with cheese sauce or butter on it?), and what for dessert?

I don't like cheese that much and butter. But if we would get together that would be good but not at my house. So I don't know where we could get together. And for dessert I don't know I like chocolate but only very little. I don't like caramel,or BS. But maybe have... I really dk

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Originally Posted by CMG 1

I don't like cheese that much and butter. But if we would get together that would be good but not at my house. So I don't know where we could get together. And for dessert I don't know I like chocolate but only very little. I don't like caramel,or BS. But maybe have... I really dk

Well, unfortunately we aren't able to get together, but now I know there are foods that you like and will eat. I plan to make chocolate brownies in about fifteen minutes, so I will be thinking of you while I am making them and then smelling them while they bake. Do you like brownies?

I'm also thinking it is time for you to go to bed. What about that?

Can I ask you something? Do u have kids? If one of your kids would pass through what most teens pass through(like all of this) what would you do?
Sorry for it being such a personal question