Them I said ye as in the people on the site not you as in directed at one person.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
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Them I said ye as in the people on the site not you as in directed at one person.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I changed "ye" to "you," by the way.Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
You said that directly to Judy.
How about you use your life experience and the good things you have learned to help other teens/kids who post on the site. Don't go on the legal or medical boards, but write good English (set a good example for others), and do your best to help someone else. I'll keep an eye on you and let you know if your advice isn't the best, but will praise you if it is good advice. What do you think?
Em yeah okay but I didn't mean to say it directly to JudyQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Yes, punctuation matters. In fact, I have here a bag of commas I am now giving to you. I want you to use them faithfully. If you run out, let me know and I will give you a new bag. Since you are so nice, I won't charge you. They are free just for you. Okay?
I want to see commas in your posts -- and put them in the right places, or I will take your bag away and give you a time out in the comma factory.
Okay... That sounds like something my English teacher would sayQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
You don't want questions, you don't want to be judged, but you started this thread about cutting, you posted that you're proud of your cutting scars. We didn't ask you to write about this, you chose to, but now we're judging and asking too many questions?Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
Why did you start this thread? I can't see a single reason other than you wanting attention. What did you expect, answer wise, when you posted this question?
Sorry, but I agree with your friends.
Okay. That's your opinion.Quote:
Originally Posted by Alty
Do you self harm... I've scratched a load of my skin of before doing self harming and I've got scars on girl who I thought was one of my mates started trying to do what I had done and it really pissed me of I couldn't tel anyone and I just had to cope... in the end I made sure that whatever happened I couldn't let her get to me I would look down at her whenever she tried to imitate me for attention and now she tries to be nice to me, I hope your okay and be the stronger person... look back at what you've done and make yourself believe your much stronger than that..
Yeah I self harm. Thanks for your comment.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wlliephant
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Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
I thought you said you stopped - ?
You notice, though, she is typing complete words now (not texting) and using punctuation. She has come a long way as far as that goes. How can we get her to stop cutting? Or can we?Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
Sorry for interrupting your conversation,but there's no way to get me to stop cutting. It happens over time. Therapy is really all that can stop me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
You do know why you cut, right?Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
No. I'm working on it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
You can stop today.
It's not that easy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Yes, it is. All you have to do is substitute another behavior for the cutting.
It's easier said than done. What do you mean by "another behavior for cutting."Quote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
I used to have a horrible habit that was becoming visible to people and I couldn't hide it any longer. I hated myself and was terribly embarrassed and even ashamed when people would mention it and sort of back away from me in horror. I'm a problem solver, so I thought to myself, "This has to stop. How can I stop it?"
I thought about all the good things I do with my hands (what I used to use for this bad thing when I was alone). I love to type and be on the computer. I made a pact with myself. No more doing this bad thing, and every time I had the urge to do it, I would go over to the computer and use my hands to type and work on one of my stories or type some emails to friends or whatever--but I would type, not do the bad thing.
It worked! It was a drag at first, but I had promised myself I would stop with the bad thing, so I hauled my body over to the computer a lot at first. Over about two weeks it got easier and easier to just not do the bad thing without going to the computer. Total time to quit the bad thing was about a month. It was hard work to stick to my promise to myself. Meanwhile, I got lots of typing done!
Sounds like a good idea. I do something to stop me, but it doesn't work all the time.
Hey dear,
Please get yourself checked for Bipolar disorder.. don't want to sound rude..
What's bipolar disorder?Quote:
Originally Posted by Samaya
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Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
Bipolar Disorder Center: Symptoms, Types, Tests, and Treatments -
Samaya forgot who he's talking to -
The substitute thing has to be something you really enjoy doing. One therapist friend told me to wear a rubber band on my wrist and snap it when I had the urge do the bad thing. Pffffft, that didn't work at all.
For instance, if you bite your nails, start taking care of them and wearing polish and getting your nails done. That often will work. My older son is autistic and, when he was younger, used to flap his hands when he got excited. It's called stimming. He learned to substitute a more socially acceptable behavior in place of the hand flapping, so kids wouldn't make fun of him.
Can you think of how this can work for you? Think of a better substitute than what you use now?
Oh,I get it now. ThanksQuote:
Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Okay. It's okay,its not being rude. You were honest so,thanks and I think I will get myself checked for it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Samaya
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Originally Posted by Wondergirl
Sort of off topic but a friend of mine quit smoking this way - "I'd like a cigarette" "Snap" "I don't want a cigarette"
You doing bad things? Never!
Question - if OP sees a therapist would the therapist take a look at bipolar?
If I'm correct your thirteen, so am I... I knoe what your going through and although I have no idea hod savere your situation is I know how it feels to have people know you as a selfharmer and an attention seeker... if you explained to your friends or to your closest friend your situation maybe they might help you out?Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
It depends on the compulsive behavior and the client's suggestibility. The snapping can work for cutters too. It didn't work for me, for my problem.Quote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
Just ONE bad thing. I was upset over Princess Diana's death, was at that time.Quote:
You doing bad things? Never!
Yes, if the client asks about it. Or if signs are there. Bipolar usually manifests itself around 19-21, during early adulthood.Quote:
Question - if OP sees a therapist would the therapist take a look at bipolar?
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Originally Posted by Wlliephant
Got to tell you - VERY impressive post. 13 years old and you express yourself so well?
Amazing - I honestly am impressed by you.
Thanks;D only. Because I know how it feels and no one should fel that wayQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
It's nice to know that your 13. It's not so easy to explain it. The words that I want to say to them just don't come out.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wlliephant
What do you mean?Quote:
Originally Posted by bubblegumxox
I think she means that it's nice to have someone here age on the site, someone that may understand her better because we don't.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wlliephant
Funny thing is, you don't seem to understand her either. ;)
Oohhhh ooops, ngl, no one will understand the reasons for swlfharm unless they are in the position.. when I did it I did it with mainly anger so I had managed to scratch through a few layers of skin and not even feel the pain where I was just too upset and angry only when my hand swelled up and started weeping did I realise how I was greatly affected by the situation that turned me to self inflicted harm
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