Originally Posted by
KBC
I have been reading this thread not wanting to get involved until I could wrap my thoughts around SOMETHING,that made sense to me.I finally have,,maybe:confused:
Can you first try to not chat speak here,it's enough for me to get a clear picture from your descriptions yet alone when you chat speak.
You can set a boundary against being victimized by this any longer.You don't HAVE to go to a situation where your safety is under suspicion.
Your words and actions have to be clear and concise,don't take no or be 'egged on' by anyone.Just say no!
If they(whoever 'they' might happen to be) want an explanation as to why you are saying no,you MUST have a reason,a good reason.If this thing happened,no matter when,why or who with,your responsibility to yourself is to stop putting yourself in situations that will be uncomfortable for you,much less unsafe.
If this happened,you also have a responsibility to report this to the proper authorities,police,church member/preacher(even if you don't go to the particular church,they still will assist you),your parents,a trusted neighbor,etc.
Keeping this a secret is allowing it to keep you in shame,to feel guilt over something you didn't do(or did do and now feel guilt for doing it,I or anyone else on here don't know the whole story,just your side)
If you want to continue to feel the way you have been,do nothing.
If you want to change and address this,learn something about how to cope with life when it throws you a curve,then stay on here and try to keep an open mind.You will find there are many people here who are more than willing to help you,but you have to be open to changes and looking at things with a new perspective.
