Ask Me Help Desk - What Do You Think Is the Best Way to Realize Your Own Worth?

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22
Clough you are not alone! Did you learn my song?

Self worth.. A man's word is his bond. My dad said this a lot.

Work for what you have, you appreciate it more when it is earned by the sweat of your brow.

Stand for what you believe in even though you may have to stand alone.

Never judge a person until you have stood where he has.

Never, ever look down on anyone else just because they don't believe the same as you.

Love your friends and tell them, often. (Clough.. you are my friend and I do love you)
Love the Lord and thank him for what he has given you.

Love your country.. you don't have to like the politicians..

Never fail to thank someone for a kindness they have done for you.

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Originally Posted by Just Dahlia

Heeyyyy... is that part of the song or did you just add that:rolleyes::)

I don't think that Kit changed anything, JD.

What an uplifting thread.

As this is mainly a problem-solving forum, it can get quite weighed down with negative stuff, in a good way as we all try to help each other, but still heavy stuff.

You brought us all something to ponder that is really positive Clough, even if difficult to define. Sorry you're finding things hard going right now, but give yourself a pat on the back for using your hurt to spread some sunshine. Look at all the love you invited in. Have a grateful hug from me. Xx

Thank you, QLP! Your words of kindness and caring are much appreciated! :)

Here's a hug to you, too! ((((HUG))))

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Originally Posted by Stringer

Well................

Oh, that was funny and well-appreciated, Stringer!

I wonder where you found that image?

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

I think that a great way for anyone to realize his or her own worth is through self talk. Not only that, but finding something that they are truely passionate about and sticking to it, by this I mean values, core beliefs. Our core beliefs are the very foundation of who we are as people, as well as our individual personality traits. Through self talk, one can come to realize what they truely believe in and decide how they want to go about living their lives through those values. And while sincerity is an important thing, I think that the only type of sincerity is the type that actually does the world better, meaning that even though someone can believe it's good, doesn't mean it is. Any person can have the purest intentions, and still end up doing something terrible.
I also agree that the other things you listed in the origional post are great contributing factors. People find their self worth in many different ways. They are the ones who decide what is important to them. So basically, people measure their own self worth by what's important to them, and hopefully by what benefits everyone for the right reasons.

Very eloquent and helpful words by you, ohsohappy!

Yeah, it's a matter of choice and telling yourself you can be a positive and proactive person working to improve things for the good in the world, as well as within yourself.

But, it's sometimes a very hard thing to realize - that is, that we each really do have the power to do that!

Thanks!

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Originally Posted by Clough

Thank you, QLP! Your words of kindness and caring are much appreciated! :)

Here's a hug to you, too! ((((HUG))))

Realizing your self worth is when you don't care whether other people like or dislike you. I have always wanted people to like me most do, some don't. It isn't anything they have done or I have done it's just life.

When I realized just lately I don't need approval from anyone in order to be me. It would be great to have everyone's approval, but nobody does. As long as I can go through life without intentionally hurting someone, that's self worth.

I think when it's my time to leave this earth I can honestly look at my children and husband and grandchildren etc. and say I made some mistakes , but I have been the best possible mother and wife and sister
And daughter I could be and say to them how much I love them.

I have made mistakes, but those mistakes have taught me lessons.
I have failed God many times , but he has never failed me.
I have been hurt, but it has made me stronger.
I have been blessed beyond anything I could ever hope for.

When I stand before my Heavenly father.. I hope I can hug him and say
Thank you for your mercy and kindness and loving me when I was unlovable. Thank you for giving me friends who love me. Most of all thank you for your son, because if it weren't for him... I wouldn't be here

Thank you Clough... You'll be there too:)

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Originally Posted by Just Dahlia
"Having to be alone and realize that you really aren't alone? That there is always someone who cares, and if needed would be your friend and look after and help you and maybe join with you, in one way or another down the path through life?"

This was closest for me.
My worth is within me and the few friends I have. I'm not an easy person to befriend, but the people who feel I'm worth it are life long.

I feel if you can be yourself and still have a friend or two your life is worth it. Some things you want will never happen, but you are still worth the long haul, keep on trudging along and be happy in the off time, I am well worth anything that life throws my way.

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Originally Posted by Stringer

My mentor uncle once said something simple and profound to me:

"If as you go through life you make enough great friends to count on one hand who would give you their shirt when you are cold you are indeed one of the luckiest and richest people in the world."

Stringer

Yes, it is profound! And, you are truly one of those great friends about whom your uncle mentioned!

Your Rock Island Friend...

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Clough you are not alone! Did you learn my song?

Self worth.. A man's word is his bond. My dad said this a lot.

Work for what you have, you appreciate it more when it is earned by the sweat of your brow.

Stand for what you believe in even though you may have to stand alone.

Never judge a person until you have stood where he has.

Never, ever look down on anyone else just because they don't believe the same as you.

Love your friends and tell them, often. (Clough.. you are my friend and I do love you)

Love the Lord and thank him for what he has given you.

Love your country.. you don't have to like the politicians..

Never fail to thank someone for a kindness they have done for you.

I think that I'm finally learning and assimilating your song, Kit!

I can be pretty dense, sometimes...

It's a beautiful song! :)

Love from me to you! ((((HUG))))

Thanks!

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Originally Posted by Clough

I think that I'm finally learning and assimilating your song, Kit!

I can be pretty dense, sometimes...

It's a beautiful song! :)

Love from me to you! ((((HUG))))

Thanks!

You are my buddy and Stringer is right!:)

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

You are my buddy and Stringer is right!:)

I'm glad that we're "buds"! That's part of how a person realizes themselves worth!

Being able to get along with others...

Stringer usually is correct, by the way! He's like a brother to me!

I don't think that it's any accident as to why certain people happen to come into the lives of others.

I also don't believe in luck. After all, if you have faith, how could there be such a thing as luck?

Thanks!

I'm so glad I came to this site. :)

If I need a little inspiration for the day, to keep me on the right path, I often find there's a Goethe quote to fit the bill.
Here are a few of my favourites:

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.

A noble person attracts noble people, and knows how to hold on to them.

A person places themselves on a level with the ones they praise.

All the knowledge I possess everyone else can acquire, but my heart is all my own.

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

The deed is everything, the glory is naught.

The man with insight enough to admit his limitations comes nearest to perfection.

Goethe.

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Originally Posted by QLP

If I need a little inspiration for the day, to keep me on the right path, I often find there's a Goethe quote to fit the bill.
Here are a few of my favourites:

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.

A noble person attracts noble people, and knows how to hold on to them.

A person places themselves on a level with the ones they praise.

All the knowledge I possess everyone else can acquire, but my heart is all my own.

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

The deed is everything, the glory is naught.

The man with insight enough to admit his limitations comes nearest to perfection.

Goethe.

That is beautiful.:)

I think you should think about all the posotive things about yourself and not listen to what everybody else says and also be very independent

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Originally Posted by twinkie15

i think you should think about all the posotive things about ur self and not listen to what everybody else says and also be very independant

Sometimes constructive criticism is great! When good friends tell you what they think, it helps. I've learned a lot from listening to some very wise people. True friends will tell you what you need to hear, good or bad. And it's wise to listen.

You learn and grow and appreciate those who tell you the truth and not just what you want to hear.:)

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Sometimes constructive criticism is great !! When good friends tell you what they think, it helps. I've learned a lot from listening to some very wise people. True friends will tell you what you need to hear, good or bad. and it's wise to listen.

You learn and grow and appreciate those who tell you the truth and not just what you want to hear.:)

My true friends don't give me advice, they already know I know what to do... I just might not be doing it yet. They know me very well and I appreciate the fact that they let me be me and get on with it in my own good time.

Actually sometimes just a look, gets me moving:):rolleyes:;)

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Originally Posted by QLP

If I need a little inspiration for the day, to keep me on the right path, I often find there's a Goethe quote to fit the bill.
Here are a few of my favourites:

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.

A noble person attracts noble people, and knows how to hold on to them.

A person places themselves on a level with the ones they praise.

All the knowledge I possess everyone else can acquire, but my heart is all my own.

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

The deed is everything, the glory is naught.

The man with insight enough to admit his limitations comes nearest to perfection.

Goethe.

'You can do anything you want to, man...'

'Lose yourself' Eminnem

(as close as I could get it)
It comes from 'my' pep song that I listen to every Friday on my way home from work, and I honestly believe I can.

Although I have to close my car windows when I'm at a stop light.;)

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22
Sometimes constructive criticism is great! When good friends tell you what they think, it helps. I've learned a lot from listening to some very wise people. True friends will tell you what you need to hear, good or bad. And it's wise to listen.

You learn and grow and appreciate those who tell you the truth and not just what you want to hear.

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Originally Posted by Just Dahlia

My true friends don't give me advice, they already know I know what to do... I just might not be doing it yet. They know me very well and I appreciate the fact that they let me be me and get on with it in my own good time.

Actually sometimes just a look, gets me moving:):rolleyes:;)

There's an old saying that "the best mirror is a friends eye..."

Yes, keep moving. Very important..

Originally Posted by QLP
If I need a little inspiration for the day, to keep me on the right path, I often find there's a Goethe quote to fit the bill.
Here are a few of my favourites:

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.

A noble person attracts noble people, and knows how to hold on to them.

A person places themselves on a level with the ones they praise.

All the knowledge I possess everyone else can acquire, but my heart is all my own.

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

The deed is everything, the glory is naught.

The man with insight enough to admit his limitations comes nearest to perfection.

Goethe.

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Originally Posted by Just Dahlia

'You can do anything you want to, man...'

'Lose yourself' Eminnem

(as close as I could get it)
It comes from 'my' pep song that I listen to every Friday on my way home from work, and I honestly believe I can.

Although I have to close my car windows when I'm at a stop light.;)

I'm going to have to check out that song, JD! Have you checked out the pieces to which I have links to in my signature?

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Originally Posted by QLP

If I need a little inspiration for the day, to keep me on the right path, I often find there's a Goethe quote to fit the bill.
Here are a few of my favourites:

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.

A noble person attracts noble people, and knows how to hold on to them.

A person places themselves on a level with the ones they praise.

All the knowledge I possess everyone else can acquire, but my heart is all my own.

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

The deed is everything, the glory is naught.

The man with insight enough to admit his limitations comes nearest to perfection.

Goethe.

Beautiful stuff posted here by you, QLP!

A number of years ago, when I was going through some hard times, I printed out and taped inspirational sayings all around the inside of my back door!

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Originally Posted by Clough

Beautiful stuff posted here by you, QLP!

A number of years ago, when I was going through some hard times, I printed out and taped inspirational sayings all around the inside of my back door!

Clough self awareness for me at this very moment only and don't be mad. I would like to walk to San Deigo and kick the butt of every Braves player and make them think about self awareness. They lost 17-2. Okay Sorry Clough, old buddy, old pal, had to vent... Hug, Hug:mad:

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

I'm so glad I came to this site. :)

I'm glad that you did too, ohsohappy! :)

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Originally Posted by Clough
Beautiful stuff posted here by you, QLP!

A number of years ago, when I was going through some hard times, I printed out and taped inspirational sayings all around the inside of my back door!

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Clough self awareness for me at this very moment only and don't be mad. I would like to walk to San Deigo and kick the butt of every Braves player and make them think about self awareness. They lost 17-2. Okay Sorry Clough, old buddy, old pal, had to vent... Hug, Hug:mad:

Perfectly okay to vent, Kit! Sometimes we really need to do that in order to help to realize our self-worth!

To discover there is no "somebody" who exists to realize their own worth.

This is freedom! :)

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Originally Posted by smith1012

To discover there is no "somebody" who exists to realize their own worth.

This is freedom! :)

Self worth is knowing you are loved and forgiven when you hurt a friend.

Self worth is forgiving even when you know some people are never going to like you no matter what you say or do.

Self worth is knowing no one but you has to answer to God for what you do .you alone are responsible so don't let anyone try to change you.

Self worth is knowing you have lived your life, made millions of mistakes and God still loves you...

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Self worth is knowing you are loved and forgiven when you hurt a friend.

Self worth is forgiving even when you know some people are never going to like you no matter what you say or do.

Self worth is knowing no one but you has to answer to God for what you do .you alone are responsible so don't let anyone try to change you.

Self worth is knowing you have lived your life,, made millions of mistakes and God still loves you...

Nicely worded :)

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Originally Posted by smith1012

Nicely worded :)

Self worth is loving people for who they are not what they have.

It's acknowledging you are not perfect and you never will be.

Knowing your word on something is as good as your name.

Picking yourself up and going on even when you don't think you can.

Knowing when you're wrong and admitting it without excuses.

Not looking down on someone because of their circumstances

Saying, "There but for the grace of God go I" and helping them.

Material things will pass away, but how you treat people will always be there.

Hey!

What about Rene Descartes: "I think therefore I am".

Would that fall into the same category as a person realizing their own worth?

Thanks!

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Originally Posted by Clough

Hey!

What about Rene Descartes: "I think therefore I am".

Would that fall into the same category as a person realizing their own worth?

Thanks!

Self worth is realizing there are people in the world who would give anything for a kind word or to be told they are loved. I realize I don't do that enough. Goodnight Clough.. my friend. You are truly loved here:)

In your signature, Kit!

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"A COWARD DIES A THOUSAND DEATHS! A BRAVE MAN ONLY ONE".

Now, to me, that's truly a person realizing their own worth! :)

Goodnight to you, too! My friend, Kit! :)