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Originally Posted by HotHoneyVintage

why you wants jeanette to come to my home? u want her to try and get me into a 'nut house?' or public mental facility :( i am not going to live in that type of place. i like living by myself. i can do it even my therapist say i can live on my own i jus have to stop being so afraid of the outside worlds

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What? Jeanette or the Easter Seals lady does NOT remove people from their homes! She will help you figure out ways to deal with the outside world. If I lived close by to you, we would go to Shoprite and out to eat at restaurant somewhere.

w.g. oh OK. Well I reads somewhere about these people come to your home and if theydecide you cannot live on your own for safety they will contact authorities andhave you remove. Sigh. Yes we can go to shoprite and to the library. What a shame too bad you lives far away.I will goes to my brother and wife house for thanksgiving tomorrow I guess. They has to take me in for the holidays b/ci don't have no where else to go and no family of my own.his wife know damn well I'm not going to ever have my own family I don't know why she keep wanting to talk about that. Igot older sister to. She live on her own someplace else. I hope you have a happy holiday.

How long have you lived there? Is that the house you grew up in?

All my life. Yes.

Tell me about the family you grew up in -- mom, dad, one brother. Anyone else?

And you have a dog? What kind?

I don't gives ALL my real information on the internets because there's crazies out there and male stalkers sometime I swtiches things around too. I have a dog is all I will say about that. Anyway I have a lots of uncles aunts and cousisn but they all have their own families. I am the only poor sap living like this beside one uncle that has gone mad. I think somebody have sexually abused me but I don't remember the details. All the signs I read online points to this anyway. There was a lot of screaming and yelling in my house and I am not a screamer at all. I don't like conflicts in the home. I use to just sit in a corner and pretend I was somewhere else. But anyway I don't like to talk about that stuff anymore. What kind of family you grew up in?

Were u alive in the 50s w.g. If so tell me about that time. What u ate, watched, wore, and listen to. What was life like then?

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Originally Posted by HotHoneyVintage

what kind of family u grew up in?

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I was the first child of a Lutheran minister and his wife, who then had three kids after me. There was no screaming or fighting in our house. I had a great childhood, grew up in western NY in dairy farm and orchard country right near Lake Ontario.

The idea of therapy is not for a therapist to tell you how to act or what to do. It is to get YOU to try and understand YOU and learn to live with what God gave you. You sound terribly negative about yourself and it is carrying over to your therapist. Being negative is NOT ATTRACTIVE. Get a smile on your face once in a while and learn to enjoy something, sometime.

Little pointer,, why the esses after certain words like "quits her" and "let her reads" my journal?.
I sense a little issue with self importance and lack of concern for the way you want people to see you. Do you speak that way? Poor communication skills can cause people to pay less attention to you and actually look 'down" at you. Hey only being truthful.

While you did not ask, my life in the 50's, I was given up for adoption since as soon as I was born my father who was in the service left my mother who was a teen at the time.

I lived the first few years of my life in a orphanage. No toys of my own, no individual care,

Adopted into a house with no real love, love was shown by buying you something. Life was controlled, you could not play in the yard since you would be dirty, if you did go out, you could not get clothes messed up.

Could never have any friends over for playing.

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were u alive in the 50s w.g.? if so tell me about that time. what u ate, watched, wore, and listen to. what was life like then?

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Yup, I was! There were only a few cereal brands at the grocery store -- Cream of Wheat, Quaker Oats, Raisin Bran, Grape Nuts Flakes, Wheaties, Cheerios, and one or two more. Moms stayed home, and dads worked all day. Stores closed around 6 p.m. and all stores were closed on Sunday. Women wore dresses, and most men wore suits, even to grocery shop and go to the movies. TV would end after the evening news, and then there was a test pattern (colored lines) on the screen until morning. There was no TV during the night and only a few channels. There was no remote. You had to get up out of your chair, walk over to the TV set, and turn a knob to change channels.

Next time you go to the library, ask someone to help you find a decade book. There are sets of them in the 900s, with each book covering a decade, like 1940-1950, 1950-1960. There are lots of photos and drawings too.

Handyman the fact that you say ' a little issue with self importance' demonstrate you really know nothing about me. So I take whatever u have to say with a grain of salt thereafter.

Chuck I didn't grows up in a orphanage and that is really sad since you did.but I know what it is like having people buy things and that's suppose to be love I guess. I don't really want to talk about that. But anyway they have places like that in the 50s I seen on TV like boys homes or w/e or group homes for kids with no where to go.

W.g. thank you for the book idea I will check it out. That is so funny how there's no TV on at night and only a few channels, LOL. But I guess that was all you had back then. Did you have a radio and listen to 'shows' on that too? One time I watched a 50s movie and there was a dance place with people sipping milkshakes at the counter in a diner. It was so neat, I wish I could have lived back then.

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Yup. Before we got a TV, we listened to the radio. I listened to a kids' show called "Big John and Sparky." The theme song was "The Teddy Bear's Picnic" which I remember and can still sing after sixty years. There was also a circus show I liked and, of course, the Superman show. My parents listened to Jack Benny, Victor Borge, Jimmy Durante, Bob Hope, Groucho Marx, Red Skelton, Abbott and Costello, Amos 'n' Andy, Burns and Allen, Our Miss Brooks, and classical music shows.

I laugh when I remember TV commercials back in the '50s. For instance, a pretty lady would stand next to a white refrigerator, open the door and talk about all the space inside, would open the vegetable drawers, would mention how cold it was inside and how much food you could store in it. There was no music or song or flashy stuff. Just the lady and the refrigerator. That was the whole commercial. Most commercials were like that.

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a dance place with people sipping milkshakes at the counter in a diner.

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Yup. I was too young to dance but would sit at the counter or in a booth with some friends. You could put a quarter into a jukebox and play a pop song you liked. Teenagers might dance to the music.

The big fashion was a poodle skirt -- a full skirt that had a poodle on it. Around your neck you would wear a matching scarf. Here's a picture:

Poodle Skirt

In school we had air raid drills where a siren-horn thing would go off and we'd have to crawl under our desks and put our arms over our heads in case our school would be bombed ("duck and cover"). The siren-horn thing was very loud and scary.

Air Raid Drill

Hey that is pretty neat w.g. they should not have got rid of milkshake counter because that sounds like fun. Everything todoay mostly sucks its not like that anymore. Too bad because it sound like it was fun to live back then. I have a mini juke box but it doesn't play a lot of songs. The best one on there is "in the still of the night" imo. Do you know that song?

Yes, that song is an "oldie but goodie." Do you know what doo-wop music is?

:) yes I know what it is I like that style of music. Too bad the peoples today do not want to live like the 50s. Things would be so much easier to understand. Sigh. Everything is too fast today