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  • Jan 19, 2007, 02:29 PM
    blacktearstainsandscars
    I am wanting to hide my scars also. I had a rough period in life with an ex boyfriend and he was a liar and a cheater and he is the one who got me started, well I can say that when I look at the scars I am embarrassed. It still brings up memories, so I don't know what to tell you about the memories. It has been a few months since I have cut last. For covering your scars I have a good cream called Scar Zone and it is about $10 at Wal*Mart but it is worth it, I have used it on stretch marks and it took the color out of them and they are almost gone. Also you can try some simple lotions, I have found them to do well. About the memories, they will never go away. I look at my scars and remember all the stuff and the fights I had with him and it just brings them back. In a way you shouldn't want them to leave, but with your family and all I suppose you should do what you see best. My family knew I was cutting, but they thought I stopped before I really did, therefor I know how you feel about the long sleeves. I have got a new boyfriend and I don't know what to tell him about the scars because today he asked me to take the hoodie off and I couldn't because we were in the middle of school and I didn't want everyone to see. I know all the thoughts in your head about what people will say but some of us just had different ways to cope with our pain, and ours show the scars. I wouldn't worry about what they say, because to me I just say that they don't understand and they will hold all of their rage in until they do something stupider than what we did. Yes, I admit it was stupid, but at the time we had no other way to deal with it. The first time I cut was when me and my boyfriend broke up for the first time and I was drunk and I took a thumbtack to my arm. No, those didn't leave too bad of scars but then I got to where I was taking blades out of razors, and using a pocket knife. If I could go back in time I would have never cut, but at the time there was no other way for me, just like it is for everyone else I suppose. Just think it through before you cover your past because it might be a mistake. And all of the people saying you should talk to someone like a doctor, don't pay no attention because I have been there and done that and all that will happened is they will put you in a mental home and drug you, and that is no fun. They can't help with this because I have come to discover that you have to do it yourself and get over it yourself, we cut, not the doctors, therefor they don't know how it was for us, and they can't help. The tattoo is a great idea, especially the guardian angel... Talk to you later, And good luck to you, hope you feel better and discover what to do.
  • Jan 19, 2007, 04:25 PM
    rockbottomtohell
    Ok, show some warmth people, let's not talk at people, let's talk to people, everyone's saying their own thing. Just thought I'd say what I've noticed, sorry if I offended anybody.
  • Jan 24, 2007, 11:58 AM
    ap6589
    I understand to a point of how you feel. I used to cut myself a lot. But those scars should show you that you had a problem and you don’t have it anymore. I wish I never did it but I did. My arms are so messed up, but I don’t go out of my way to hide it. I don’t tell everyone about it but it makes up who you are. You shouldn’t be ashamed. You said your better now so you should look back on that and realize how fare you came. Never regret anything. You past mistakes make up who you are.today. Just control the future with better judgment Send me a message if you need any more advice
  • Mar 28, 2007, 01:54 PM
    endlessecho
    I have had the same problem since I was a little kid. I could handle the scars, they fadded, no biggie, but last December. I simply woke up and carved the word DEAD in big bold letters down my forearm. It healed but the scars were easily mor enoticed than the others. I was fine with it other than I didn't want it showing at work, and I work in a HOT kietchen. B ut what was heart breaking to me, was when my 4 year old letter brother asked me "Why do you have ABC's on your arm? What's that mean?"

    Try Madurma and give it time, depending on how severy they may fade, most of my from years past can't even be seen unless youactually look.

    As for the "DEAD" one, I got a tattoo to cover it up.

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