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Originally Posted by Vabbi

I feel much better now about the whole thing, still scared and I guess unsure but I think I can nip this. I think what really gets me is my mom's emotions and stress rubbing off on me and the fact that I'm 18 oh crap the real world, being pushed in it. So much uncertainty makes me feel like a powerless ant and people are looking at me to do something and I can't, I don't know what to do.

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You can nip this. I know you can.

Baby steps is just fine, we'll start small and work from there. You took a huge step today by coming here and posting. You reached out and we're reaching back. Know that we are now invested in this, in you, that you have a support system right here, so use it. Okay?

So now it's time for the next step and we'll take it slow, get to where we're going one little leap at a time. Tomorrow I want you to do something for me. I want you to find something in your life that you're looking forward to. It could be a book that you want to read, a movie that you want to see, a meal that you're craving, anything. It can be something that will happen tomorrow or something that you have to wait weeks to accomplish. Write it here, tell us why you're looking forward to it. Deal?

I look forward to reading your post tomorrow. Until then, get some rest, let your mind and body relax, let your worries go away for a while.

Talk to you tomorrow. :)

Wondergirl: My mom has not gotten food stamps yet, she might. We are working on trying to get what benefits we can, mostly through her military like VA.
Altenweg: I don't know if this counts but I am really looking forward to seeing my friend, I haven't seen her since graduation but I have kept contact.
Everyone: I think things will be fine, we are getting financial help from family so we can continue living where we do and I can continue going to school!

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Originally Posted by Vabbi

DrBill: No it is not my intention, part of my thinking was that I might be able to relieve her of any possible thoughts of it being her fault in my letter, be as clear on my position as possible.

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No matter how clear of a letter you write your mother, she WILL feel like it was her fault because she missed the signs, didn't pay enough attention to you and your needs and the fact that she can't provide for you the way she wants.

Vabbi

Hope you're faring well. Please check in.