Hi redrumx3,
,
Just reading all of these comments.
Your life is EXACTLY the same as mine!
I was in an abusive "relationship" for 8 years. We didn't live together for the first 6 but did for the last 2.
I had to break it off over the phone as I was too scared to face to face, luckily I did do it this way as he absolutely trashed everything.
It's been 5 years since then and I have a wonderful husband that has helped me through all of it.
But recently I contacted my ex in a ball of fury! As I couldn't handle the nightmares anymore.
Since then he seems to think it OK to contact me. My husband knows everything I say back to him.
Sometimes it feels good cause I feel Im rubbing his nose in it after all these years. Sometimes it feels bad and like you frustrating cause he won't admit what he did even though the police have all the forensic photos!
From now on my husband and I have an agreement, if he ever contacts me again with the "how are you" text Im going to say "good". Even if I'm having a bad day! Suck on that you piece of s***! :)

Turns out that don't work either, just had to cut up my sim card! :(

He denies it because he has learned the art of brainwashing. He is trying to brainwash you into believing that he is not abusive, so that he does not have to take any responsibility for his actions, and so that you have to absorb his abusive behavior, and essentially be the punching bag.