Hey there I know how you fell like you want her to know but don't want her upset I cut and I really want my mum to know but I haven't told her because I don't want her to think of me as 1 what I did was tell my sister and I wanted her to tell my mum that way my mum would know and watch out and not get hurt as much but I didn't want my sister to get into my unhappiness so what I been doing is not covering up and hopefully my mum knows that I do but I still wear cover up at skool I wear sweatbands and I sometimes get told to talk them of then I have to be careful or wear a banged that works all the time but you get lots of people asking what up with my hand lol hope you get the help you want

I know what it is like to not know how to talk to someone about being depressed and cutting. I am 30 and I still cut but I am seeing an therapist and because I don't have a mom who loves me enough to care I talk to my friends and the people I know who really care for me. I kept it bottled in for so long that it did a lot of damage to myself. So if you need to slowly start talking about it don't feel bad. Just please don't keep it bottled inside, I regret it all the time. But now that I have found someone who is willing to listen and not judge I find it really easy to let them know when I am feeling that way. I wish you the best luck and remember you are not the only one who feels like that. Sometimes it is hard to start talking about it but once you open up it pours out and it feels great too release the hurt you have been keeping inside. I know how you feel. It will get easier.

Last night my parents thought I ran away because I went missing for 3 hours... I didn't run away I just had to be by myself or the depression and homicidal thoughts woud take over. For the whole 3 hours I was cutting and trying to control my hidden self... I haven't been cutting as much as I need too. I know this sound silly or stupid but I cut to release the anger and the pain...

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last night my parents thought i ran away because i went missing for 3 hours...i didn't run away I just had to be by my self or the depression and homicidal thoughts woud take over. for the whole 3 hours i was cutting and trying to control my hidden self...i havent been cutting as much as i need too. i know this sound silly or stupid but i cut to release the anger and the pain...

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Have your tried exercise. I'm not trying to sound funny but exercise helps me when I'm depressed and it releases the pain.

So you went missing for 3 hours and your parents noticed. Hmm, maybe they want the best for you, and they try to help you if you just give the chance.

I think its best that you tell her. Your mother is always at your best interest. You shouldn't feel like a burden, she loves you and will be understanding. Even if you can't tell your mother rite away, tell a close friend or adult so that they can help you.. You could injure yourself way worse than you already have both physically and mentally if you don't.

I understand what you all are saying but how do I go up to her and tell her how I feel and what I'm doing... do I say mum I'm cutting myself and I need help? That sounds so idiotic to say...

Hi Unspeakable,

I would suggest you sit your mom down and tell her off the bat that you have something very important to tell her. You then tell her about all of your depression/dark thoughts, and then you say that this has resulted in you cutting yourself, and you ask her for help. Your mom should be there for you no matter what. Granted she will be upset I'm sure, but I don't see her turning her back on you. If anything, she will want to help.

When you said, back in January, "I was able to tell her over the weekend that I all the tests I've taken on depression all said i was either seriously or very depressed. But i'm afraid of what will happen if I tell her I cut because we had this issue before and she started crying when she found out but I had stoped before hand. and nothing happened... I don't want to make her even more depressed"

What became of that. When you had the issue before, why did nothing happen then, or did she take it seriously enough to get you help.

You have been depressed for a very long time. Have you ever had counselling, or talked to anybody outside your immediate family?

If you were to think of alternatives for a moment. If you were NOT to tell her, or never bring the issue up again, what do you think will happen to you. If you were in her shoes, what would you do if faced with this situation.

If sitting her down at the kitchen table is not comfortable for you, write her a letter. Send her an email, and maybe do the same to your father. Ask them, or one or the other, to sit and talk to you. Find some way to give her the information.

In my opinion, this is something you have to do, there are no choices here. Once it is all out on the table, life will be a little bit easier because you have made a choice to lift that burden of silence.

Adults are very resilient, and most people would rather know up front than suspect, or worry, not knowing what is going on. Hard words to hear, absolutely, but, this is your life we are talking about here, and a little bit of pain now, will save all of you a great deal of pain later.

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I understand what you all are saying but how do i go up to her and tell her how i feel and what i'm doing...do i say mum i'm cutting myself and i need help? that sounds so idiotic to say...

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Hi, my name is Kris and I am the mum of a beautiful 13 year old who has been cutting herself since this last October. Her dad suffered from depression and had a breakdown. It was an awful time for everyone, but seems that it was harder on her. I found out she was cutting through another friends mum. So I checked her. She was cutting on her stomach where I could not see, and maybe her thighs.

When I found out I was NOT angry. I was not upset. SHE did nothing wrong. Your mom will feel the same. All I want for her now is to try and talk. Try and open the doors to the emotions she closed last year.

I know she may cut herself again. I hope she doesn't but it is her choice and only her choice. I want her to tell me if she has cut, this way we can see if she needs medical care or if we need to watch for infections while she heals inside.

I know most kids think that parents are just here to boss you around and give you rules. Truth is, we love you more than ourselves.

If you can't tell your mom, tell someone when you cut. Try to hold some Ice in your hand, or take a freezing cold bath. Try listening to music you like. If nothing works and you have to cut, do tell someone you can trust, even if its someone on here so we can talk to you.

I am not an expert. I am just a mom. I am a mom of a 13 year old who has cut herself who didn't freak out, didn't get angry. I read about it, I studied it. I talked to her and promised that I would be there for her, even in the middle of the night.

My worst fear in this world is she cuts to deep, she bleeds out in her sleep and I find her dead in her bed in the morning. I could not live with that. I am sure your mom feels the same.

I know it will hurt to talk to her.. But if you are cutting you are strong... and there is no doubt in my mind you can't do it...

Kris

You don't have to tell her - just Please tell someone who is in a position to help. Tell a school counselor or teacher. Call an anonymos hotline. They can get you the help you need and help you deal with parents later.

You need to tell your mother. I did the same thing at your age for a couple of years.. and then one day... BOOM... I realized that it didn't do anything for me and it was all superficial. Do you get anything out of it? Like an emotional high so to speak? There are so many reasons teens cut themselves, sometimes they don't even know why they started to begin with... and realizing that can be the path to recovery.

Exercise, Talking about what's bothering you, When you start ruminating (overthinking) literally imagine a stop sign until that thought stops. Try breathing deep and slow to relax. Picture yourself somewhere you want to be and go back there every time you feel sad.

You need to interact with people as much as possible. Don't over analyze what people think about you.


REMEMBER*** mental health can be as painful or more then physical health!

Tell your mom you love her and need her to help you find a psychologist or social worker. Tell her you want to feel better and don't know what else to do.

There is medication out there that will help you. You don't get a rush off it so your not going to get hooked.

For extreme cases of depression I know ECT works as well but only about 8% of psychiatrists use it.

The sooner you tell someone how you are feeling the sooner you can start your road to getting better.

For most people, one month after beginning medication they already start to feel better


Just remember you are not alone. There are thousands of people in the same place as you, and all feel as hopeless and lost.

Just remember thousands have gotten out of depression and you will too.

You need help. By ignoring it and not telling your mom is not making it better. Maybe she needs to understand how things are effecting you!
It does not sound bad to tell her that you are really depressed and have started to cut yourself again, and that you really want to get help and you would like her support.
What did you mean when you said homicidal?

Cutting is not solution to a problem. You just kill yourself by that.

Oh my goodness... Wll I don't know what you're going through with the cutting and everything, but I'm on the phone with a friend of mine who used to cut. She would never tell anyone about it or anything... she's like you, the type of person who keeps her pain to herself, because she just hates to think that her pain is hurting other people. Here's her advice:
"Tell this person that the est thing for her to do is tell someone. It'll be hard, and very emotional, but to cry WITH your mother is the best thing in the world when you're this depressed. It's like true realization that you're not alone, and that you're loved. I have no relationship at all with my mother, but that's a long story. Just go to whichever parent you want to talk to and say somethng like "mom... these past few years (no need to say since the fourth grade) this this and tha have really been getting to me... it effects me." talk about how that effects you. Once you guys are into the conversation, maybe show her the scars (that's what did with my dad) or tell her that you've been cutting. If you aren't comfortable with telling your mom right away, maybe go to a friend, sibling, or other family member. I know from experience that it's much easier to tell your parent once you've aleady come clean about it to someone else."

Hope this helps, I wish you the best of luck! And yes, I've heard about TWLOHA too, here's the website:
http://www.twloha.com/
Click on find help. Like I said, I've never dealt with this, but I think that talking to someone who's garunteed not to judge you, and who is sure to get you some help, who doesn't know you, personlly I think it would be easier. It really is a beautiful website. And the story is absolutely touching, it brought me to tears every time I read it.

I know how you feel. I very depressed all the time. My evil stepfather is getting rid of all my belongings, all I have are my clothes, a bed, a pillow and some ripped up blankets. He's even getting rid of my cat Lynx and she's my best friend. I cry and she meows and comes up by me, I stop crying soon enough, but now... I won't have her... and my stepfather has been really close to start beating me... I tried to leave... but there no where to go... I cut my cat's name on my left arm. " Lynx" I never get to see my real dad so I'm even more depressed and my mom doesn't give a S**T about me, she didn't even try to help me and my cat. She doesn't believe me about my stepdad leaving bruises on parts of my body... = (

I have never cut but I have wanted to listen bro just go to Google on your moms laptop/computer and type in the search box "hi mom i cut myself help me" and leave it there when she needs to use her laptop she will find out.

I have been cutting for only two weeks and I'm tird of hiding my scars. So I'm going to tell my mom in the morning so I don't have to hide any more then I'm going to talk to my school counseler. I feel horrible about myself .how I look,how I smile,my attitude. I hate everything about myself. Any way I'm going to ask her to take me back to the mentle hospital, I've been there before .only just a few weeks ago I got out but not for cutting just for attitude but I will finda way back there I have to go back I have been panning to kill myself since I started cutting I'm only 11by the way and myname is chloe I'm the younger sister of someone who attempted suicide don't cut it reeeeeeeeeeeely hurts

It only gets better, if you tell... if you don't, then it only gets worse.. .
Good luck !
~maria(:

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I have been cutting for only two weeks and im tird of hiding my scars. So im going to tell my mom in the morning so i dont have to hide any more then im going to talk to my school counseler. I feel horrible about myself .how i look,how i smile,my attitude. I hate everything about myself. Any way im going to ask her to take me back to the mentle hospital, ive been there before .only just a few weeks ago i got out but not for cutting just for attitude but i will finda way back there i have to go back i have been panning to kill myself since i started cutting im only 11by the way and myname is chloe im the younger sister of someone who attemted suicide dont cut it reeeeeeeeeeeely hurts

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Stay strong&good luck ! <3