Ask Me Help Desk - Is it considered abuse?

If you have school on Monday, how about speaking with your counselor?

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Originally Posted by Kitten316

ya, why? i usually can't fall asleep. untill @ least 3am.

Have we talked before this, kitten? Do I know you?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Have we talked before this, kitten? Do I know you?

I don't know but I don't think so

Well, I have dishes to wash and a warm bed to head for, so Clough and kitten, it's all up to you until tomorrow evening when I return.

(I really was hoping we had talked before this, kitten, and that I know you.)

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Originally Posted by Clough

I'm thinking that "no" is correct also, Wondergirl.

Kitten316, how you are going to be able to start to solve these problems, is by speaking with adults who are physically near to you who can help you.

Well my "problems" seem almost "normal" now but I don't like the way that's happened. Also I'm not going to just start telling people everything it would seem weird like I just wanted attention.

Your original question was about abuse. Do you want the abuse of you and possibly others to stop?

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Originally Posted by Clough

Your original question was about abuse. Do you want the abuse of you and possibly others to stop?

Yes.

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Originally Posted by Clough
Your original question was about abuse. Do you want the abuse of you and possibly others to stop?

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Originally Posted by Kitten316
Yes.

Then, what do you think that you need to do in order for it to stop? If you do tell one adult that can do something about it, it's not going to be broadcast all over the world. I do hope that you realize that. Do you? Both Wondergirl and I have been teachers. We know how this stuff works. We have both seen a lot of things.

You need to report it. If your parents are separated then you would probably be sent to live with your dad worst case with your brother to protect you from this man. He may be abusing people other than yourself and I promise that counselors at your school can help and it sounds to me as if you are suffering from depression also but that's just all the more reason to see a counselor

If there was ever a reason to try to get attention, you found it.

Have you even told your mom? Try that and if she does nothing about it, the next step is to let someone at your school know, they'll take the correct steps after that.

I think that this guy is a MONSTER who preys upon children.. AT 13, that is what you are.. a CHILD NO matter what you wear, or how you look, YOU aren't responsible for the behavior and self control of a 52 year old man. I can tell you that YOU are not the first he has done this to, or the last.
I think maybe your mom is a bit starry eyed with him and feels complete with a man, so she isn't paying attention to the red flags that are right in front of her. SHE SHOULD have noticed when he touched you RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER.. NOT YOUR FAULT that he did that OR THAT SHE Didn't notice. Maybe she has a feeling or knows something but is in denial.
YOU cannot allow people to hurt you and you have had to grow up really fast, UNFORTUNATELY. BUT you need to reach out to a support group with others who have been abused and who can help you deal with this. You can't let this ruin your life. HE WILL try again and it won't get better. NEVER be alone with him, SCREAM the next time he touches you, keep your phone with you so that if he comes in your room you CALL 911.
DO NOT THINK for one minute that you are responsible for this. You may have made mistakes, lost your mom's trust and gone down a wrong path but YOU ARE NOT a bad person. YOu have your whole life ahead of you. YOu are smart and capable and you must protect yourself until you trust an adult who can.. Please remember to NEVER give up on yourself, your dreams or working to becoming the best person you can be!! YOU are an amazing girl who is smart enough to reach out to people on here, continue to use that strength and determination to protect yourself and many others who could be hurt from this man again.. HE IS SICK AND HE IS TAKING AWAY YYOUR INNOCENCE>. MEN ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO TOUCH YOUNG GIRLS!! You have a right to say no, defend yourself and keep him FAR AWAY FROM you. You cannot be responsible for what he does, says, or how your mom will react, YOU have to take care of you right now, until your mom wakes up... We will be here to guide you in the right direction.

PLEASE BE CAREFUL!!

You need to tell someone! I did and it helped a lot!