I think its ridiculous that you think that because you aren't a certain weight, you must be fat. I don't know what to say except that its sad to think that 145 pounds is fat when you are that tall. I don't think that is fat at all. Maybe you aren't super skinny, you aren't a size 0 or a 2, but that doesn't make you fat.. You are probably a size 8, which hundreds of thousands of people would love to be. Maybe you aren't perfectly in shape, but you are not FAT!! For anyone to say that, they are wrong. MAybe you could start exercizing to feel more fit and toned, but even skinny people can be flabby and untoned.
The girl who posted who pictures look way too skinny to me. Maybe that is what she thinks looks good, but I think it looks like she is undernourished and borderline anorexic.
Instead of ripping yourself apart and hating your body, embrace it. Guys are more attracted to a girl with confidence in herself, than one who is obsessed with their body and have a negative self image. YOU have to see yourself as beautiful and accept who you are.. not look to your friends who are shorter, skinnier and more petite and wish you were them. In ten years you will look back and realize how good you do look.
If you want to feel better about yourself, do something for yourself and stop focusing on what you hate about you, and focus on what you do like.. You have to accept yourself for who you are, not who you want or think you should be. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't take care of yourself, but it means to stop looking to other ideals to determine what is beautiful. What you see in magazines aren't real and realize that there are more important things to worry about than what the number is on the scale. Good luck, you are young and have your whole life ahead of you, don't waste it worrying like that.

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Originally Posted by shatteredsoul

The girl who posted who pictures look way too skinny to me. Maybe that is what she thinks looks good, but I think it looks like she is undernourished and borderline anorexic.

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Shattered- While I think your post was very caring and uplifting to the OP, I also think that could've been achieved without tearing me down. I'm not sure if the comment was made to make her feel better or what. Like I stated in my 2nd post in this thread, I don't aim to be rail thin. I have just always been. So has my mother. I eat what I want and get mild exercise. I wear a 4 or 6. Depends. Do think I look good? Sure. But I don't have any weight goals or anything. I'm healthy and I feel great. Do I think 145 is fat for 5'8"? Heck no!! I fully and wholeheartedly agree with you that the OP should embrace herself and the way she looks. And certainly shouldn't be abusing her own precious body with throwing up and taking laxatives. I was initially just wondering why the heck 115lbs would be so unhealthy for her. Which J_9 did a great job of explaining it to me. But I can assure you, I am not undernourished and most definitely not boderline anorexic. Bottom line is, the OP needs to take better care of herself, because she is beautiful no matter what the scale says.

I don't think sarcasm is very helpful. I think that this girl has a serious distorted body image issue. She is a perfectionist and has tendencies to be both anorexic and bolemic. That is nothing to joke about. Someone like that has to work on their issues within, because it won't change no MATTER WHAT THEY WEIGH!! Millions of girls suffer with this, even as young as ten and eleven years old. IT is important that we start getting to the root of the problem, instead of focusing on the exterior issue of weight. BY THE WAY, she is not obese, she just wants to be perfect and isn't happy with being who she is. THE Biggest Loser is for people who suffer from obesity and are hundreds of pounds overweight. Maree has an image in her mind of what she thinks she should look like and becomes obsessed with that image. She needs to find someone to talk to help her, not make idiotic jokes.

Katie, I apologize for seeming insensitive and cruel. That wasn't my intention. You have a much better idea about who you are and accept yourself. You see yourself as beautiful. HOWEVER, many people that height and weight are borderline anorexic and do not eat as much as they should. I shouldn't have stereotyped you that way. That was an error on my part. I guess because I grew up with an anorexic mother who was about ninety pounds when she gave birth to me. Your picture reminded me of her and I jumped to conclusions. YOU are absolutely right, the bottom line is she needs to take care of herself and see herself as beautiful and worthy. STARVING or PURGING is never the answer, it is a quick fix for underlying issues that have no way to be resolved without seeking some sort of support or guidance. You have give very kind advice and I shouldn't have made such judgements. Please excuse my words, I could have been more tactful. You shouldn't have felt attacked, I just feel like screaming when I see girls killing themselves to look that way. It isn't the norm, although it is for you.. I hope you know I understand and I am sorry..

“The greatest treasures are those invisible to the eye but found by the heart.”“Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.” Anony.

Shattered- thank you for the apology. I didn't figure your intent was to hurt me, but that's how I took it at first. You are so very right about others with my build and how they perceive themselves in a negative way and push too far. I am so sorry to hear about your mother, however, she's got a great daughter ;o) I do understand now why it would be easy for you to jump to conclusions. I think you are so very kind and sincere. Let's just hope some of the awesome advice given to the OP sunk in. I hate the thought of anyone hurting themselves in any fashion.

****Side note... The SSFata$s sunk a long time ago. I think 2 people in particular in this thread need to hop aboard the SSGo2Hell. They know who they are. Very mature BTW to throw around the 'retarded' phrase. God Bless any future children you may have, let's hope Karma doesn't decide to bite you then.

Katie... I liked your side note... LOL
I hope we can guide her in the right direction, you give great advice yourself and lets hope she decides to listen, instead of wasting her life on superficial, exterior things..

We have to learn to accept and love ourselves for who we are, ultimately we cannot be happy until we do.

Healthy to me is more important then skinny or fat. Do you consider yourself healthy? What does your Dr. say about your weight?

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Originally Posted by mareex17

im a 17 year old female and have issues about my weight.im 5'8 and a GROSS 145 lbs (im going to be 115 one day=]) it started over two years ago when i started to diet becasue my parents would criticize me about my weight (ive probably tried over 20 different kinds since then) and i try to control everything i eat.im constantly thinking about how fat i am and how gross food is. when i first started dieting i used to starve myself,throw up and take laxatives. after i did that stuff and lost a good amount of weight i gained it back and its a constant battle too loose it agian. i usually try to starve myeslf because it makes me feel good but it ends up not working out in hte end. i know alot of what i do is bad but i love the feeling of how thin i feel after and the control it takes. i dont know what else to do . i just want to be skinny and in control of my life and its becoming really time consuming what should i do? i used to work out by my parents made me stop because they said i did it too much.

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Dont listen to what other people tell you. you can loose weight at your own time anyways if they wanted you to that bad then the would help you loose the wait anyways im sure your not that bad being a female we always think we are fat even when we are not soo just loose it at your own pace just maybe go on a jog or a walk mabey once a day and when you start doing that you will loose wait a little at a time and you will soon get the body that you want and by the way im 130

You should ignore the number. It's just a number. YOu should be HEALTHY. Starving yourself and throwing up or taking laxatives is NOT healthy.
If you want to maintain or lose weight - exercise and eat healthy.

When I was 17, I wanted to be rail thin. But, my body is not made that way. I, as a former boss told me, will never be "petite". I am 5'8" also. My weight stayed around 140. I lost down in my mid 20's to what I thought was a perfect weight for me. EVERYONE said I looked sick. That was not the reaction I was going for.
I am now 34 and okay with the way I look. I am not "fat" nor "skinny" I am me.

Learn to love yourself. No number on the scale is going to make that happen.