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  • Oct 27, 2007, 03:18 PM
    Wondergirl
    Ah, Toronto area. I'm from a small town NW of Rochester, and used to wave across the lake to people in Toronto.

    Is there anything nice that you can do for yourself, like, start a hobby or read more books for fun?

    Three years ago? You were 15 then.
  • Oct 27, 2007, 03:26 PM
    guapaestujefa
    Sorry!! 3 weeks ago I miss spelled it!. I usually go on shopping sprees here and there. But I'm trying to save now. I am doing an at home school course. But I still feel like I'm doing nothing with my life. I think its because my boyfriend has a WAAAYY better life than me. He goes to parties all the time (not like teens parties, but adult social events) and he goes to an awesome private school, and gets anything he wants. And I sit here in canada bored and lonely and have to work hard for money.
  • Oct 27, 2007, 03:30 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by guapaestujefa
    he gets anything he wants. and i sit here in canada bored and lonely and have to work hard for money.

    What does he say about that?

    I see all the giving and suffering being done at your end.

    Do you get along well with his family? Do they know you plan to move to Mexico to be with him?
  • Oct 27, 2007, 03:35 PM
    guapaestujefa
    He doesn't really say much, he says oh well I'm working hard to so we can live together. I think he can't see how I feel because he never has gone through what I'm going through. I do get along with his family, they are letting me stay at his house again for a month. I'm not to sure if they know about me moving to mexico but they know me and my boyfriend are really serious
  • Oct 27, 2007, 03:36 PM
    Wondergirl
    Is he saving money as much as you are? I'm starting to wonder why all the sacrifice is on your shoulders. Once he is out of school and is running his mother's business, it sounds like money should be no problem, especially since he wants you to stay home and be a pampered wife.

    Why are you sitting there in Canada pinching pennies? For what? He probably spends more money in a week than you make in a month.
  • Oct 27, 2007, 03:40 PM
    Wondergirl
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by guapaestujefa
    he doesnt really say much, he says oh well im working hard to so we can live together. I think he can't see how i feel because he never has gone thru what im going thru. I do get along with his family, they are letting me stay at his house again for a month. I'm not to sure if they know about me moving to mexico but they know me and my boyfriend are really serious

    What does that mean? - "I'm working hard too so we can live together." He is saving money? If so, do you know how much he has saved? (This is kind of important information for you to know if you plan to move down there.)

    Or is he figuring the money you have saved will get you down there, pay for the wedding, and help keep you in style?

    I sure would insist his family know that he is serious about you not only moving to Mexico but also marrying him.
  • Oct 27, 2007, 03:40 PM
    guapaestujefa
    He does work but once he doesn't get paid as much as I do, actually I make more money than he does . But my job is just a dead end one because I will be moving soon. I have to go on now, I will visit this site when I get back. Thank you for everything xoxoox
  • Oct 27, 2007, 03:43 PM
    Wondergirl
    Ok, thanks for the conversation. I will continue to worry while you are gone.
  • Oct 27, 2007, 05:19 PM
    guapaestujefa
    He just recently crashed his car so all his savings went to fixing it. His parents would buy him the car but not pay for the damages. He's going to start saving now.
  • Oct 27, 2007, 05:32 PM
    Wondergirl
    Welcome back!

    That's good that he's saving now.

    I get the feeling that you are the one more dedicated to this effort. Can he save some of the money he is "throwing around" and having fun with?
  • Oct 27, 2007, 05:42 PM
    guapaestujefa
    He could but he says I do so much school and work I need to spend some money on himself. Usually he goes out to like a nightclub but he splits the bill with the 5 other people so it does save him money in a way (alcohol there is really cheap) so he is. It just seems maybe I am jealous he gets such an easy life compared to mine. And he's able to be happy when he's away and I'm not happy.
  • Oct 27, 2007, 05:44 PM
    Wondergirl
    He doesn't seem to understand and appreciate the sacrifices you are making. He goes out drinking and partying?? While you...

    And you will be happy when you move down there?
  • Oct 27, 2007, 05:49 PM
    guapaestujefa
    Chill here, I'm to tired and have to many things to do on weekends. Because I work mon-fri. He does work a lot and he does always talk to me after he comes home from gonigout. I just want to be happy too and its still very hard on me being far away from him.
  • Oct 27, 2007, 05:50 PM
    Wondergirl
    I understand and wish you well.
  • Oct 27, 2007, 05:59 PM
    guapaestujefa
    Thank you

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