How to get over my thoughts of my girlfriend's past?
I posted awhile back about a problem I had with not being able to stay hard during sex. I figured out what it was and now I need some advice on how to get over it.
Before I got into a relationship with my girlfriend we were very close friends. She used to tell me about the sex she had with other guys and how good it was. It bothered me at the time because I always liked her, but I thought I would never have a chance with her. About two years after being just friends we started dating and I couldn't be happier. We didn't have sex the first 4 months of our relationship because I didn't want to just have sex with her, I wanted it to be something special. We have been trying now for 3 months and I feel horrible because I can't satisfy her. The reason I can't stay hard is because when we have sex I compare myself to the other guys in her past. I think how she loved the sex with them and I tell myself that I can't give it to her like they did. I also picture her having sex with them and it makes me go soft. We decided to take a break from sex until I can get these thoughts out of my head. I don't want to think like this I want to have good sex with her but I can't get these thoughts out of my head.
I never had this problem in the past. I have been with 5 girls before my girlfriend and the reason I never had this problem with them is because I didn't care about them. I didn't have feelings for any of them so I didn't care about their past and to be honest I didn't care if I satisfied them either. It sounds bad but I'm just being honest. Now my girlfriend thinks something is wrong with her because I was able to have sex with those girls and not her, but it was because I didn't care about them. Does anybody have any advice on how to get over this?