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Herpes?

I am a 14 year old male. I have been so stressed out lately that I actually thought about killing myself more than once. But that's not the problem. My girlfriend gave me a blowjob as my birthday present about 3 weeks ago. I got this little pimple like bump on my foreskin, and it is more visible If I pull my foreskin back. I squeezed it, and white stuff came out just like a pimple on the face. Another tiny dot just appeared a day ago, a little red, and still some pimple-like stuff came out when popped. Please help me I am so stressed out and when I thought about if it might be herpes I felt so hopeless like my life is over.

Stop squeezing and popping. You will drive any infection deeper into your body.

Is your girlfriend sexually active with any other guys (or has she been)?

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Stop squeezing and popping. You will drive any infection deeper into your body.

Is your girlfriend sexually active with any other guys (or has she been)?

No

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No

Does she get cold sores on the outside of her mouth?

Are you sexually active with anyone besides her?

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Does she get cold sores on the outside of her mouth?

Are you sexually active with anyone besides her?

Not that I have noticed and no she is my first serious girlfriend

But I looked pictures up online and it sort of looks similar

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But I looked pictures up online and it sort of looks similar

Answer my questions. (please)

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Answer my questions. (please)

Not that I have noticed and no I am a virgin

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Not that I have noticed and no I am a virgin

Thank you.

Now, have you worried about what might be growing inside her mouth since she gave you a blow job?

Mother Nature is giving you a wake-up call -- no sex (and yes, blow jobs are sex). Cool it until you are older and know what you are doing (and what can happen -- STDs and babies and weird pimples in strange places).

My advice is go to your doctor to relieve your mind about these pimples (and prevent more from showing up).

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Thank you.

Now, have you worried about what might be growing inside her mouth since she gave you a blow job?

Mother Nature is giving you a wake-up call -- no sex (and yes, blow jobs are sex). Cool it until you are older and know what you are doing (and what can happen -- STDs and babies and weird pimples in strange places).

My advice is go to your doctor to relieve your mind about these pimples (and prevent more from showing up).

Thank you for the help but I can't go to the doctors. I can't be like "mom take me to the doctors I think I have herpes." She would be angry and I feel bad. On top of her finding out I tried to kill myself and now this? I feel horrible that she got a bad run with children

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Thankyou for the help but I can't go to the doctors. I can't be like "mom take me to the doctors I think I have herpes." She would be angry and I feel bad. On top of her finding out I tried to kill myself and now this? I feel horrible that she got a bad run with children

It is probably something completely innocent. You do not have herpes from how you have described it so far. And killing yourself would be a bit over the top, wouldn't it? "Bad run of children"??

You can't ask for a doctor's appointment without telling her why?

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It is probably something completely innocent. You do not have herpes from how you have described it so far. And killing yourself would be a bit over the top, wouldn't it? "Bad run of children"???????

You can't ask for a doctor's appointment without telling her why?

Thank you... I really just need someone to talk to and have some outside input. I really appreciate it

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Thankyou.... I really just need someone to talk to and have some outside input. I really appreciate it

The pimples might have come from sweating or some innocent thing. Just leave them alone and stop messing with them. If I were you, I'd still check in with a doctor and let him look me over and tell me what it could be (so you don't have the Internet scaring you into next week -- or an early grave). And back off with any sex for now. Do you know your times tables to 12x12 and the eight parts of speech?

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The pimples might have come from sweating or some innocent thing. Just leave them alone and stop messing with them. If I were you, I'd still check in with a doctor and let him look me over and tell me what it could be (so you don't have the Internet scaring you into next week -- or an early grave). And back off with any sex for now. Do you know your times tables to 12x12 and the eight parts of speech?

Of course

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Of course

Next time she wants to give you a blow job, instead pull out a comic book or paperback and together underline all the nouns, circle the verbs, put squares around the direct objects, etc. That will keep you busy for a while.

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Next time she wants to give you a blow job, instead pull out a comic book or paperback and together underline all the nouns, circle the verbs, put squares around the direct objects, etc. That will keep you busy for a while.

Sounds like a plan haha. Thank you

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Sounds like a plan haha. Thankyou

You'll both be honor students and get scholarships to college.

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You'll both be honor students and get scholarships to college.

I'm still really worried. She said she had never gotten a cold sore. Is there still a chance?

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I'm still really worried. She said she had never gotten a cold sore. Is there still a chance?

A chance of WHAT??

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A chance of WHAT????

That she gave me genital herpes

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That she gave me genital herpes

If she doesn't get cold sores and hasn't been sexually active, how will she manage to give you genital herpes?

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If she doesn't get cold sores and hasn't been sexually active, how will she manage to give you genital herpes?

I don't know. That's the whole point of me joining this website. I'm scared and confused.

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I don't know. That's the whole point of me joining this website. I'm scared and confused.

Go to a doctor! We cannot examine you or diagnose you. Only a real-life doctor can.

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Go to a doctor! We cannot examine you or diagnose you. Only a real-life doctor can.

I. Can't. My mom would have to drive me and she wouldn't take me unless I told her what it is for

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I. Can't. My mom would have to drive me and she wouldn't take me unless I told her what it is for

Tell her there are two pimples on your penis and you want them checked out. You don't know why they are there (you don't!! ) or what caused them (you don't!! ).

And I want you to report back here once you find out what this is. Okay?

When my younger son was your age, he had a similar problem. I took him to the doctor, he got checked out (I was NOT in the exam room), and all was right with the world again when he found out that tight underwear had probably caused it (and then his mind was relieved that he wasn't going to die).

You know you were wrong to be having sex at such an early age and now your mind, your conscience, is messing with you... and now you're paying for it with guilt. Learn from this and stop messing around until you are old enough to be responsible.

It is likely only pimples... you need to wash it and stop popping everything you see. If your girlfriend doesn't have sores, neither of you have messed around with anyone else, you're probably OK. You still should see a doctor so you can stop this bit of panic.

And really... to consider killing yourself over what is probably just pimples? Extreme, no? Even if it WAS herpes... killing yourself? Such drastic measures for such minor things. Wait until you get out into the real world and have to start facing real problems... how will you cope with them?

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Tell her there are two pimples on your penis and you want them checked out. You don't know why they are there (you don't!!!) or what caused them (you don't!!!).

And I want you to report back here once you find out what this is. Okay?

When my younger son was your age, he had a similar problem. I took him to the doctor, he got checked out (I was NOT in the exam room), and all was right with the world again when he found out that tight underwear had probably caused it (and then his mind was relieved that he wasn't going to die).

My pimple went away, only in time for another one to come in. Me and my girlfriend broke up. If I went to the doctors and it was herpes, how do I explain that?

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My pimple went away, only in time for another one to come in. Me and my girlfriend broke up. If I went to the doctors and it was herpes, how do I explain that?

First, go to the doctor's. Then we will figure out what to do next.

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First, go to the doctor's. Then we will figure out what to do next.

Whatever. I'll just accept that my life is ruined.

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Whatever. I'll just accept that my life is ruined.

It is NOT!!

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Whatever. I'll just accept that my life is ruined.

Nice try at the guilt trip. That really doesn't work on us, most of us are parents.

One lesson you need to learn in life is that only you can help yourself. You came here for answers we really can't give you. Why? We can't diagnose online. No one can, not even a doctor. We can guess, but how will a list of guesses help you?

If you're concerned about this, then you see a doctor. If you won't find a way to do that, then you live with it and hope for the best.

Only you can help you, no one else. That's the way life is. No one is going to force you to take care of yourself, you have to do it!

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