We have been having sex together since August of last year and he's always had a problem staying hard. He loses his erection 5-10minutes into it and this is literally every time we have sex. He kept saying it was because he was worrying too much but after 6 months I had enough. I finally got him to go to the doctors yesterday and the doctor told him he has high blood pressure which is most likely caused by pills that he has to take because he has schizophrenia. He's going back on Monday to get some more tests done but I want to know what he has to do or say to the doctor to get viagra.

That's something that the doctor needs to test for. It could be nerves, and age will most likely play a role in whether he gets it or not. He could simply ask, "Will Viagra help me?"

He needs to ask the doctor about it. Only the doctor should determine if he is able to safely use it. If so he can prescribe it him.

He may not be able to use the viagra depending on what medications he is on for his schizophrenia, that will ultimately have to be the doctor's call.

Well my boyfriend is only 19 years old, so I'm scared that the doctor won't give it to him because he's too young. If it is safe for him to use, is there anything he can say to convince the doctor that he really needs it? He really wants to try it and I want him to get it too but we're both worried he won't be able to.

J_9, I was afraid of that. I really hope it's o.k to mix his pills with viagra or else I don't know what we're going to do.

CONVINCING a doctor to get medication that a person may not benefit from is a bad idea. There are other methods. I'm just not sure how appropriate they are to list here.

Also viagra raises your blood pressure a bit for a short time frame, so it depends on how bad his blood pressure is.

Also this is normally for men who can not even get hard, is he getting off in 5 minutes, that is a different issue.

And age is not the issue with a doctor, it is the need. And cialas (spelling) is very good and does not have as much issue with the blood pressure, but still has some.

O man, it seems like we've tried everything else to make him last longer but nothing works. It's really frustrating for both of us, and at this point I'm beginning to lose interest in sex with him because I already know how bad it's going to be. He's going back to the doctors this week so I guess we'll see what happens. Thanks to everyone for your answers.

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Originally Posted by Bonita--

We have been having sex together since August of last year and he's always had a problem staying hard. He loses his erection 5-10minutes into it and this is literally everytime we have sex. He kept saying it was because he was worrying too much but after 6 months I had enough. I finally got him to go to the doctors yesterday and the doctor told him he has high blood pressure which is most likely caused by pills that he has to take because he has schizophrenia. He's going back on Monday to get some more tests done but I want to know what he has to do or say to the doctor to get viagra.

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So you want him to take viagra(which affects blood pressure) while he is already having blood pressure issues from another drug just for sex? You must be trying to collect on his life insurance.

I won't tell. ;)

I honestly wasn't aware that viagra affected blood pressure. I told my boyfriend about this and he still wants to try it by ordering online or something but I told him it's not safe and if the doctor says not to do it then he's not doing it because obviously his health is more important then sex. I should have known that viagra has risks just like every other medication but I just never thought about it before. Hopefully there are other solutions though since it seems unlikely that he will use viagra.

Please don't let him order it online. I have read news briefs where some of these online manufacturers sell you viagra that is actually sawdust.

Oh wow, that's scary. I would never let him order from online. I would feel HORRIBLE if something happen to him just because I wanted better sex.

Ok, I don't bring a lot of my personal life into this, but I use several of the varoius prescription items, each have good and bad parts to it.

But there is one over the counter item that actually works fairly well. It is called ZYYREXIN. If I am having money issues affording the one from the doctor I find this one works almost as well.

FR_Chuck, Thanks but today my boyfriend finally told me the truth about why he can't stay hard, and it's not a physical thing, so I guess there's no need for any medications. Thanks anyway though.

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If there is some stress or other issues, often the prescription helps if he even thinks about sex.

Well, he said he doesn't "feel" me all the time when we have sex. I've never had anyone tell me this before so I don't know what to do about it. I don't know if the medication would help in this situation..

That doesn't mean that he doesn't need Viagra, if he doesn't feel you "all the time" he may be losing his erection.

This may also be a way that he feels he can pass off some of his performance guilt. He should still talk to a doctor.

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That doesn't mean that he doesn't need Viagra, if he doesn't feel you "all the time" he may be losing his erection.

This may also be a way that he feels he can pass off some of his performance guilt. He should still talk to a doctor.

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I don't think viagra is an option though because of his high blood pressure. I thought that the fact that he's losing his erection had a lot to do with it too because I can't see a reason why I would be "loose". I haven't had any children and I haven't had a lot of sex in my life so I don't know what would be causing it. He also told me that when he feels the "looseness" he starts to think about my past and he thinks how the guys in my past were bigger than him and then it makes him feel bad about himself and he loses his erection completely. I don't know what's going on inside his head. It took him six months to tell me this because he was scared to hurt my feelings, and now it's like he's going back and forth telling me it's the feeling and then telling me it's because he's worrying. I think he's trying to go back on his word because he can tell I'm really hurt over this which is why he keeps saying he's worrying. But yea I'm going to tell him to tell the doctor what he's been telling me and see what he says about this.

I think that his complication, has more to do with him.

No woman is loose literally because of her sex partners.

Hmm, I don't really know what's going on with him. His blood tests came back showing nothing wrong, except we know he has high blood pressure but even the doctor said he thinks it's more mental than physical. The doctor recommended he could try some herbal medication though, I forget the name of it. It's supposed to help blood flow. I guess we'll try that and see how it goes. Thanks for your help.