Ask Me Help Desk - How to get over my thoughts of my girlfriend's past?

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Originally Posted by Ferghus

Talk to a shrink. OR

Find another GF. OR

Do what a LOT of us do... when we're bored... whatever... don't look at her face, look at your meshed genitals and imagine you're with someone else... or close your eyes and imagine you're doing something really naughty... like screwing a sheep or something, LOL. Hey, what ever works.

Try to focus on YOUR pleasure.... till you orgasm. She's obviously getting hers, so don't be shy about getting yours too.

If none of this works...

See a shrink, as you're seriously fudged up dude.

Lol. Well when I think about my own pleasure I way too fast. I want good, long sex. I don't want it to be the way it is. The situation I'm in is difficult. I had to hear details about positions she did with other guys and now when we have sex that's all I can think of, and I can't block it out because I care about her and I don't like to picture those things. I think it's all in my head I just have to figure out a way to over come it. I never felt this before so I have no idea how to get over it, but getting advice from people helps a lot.

It sounds like you really care about this girl and she cares about you. And honestly that makes a huge difference. A girl could be with a male porn star and the sex wouldn't be that great and then she could be with the average guy or even a smaller then average guy and the sex could be awesome because there is an emotional aspect to it... trust me this is true and real! Sex with someone you truly care about it way better then just with someone with a huge penis or crazy tricks and positions.

And like someone else said... are you thinking about your past partners while you are having sex with her? She isn't either! So don't worry about that.

Concentrate on being better than the other guys at everything you do, be happy she's had other partners and won't stray to find out what its like with others and know she is with you because you ARE better.

Hey you just need to remember that life is to short... you need to love her and just remember the past is the past. Yeah she was satisfied and? You can too trust me a woman loves to feel loved more than anything and if your not showing it to her she might let go...

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Originally Posted by DPP29

I posted awhile back about a problem I had with not being able to stay hard during sex. I figured out what it was and now I need some advice on how to get over it.

Before I got into a relationship with my girlfriend we were very close friends. She used to tell me about the sex she had with other guys and how good it was. It bothered me at the time because I always liked her, but I thought I would never have a chance with her. About two years after being just friends we started dating and I couldn't be happier. We didn't have sex the first 4 months of our relationship because I didn't want to just have sex with her, I wanted it to be something special. We have been trying now for 3 months and I feel horrible because I can't satisfy her. The reason I can't stay hard is because when we have sex I compare myself to the other guys in her past. I think how she loved the sex with them and I tell myself that I can't give it to her like they did. I also picture her having sex with them and it makes me go soft. We decided to take a break from sex until I can get these thoughts out of my head. I don't want to think like this I want to have good sex with her but I can't get these thoughts out of my head.

I never had this problem in the past. I have been with 5 girls before my girlfriend and the reason I never had this problem with them is because I didn't care about them. I didn't have feelings for any of them so I didn't care about their past and to be honest I didn't care if I satisfied them either. It sounds bad but I'm just being honest. Now my girlfriend thinks something is wrong with her because I was able to have sex with those girls and not her, but it was because I didn't care about them. Does anybody have any advice on how to get over this?

Any way I could get a hold of you? Talk about this not on here... got the Same situation going on in my life pretty much its kind of creepy just want to know how you handled this.