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How do I get rid of vaginsmus

I am 17 and I have been have sex for year now with the same guy. For a couple months now the front of my vagina started hurting. I looked it up and it said I had vaginsmus. I can't tell my parents because they wanted me to wait but is there a way I can get rid of it myself?

First self diagnosis is dangerous. You might think that's what it is, but only a doctor can accurately diagnose.

Second, at 17, you go to your OB/Gyn on your own and not have have your parents told why. They will know you went unless you pay for it yourself.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

First self diagnosis is dangerous. You might think that's what it is, but only a doctor can accurately diagnose.

Second, at 17, you go to your OB/Gyn on your own and not have have your parents told why. They will know you went unless you pay for it yourself.

I can't tell my parents because they are really strict. I was hoping there might be something else. I wasn't g

Self/internet diagnosis is VERY dangerous. Please seek medical attention.

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

I can't tell my parents because they are really strict. I was hoping there might be something else. I wasn't g

I am not going to get it checked out. I was just going to leave it go.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Self/internet diagnosis is VERY dangerous. Please seek medical attention.

If I don't get it checked out what will happpen?

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

I am not going to get it checked out. I was just going to leave it go.

It may be something serious that will affect your future sex life and even having children. Get it checked out!

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

I can't tell my parents because they are really strict. I was hoping there might be something else. I wasn't g

Again, you don't have to tell your parents anything, other than you want to see your doctor. Or go to a clinic and pay for it yourself. But you DO need to get it checked or you could be endangering your life, your ability to have children or your future sex life.

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Again, you don't have to tell your parents anything, other than you want to see your doctor. Or go to a clinic and pay for it yourself..

I don't know of any clinics around where I live. And I don't have the money to go.

Why do you have to tell your parents about your sexual activity? What you say to the doctor will be confidential between you and him/her.

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I don't know of any clinics around where I live. And I don't have the money to go.

I am in tears right now. You guys are scaring me with the truth and specially since I don't have the money to go do that.

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

I don't know of any clinics around where I live. And I don't have the money to go.

Where are you? Maybe we can find one. What about your boyfriend? He has a part in this. But the bottom line is you can't ignore this and NEED to get it treated.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Why do you have to tell your parents about your sexual activity? What you say to the doctor will be confidential between you and him/her.

I am scared to go to my doctor because they are really close with my family

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Where are you? maybe we can find one. What about your boyfriend? he has a part in this. But the bottom line is you can't ignore this and NEED to get it treated.

I love in kutztown pa. My boyfriend knows about it but he didn't think it was serious.

What makes you think you have this?

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What makes you think you have this?

Well I looked it up on Google. And my boyfriend sleeps over every other weekend and we have sex like twice a day but the second time it starts to burn really bad and when he pulls out I start to cry because it hurts. I he goes to put back I have to say no because it hurts to put it in.

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I love in kutztown pa. My boyfriend knows about it but he didn't think it was serious.

You can look up your symptoms on Google, but you can't look up clinics? Here's a Bing search that shows there are many clinics in your area.

clinics kutztown PA - Bing

Your parents do not have to know you are sexually active. All women have problems at various times with their "parts"(and so do men) without being sexually active. You can get a yeast infection without being sexually active. You DO need to see a doctor. Is there a Planned Parenthood near you? That could be the place for you to be checked because they are anonymous. Please, get it checked out.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

You can look up your symptoms on google, but you can't look up clinics? Here's a Bing search that shows there are many clinics in your area.

clinics kutztown PA - Bing

I know but I don't even think about going to a clinic or anything. For all I know I am just exaggerating and this is nothing. Because I also seen it might be because it was not wet enough. We did it different then usual so that might be way

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Originally Posted by Handyman2007

Your parents do not have to know you are sexually active. All women have problems at various times with their "parts"(and so do men) without being sexually active. You can get a yeast infection without being sexually active. You DO need to see a doctor. Is there a Planned Parenthood near you? That could be the place for you to be checked because they are anonymous. Please, get it checked out.

I know I do but the thing is I don't drive an neither does my boyfriend

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

I know but I don't even think about going to a clinic or anything. For all I know I am just exaggerating and this is nothing. Because I also seen it might be because it was not wet enough. We did it different then usual so that might be way

How many times have you cried when he tried to enter you a second time?

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

I know but I don't even think about going to a clinic or anything. For all I know I am just exaggerating and this is nothing. Because I also seen it might be because it was not wet enough. We did it different then usual so that might be way

does it sound like I have it or

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

I know I do but the thing is I don't drive an neither does my boyfriend

Then tell your mom you have an infection of some sort and want it checked out.

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

does it sound like I have it or

It sounds like nobody is going to be able to diagnose this for you online since we haven't examined you. It also sounds like you have gotten some good advice here but can't or won't follow it. What else can possibly be said at this point?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

How many times have you cried when he tried to enter you a second time?

Only a couple I usually just push him away. But the other day I went pee after and it burned as well. So maybe it isn't what I think it is

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

Only a couple I usually just push him away. But the other day I went pee after and it burned as well. So maybe it isn't what I think it is

I'm thinking it's something else, not vaginismus. Does he use a condom?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Then tell your mom you have an infection of some sort and want it checked out.

That's probably what I am going to have to do. How much does it usually cost

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

Only a couple I usually just push him away. But the other day I went pee after and it burned as well. So maybe it isn't what I think it is

What does it take to get through to you? What you are experiencing is not normal and you NEED to have it checked out before you do further damage to yourself.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I'm thinking it's something else, not vaginismus. Does he use a condom?

No:( that's the thing I hate. I am on birth control! And he has never cummed inside me

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

No:( that's the thing I hate. I am on birth control! And he has never cummed inside me

How did/do you get birth control if you have no money and no transportation?

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

What does it take to get through to you? What you are experiencing is not normal and you NEED to have it checked out before you do further damage to yourself.

Yes but I also exaggerate! A lot. So what I am saying this might not be what I am saying it is. I looked it up on Google and if anything I will talk to my Mother about taking me because my vagina has been bothering me

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How did/do you get birth control if you have no money and no transportation?

My parents put me on it to regulate my period.

So your parents are strict... you're scared to get checked out... have no way of getting there... somehow you're on birth control pills... ok.

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

Yes but I also exaggerate! A lot. So what I am saying this might not be what I am saying it is. I looked it up on google and if anything I will talk to my Mother about taking me because my vagina has been bothering me

Crying doesn't sound very exaggerated. (sarcasm)

And we want a report please that you went to a doctor and had this checked -- and tell us what it is.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

So your parents are strict...you're scared to get checked out.......have no way of getting there....somehow you're on birth control pills....ok.

Only reason for birth control pills is regulate my period. An my parents are strict with the no sex rule! And they drive me places but barely only if it is important

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Crying doesn't sound very exaggerated. (sarcasm)

And we want a report please that you went to a doctor and had this checked -- and tell us what it is.

If I remember to get back I will. I will talk to my boyfriend tomorrow and then text my mother because I don't live with her

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

Only reason for birth control pills is regulate my period. An my parents are strict with the no sex rule! And they drive me places but barely only if it is important

How do you manage your get-togethers with your boyfriend?

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

Only reason for birth control pills is regulate my period. An my parents are strict with the no sex rule! And they drive me places but barely only if it is important

And your parents allow this?

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Originally Posted by Tbell7012

Well I looked it up on google. And my boyfriend sleeps over every other weekend and we have sex like twice a day but the second time it starts to burn really bad and when he pulls out I start to cry because it hurts. I he goes to put back I have to say no because it hurts to put it in.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

How do you manage your get-togethers with your boyfriend?

Every other weekend he spends the weekend at my moms house with me. We sleep in the same bed and that's when it happens. My mom really has no clue we have had sex and I know that for a fact

This just keeps getting crazier...