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I'm 16 and scared

My stomach has been hurting a lot lately and I'm nasusa a lot and every time I eat something I feel like I'm going to throw it up. Im tired a lot and lazy. Im too scared to tell my mom or ask a teacher or friend for help. So what is wrong and what can I do? Im so scare

Why be scared? You need a doctor.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Why be scared? You need a doctor.

I want to go to the doctors but I don't have my licence until like in a few weeks. And I don't want my parents to come with me cause I'm afraid

What are you afraid of? Could you be pregnant?

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What are you afraid of? Could you be pregnant?

That thought has been in my mind considering I have had sex. My parents don't know that though. I am trying to be reasonable without trying tto focas on just that. But I really want to know what's wrong with me

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That thought has been in my mind considering i have had sex. My parents dont know that though. I am trying to be reasonable without trying tto focas on just that. But i really want to know whats wrong with me

And if you are indeed pregnant, then what? You might have to mention that to them.

You haven't taken a pregnancy test? Can't the boyfriend help you get one?

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And if you are indeed pregnant, then what? You might have to mention that to them.

Then I would tell them but I would tell them my own way despite hiw mad or upset they are at me I know they'll support me. And my boyfriend said if I am he would leave me because he says the baby wouldn't be his even though it would be.

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Then i would tell them but i would tell them my own way despite hiw mad or upset they are at me i know theyll support me. And my boyfriend said if i am he would leave me because he says the baby wouldnt be his even though it would be.

If you are pregnant by him, legally he will be responsible. A DNA test after the birth will confirm his fatherhood and responsibility.

How late is your period?

If you are pregnant and your boyfriend leaves you, and you choose to keep the baby, then you get a DNA test when the baby is born, and then take him to court for child support. He may not want to be the father, but he should have thought of that before he had sex with you.

My boyfriend has no money. His familyis getting effected by the lockdown

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Then i would tell them but i would tell them my own way despite hiw mad or upset they are at me i know theyll support me.

Then they will support you now too. Tell your mom you need to see doctor. If you are truly sick with something. That needs to be dealt with before it gets any worse.

Only your doctor can tell you what is wrong. You could just have a stomach flu.

Like a month late. But I have a history of late periods so I'm kind of edgy about that. And I told him that he would have to pay child support and he's like I don't have a job... and he doesn't even make a effort to get one

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My boyfriend has no money. His familyis getting effected by the lockdown

The lockdown will end long before any baby is born.

How long have you been feeling this way?

I have no way to get to the doctors. I would need to ask a friend but the only one I know of who can works a lot.

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Like a month late. But i have a history of late periods so im kind of edgy bout that. And i told him that he would have to pay child support and hes like i dont have a job....and he doesnt even make a effort to get one

If your period is a month late it's definitely time to take a pregnancy test. If you don't want to get one on your own, you could go to planned parenthood, if you're in the States and there's one near you. I'm sure one of your friends has a car, and can get you there, or you can take the bus.

If you do buy one, test using first morning urine, it's most accurate.

Ive been feeling this way for awhile. Id probably say early August which was like 3 weeks after I had intercoarse.

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Ive been feeling this way for awhile. Id probably say early august which was like 3 weeks after i had intercoarse.

Has he had sex with girls before you? He might have given you an STD.

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Ive been feeling this way for awhile. Id probably say early august which was like 3 weeks after i had intercoarse.

Here's the bottom line. We can ask you all sorts of questions, but there's no way we can tell you what's wrong. No one, not even a doctor, can diagnose online. It's impossible to do.

So you're going to have to help yourself. That means you either get to the doctor on your own, or you tell your parents. I would try a pregnancy test before that, but that's up to you. There's really absolutely nothing we can do for you other than give you the advice we've already given you, and wish you good luck.

Ok. This really helps me. Im just scared.

I don't think so. He barely tells me his personal things

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Ok. This really helps me. Im just scared.

That's understandable, and if you need to talk about that, we're more than willing to talk with you. But we really really can't tell you what's going on, there's no way to do that over the internet.

I would get a pregnancy test tomorrow. Many dollar stores sell them. Make sure you test with the first pee of the day, it's most accurate. If that test is negative you really need to see a doctor and figure out what's going on. That may mean that you have to tell your parents.

I'm a mom, my son is only a year younger than you. I would hope that he'd come to me if he were sick, no matter what might be going on. Would I be mad if I found out he was having sex and putting himself at risk? I can't lie, I wouldn't be happy about it. But I love him, and his health is more important than whatever anger I'll initially feel.

Talk to your mom and dad. You had sex, so you obviously thought you were mature enough to be an adult. Now you're really going to have to show that you're mature, and talk to your parents about this.

All right. Thanks for everything.

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Alright. Thanks for everything.

You're very welcome. Please come back and let us know how it all turns out. I'm hoping it's something minor, and I'll cross my fingers for you.

Take care.

So an update for today. This morning I threw up well more like spit up clear liquad and it had these brown things that didn't look like food chunks... and it was all perfectly spaced from on another. And I'm feeling worse then ever today

So have you taken a pregnancy test or seen a doctor yet like you were advised to do?

We cannot diagnose you online... you have gotten some good advice here and if you won't follow it, there is nothing else we can do or say.

My mom made a appointment today for me.

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My mom made a appointment today for me.

Did she give you the 3rd degree, lots of questions? How did you handle it?

She was mad all right. And she asked a lot of questions too. She is upset with me but I can't blame her.

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She was mad alright. And she asked alot of questions too. She is upset with me but i can't blame her.

I wouldn't say upset, the outer expression might seem like anger, but there are probably a bunch of other things. Concern, worry, fear, shame, and a bunch of other things. Probably wondering why you didn't come sooner, realizing why you probably didn't come sooner, and shame at that "why".

Short pain to figure out the long term problem here. You did the right thing.

Now all I have to do is wait for my appt. And my test results