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I have feelings for a girl with HPV.She has No physical signs and is being treated and has been for well over a year maybe 2 or even longer. I have 2 daughters ages 4 and 10. I'm a 32 year old male and she is 30. Can I have relationship with her? What about oral sex as well?

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Originally Posted by bubby104

I have feelings for a girl with HPV.She has No physical signs and is being treated and has been for well over a year maybe 2 or even longer. I have 2 daughters ages 4 and 10. I'm a 32 year old male and she is 30. Can I have relationship with her? What about oral sex as well?

What does her Doctor say? Are you saying you have 2 children with her?

HPV is passed through body fluid. What do you think about oral sex and body fluids?

Physical "signs" don't matter. Lab work does.

You can have a relationship with her, genitally as well as orally, but you do run the risk of contracting HPV.

I'm not sure what having 2 daughters has to do with this though.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

What does her Doctor say? Are you saying you have 2 children with her?

HPV is passed through body fluid. What do you think about oral sex and body fluids?

Physical "signs" don't matter. Lab work does.

My children are not with her and I know how oral sex works. It was just a question.

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Originally Posted by bubby104

My children are not with her and I know how oral sex works. It was just a question.

And you got your answer. If you know about HPV, and how oral sex works, I'm wondering why you asked the question to begin with.

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Originally Posted by bubby104

My children are not with her and I know how oral sex works. It was just a question.

I didn't tell you how oral sex works. You know how it works, and bodily fluids are involved.

So do you think HPV can be transmitted by oral sex?

I don't understand how your children are involved in this.

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Originally Posted by J_9

You can have a relationship with her, genitally as well as orally, but you do run the risk of contracting HPV.

I'm not sure what having 2 daughters has to do with this though.

My daughters are not with her as in ours and I read a lot on this and it talks about skin to skin contact. I mean I'm not a dirty person and I'll be safe about cleaning, I'm just curious..

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Originally Posted by bubby104

My daughters are not with her as in ours and I read a lot on this and it talks about skin to skin contact. I mean I'm not a dirty person and I'll be safe about cleaning, I'm just curious..

I'm curious about what you are reading. Here's another source: Information About Human Papillomavirus (HPV). I'm curious where it says skin to skin and doesn't mention body fluids.

Being clean/dirty doesn't matter. It's a VIRUS.

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Originally Posted by Alty

And you got your answer. If you know about HPV, and how oral sex works, I'm wondering why you asked the question to begin with.

I don't know about HPV and the way you answered the question you sound like a smartass.. Thanks but no thanks!

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Originally Posted by bubby104

I don't know about HPV and the way you answered the question you sound like a smartass.. Thanks but no thanks!!

Totally inappropriate - and if the choices are SMART a$$ or DUMB a$$, yes, Alty is one of the former.

And, again, what site says it's body to body contact, not bodily fluids?

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I'm curious about what you are reading. Here's another source: Information About Human Papillomavirus (HPV). I'm curious where it says skin to skin and doesn't mention body fluids.

Being clean/dirty doesn't matter. It's a VIRUS.

Honestly all I did was look it up and put (HPV and skin to skin contact) but thank you very much for the other source. She's a very sweet girl. I'm about to get out of the Army and we have been talking a lot. I've known her for 16 years.

If you are talking about genital warts, they can indeed spread via skin to skin contact if she is having an outbreak. But why would you want to risk your otherwise healthy genetalia?

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Totally inappropriate - and if the choices are SMART a$$ or DUMB a$$, yes, Alty is one of the former.

And, again, what site says it's body to body contact, not bodily fluids?

I'm very sorry for that comment. I took it wrong and I apologize. All I did was Google HPV and skin to skin contact. I don't remember the sight. Maybe one of those wikepedia

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Originally Posted by bubby104

I don't know about HPV and the way you answered the question you sound like a smartass.. Thanks but no thanks!!

Oi! I wasn't being a smarta$$. You got an answer, from a registered nurse no less!

I don't know what it is you're expecting to hear. Do you want the truth, or do you want to be told that it's okay, fine and dandy, no problem, you'll be okay? If you want the truth, you got it. If you want coddling, call your parents or your friends. Geesh! :(

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Originally Posted by J_9

If you are talking about genital warts, they can indeed spread via skin to skin contact if she is having an outbreak. But why would you want to risk your otherwise healthy genetalia?

That's a damn good question and I couldn't tell you and trust me I care about my gents but she says they (warts) are not there. I asked her what strain and she didn't know. Love does crazy things I guess:/

[QUOTE=Alty;3262989]Oi! I wasn't being a smarta$$. You got an answer, from a registered nurse no less!

I don't know what it is you're expecting to hear. Do you want the truth, or do you want to be told that it's okay, fine and dandy, no problem, you'll be okay? If you want the truth, you got it. If you want coddling, call your parents or your friends. Geesh! :([/ OK so I'm new at this website and must have sent the wrong person the wrong message for sure. I'm sorry. I've been off the titt for 32 years and no I don't need my hand held. The truth would help miss and I think I get it!!

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Originally Posted by bubby104

That's a damn good question and I couldn't tell ya and trust me I care about my gents but she says they (warts) are not there. I asked her what strain and she didn't know. Love does crazy things I guess:/

No, love makes people lie - or at least causes people to lie. I would go to her Doctor with her and the three of you should have a frank, honest discussion.

Find out the truth as it pertains to HER. Then make your decision.

You could also speak to your/her doctor about dental dams.

I would have post a link for you, but I can't from my phone. You could always look up dental dam. It goes into great detail about it and how it is used "properly".

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

You could also speak to your/her doctor about dental dams.

I would have post a link for you, but I can't from my phone. You could always look up dental dam. It goes into great detail about it and how it is used "properly".

Good luck.

Thank you and I've heard about the dental dam. I will check it out. Again I'm sorry for the comment. I'm new to this sight and didn't mean to offend you. You've been very helpful. I'm a mechanic in the Army so the smart a$$ comes naturally. I really am a respectable individual mam.

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Originally Posted by bubby104

Thank you and I've heard about the dental dam. I will check it out. Again I'm sorry for the comment. I'm new to this sight and didn't mean to offend you. You've been very helpful. I'm a mechanic in the Army so the smart a$$ comes naturally. I really am a respectable individual mam.

No worries. If I got upset about every post that was negative on this site, I wouldn't have the friends I have from this site.

I can move on, no problem at all. So let's forget about the past and move forward. :)

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Originally Posted by bubby104

Thank you and I've heard about the dental dam. I will check it out. Again I'm sorry for the comment. I'm new to this sight and didn't mean to offend you. You've been very helpful. I'm a mechanic in the Army so the smart a$$ comes naturally. I really am a respectable individual mam.

You're welcome.

You didn't offend me, or did I miss something?

Just and FYI regarding the dental dam. My lover used it on me before (out of curiosity) and I found it to be quite pleasurable. No. It's obviously NOT the same as a wet tongue, however, it still felt good and I was able to reach orgasm. So your girlfriend should still be able to experience pleasure. No need to worry about that.

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

You're welcome.

You didn't offend me, or did I miss something?

Just and FYI regarding the dental dam. My lover used it on me before (out of curiosity) and I found it to be quite pleasurable. No. It's obviously NOT the same as a wet tongue, however, it still felt good and I was able to reach orgasm. So your girlfriend should still be able to experience pleasure. No need to worry about that.

The offending part was directed at me, which is why I responded even though he quoted your post. :)

Now I'm off to Google the dental dam, and order one. :)

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Originally Posted by Alty

The offending part was directed at me, which is why I responded even though he quoted your post. :)

Now I'm off to google the dental dam, and order one. :)

Ahhh I see... I completely missed that one.

Who could ever offend a sweetheart, such as yourself? ;)

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Originally Posted by Enigma1999

Ahhh I see.... I completely missed that one.

Who could ever offend a sweetheart, such as yourself? ;)

You'd be surprised. :(

Apparently I'm not as sweet as some people think I am.

I can be.

I am when I think it's called for.

But most times I'm blunt little get right to the point Alty. Sometimes it doesn't go over well.

I know... shocking! Who could help but love me? ;)

Hahaha, now I'm making myself laugh. I can be a big b little itch, but never because I just want to be. I always have a reason, even if no one else understands that reason. But, if the person comes back, listens, responds, I'm very quick to forgive.

That's what's happening here.

Now that I've written a book, I do believe there's a beer in the fridge waiting for me. :)

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Originally Posted by Alty

You'd be surprised. :(

Apparently I'm not as sweet as some people think I am.

I can be.

I am when I think it's called for.

But most times I'm blunt little get right to the point Alty. Sometimes it doesn't go over well.

I know....shocking! Who could help but love me? ;)

Hahaha, now I'm making myself laugh. I can be a big b little itch, but never because I just want to be. I always have a reason, even if no one else understands that reason. But, if the person comes back, listens, responds, I'm very quick to forgive.

That's what's happening here.

Now that I've written a book, I do believe there's a beer in the fridge waiting for me. :)

Not to worry. We all have our quirks. I'm a saucy little Italian girl who tends to come off as being harsh. Now, about that beer... ;p

Ad long as there is no outbreak, you should be fine. I deliver babies to women with genitalia warts (herpes). If there is no outbreak they can deliver vaginally, however if there is an active outbreak they must deliver via c - section. The same goes with sex. As long as there is no outbreak you should be safe but should refrain from sexton during outbreaks.

I assume she is taking Valtrex?