She admits, he is a womanizer and chases after the ladies in the office, tickling them and making rude and dirty jokes.
She agrees that she was the person he hounded the most.
She kept it a secret from me for 3 years, and lied to me during 3 years, when I suspected.

In the same breath, she says, she rejected his advances and showed him a cold shoulder, but he never stopped, until the point that she he demanded of her to travel with him, and she reported him, but that never stopped him.

She also admits to have a got an ego boost and thrill out of this, and she felt a sense of appreciation from him, she knew how he felt and thought and he was sexually attracted toi him, she never entertained him. She was rude and arrogant to him.

She used that sword over his head to control him, and she was in actuall fact the boss, when she said sit, he would, when she said jump, he would.

There is more to this story, feel free to ask, I have just written the story in short form...

Does any of this make any sense, if she rejected his advances and bruised his ego, why did he still feel he had a personal right to demand she travels with him to work ? They work in a different town and we live in all in the same town.

How can she get any good feelings from someone she literally hated ?

She still denies he never touched her or made any sexual jokes with her as the other ladies, but still he hounded her most of all ?

My woman's intuition tells me that she is telling the truth. If she were having an affair she would hide the whole story from you. And there is no contradiction in hating a boss while letting him continue to try, because she has power over him and as she said, there's a certain enjoyment in knowing he wants her. (He has a bit of power too, as her boss, but depending on what country you are in, she could have him charged with sexual harassment.)

So my advice is to take her word for what it is, because if you don't, you stand a good chance of losing the marriage. If you can't believe her or have concrete proof that she is lying, then prepare yourself for divorce. Festering with suspicion is the middle ground and is no good for either of you, especially you. So you have a major choice to make - believe her or not believe her, and if you don't, then leave.

She did hide the whole story from me for 3 years, she has now been temorarily placed within the same department but in a different town, of recent. She had changed from this loving mother and wife into a verbal abuser, degrading me and belittling me. It all started of at a slow pace until of recent it just got worse, so, i was more suspicious, i sent her mail about 5 weeks ago on infedility.
She left work during her lunch hour and was running away out of town, walking on the freeway.

I managed to get her to talk to me on her mobile, convinced her to tell me where whe was and sent my son to collect her, while i kept her on the line.

We had a heart to heart converstaion and by the eveing, she told me about this story after 3 years.

Does it still make any sense ?